Scubadiva: ... or someone who's got a similar hobby or interest that involves dressing up in costume, going to conventions, going out in public in costume and spending lots and lots of time in front of the tube; having lots of paraphernalia in the house, etc.
It's not the same as having a fetish, just a very involved hobby.
How understanding are you of a date's hobbies? Would you get actively involved if your date/potential partner asked you to?
Greetings. I am a Trekkie, Ghostbusters and anything Sci-Fi related Geek fan.
As in all hobbies, you have your simple fans to the OMG are you serious Fan.
I feel I am borderline. I use to go to conventions, been in a few Trek Clubs and dressed up and such. The most I got out of it? Was the sense of Family or Unity. Finding that spot where people don't judge who you are or what you did, you had a common goal or ideal.
My first marriage was to a Fellow Trekkie and it was great, other things in the relationship caused us to divorced.
My second long term was to a non-Trekkie. God that was a hell of a five years. Lived in a town that didn't have Trekkies and she didn't want to discuss it. So, I suppressed my inner-geek. I do believe this was one of many points that lead to our break-up.
My current Fiancee is a Gamer Geek Girl and enjoys lots of Sci-Fi. Her mom is a Trekkie. The defining moment of when I knew I wanted to marry her? When I told her I was building an Ectomobile (Ghostbusters car) and she asked when she could drive it. That melted my heart.
So, for two people to be together, one must understand the hobby or even enjoy it, but don't smother the fun your other half has in doing it. That will just drive a bigger wedge between you both.
I hope this helped a bit on this discussion.
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