gingerb: I understand what you are saying here. Abusers are always believable, and consequently are perceived by the masses to be the victim. All this just multiplies the hurt for the real victim, often ruining their reputation as well as destroying years of their lives trying to recover from the effects of the deception.
Well I have been totally socially ostracised twice over by just about everyone we knew.Indeed I was so reviled by my ex father in law, all because of the most malicious lies his beautiful daughter told him, that he attacked me with a very large kitchen knife right in my own kitchen.I tried to tell him the truth but he just didn,t want to know,indeed he accused me of being the dirty liar.Later on I found out that he did realise I was the one telling the truth,but he never ever would have admitted it to me personally because that would have meant sying he was sorry and he was far too proud and arrogant for that.
A friend of mine says it is not a case of we hurt the one we love the most,but rather we hate the one we hurt the most.We hate out victim because our victim makes us feel bad about what we have done to him or her,and so we try to punish them by hurting them more....then hate them more....hurt them more.Tis a vicious circle which can and does quite often have a tragic end.
This is where serial domestic violence can escalate until somebody is killed. So nip it in the bud,get out and stay out,right out,no second chances.Cheating is another type of violence,so the solution is the same.
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