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I guess I might come across as a bit of a lewser , but I stayed in on Saturday nursing my headcold and a small case of the blues...I will however admit that I had a nice time just chillaxing and watching movies online in my jammies.
There's something to be said for enjoying your own company if the prospect of a good date doesn't present itself. I would much prefer to spend my Saturday with a good book, a glass of merlot and a bubblebath than to go out with someone less than worthy. Gotta hold out for that quality when quantity brings little more than cads with an agenda--hahaha.
That being said, I am kinda hoping that I might have a decent Saturday night date again sometime soon...



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Love Timmy's! Who doesn't unless they are anti-coffee.

Do you like romance? Or is it all cheese to you?


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Oops--not quick enough on the draw--lol.

Fave animal? The peacock--so gorgeous and incredibly pompous.

Same question...TV or computer--make your choice!


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Love the WAG (Winnipeg art gallery)--I want to go again but nobody is cool enough to want to go with me! As for the museums out here, I haven't been yet but the Glenbow in Calgary is awesome. I was privileged to see the Egypt display when it came--thousand year old mummies and the whole works!
It's fantastic to be able to see a pieces of our history.

I would spend time on a deserted island with YOU because I already know you are a gentleman and a great conversationalist! As for the sexual part, I think I already told you that I'm saving myself for marriage...LOL


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If you had to pick between having a TV or a computer, which would it be??


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Hey fellow Winterpeggers! I was starting to think that we were a rare breed on here. I would be down for a good beer night at a local bar. If we get a few more Peg people on this forum to want to go, we could make a fun night out of it.
Keep us posted!



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Is it just me or does it seem like some men equate intimacy with sex?
The two are not the same as I see it!
Pillow talk after a night of just sex and casual dating is definitely not something that I would classify anywhere near intimacy.
I think that what you said hits the nail on the head, Jane.
Intimacy is openness, honesty and respect. Being open about your sexual fantasies when on a casual date doesn't quite seem to be intimate talk to me.
In my experience, many of the men I've known have been afraid of true intimacy...you know, letting your guard down and allowing yourself to really feel love and respect a woman for who she is not only in body but in mind and soul too! By the same token, I think it freaks alot of women out too because it suggests that you need to be truly vulnerable.
Casual dating and intimacy? I don't think it's gonna happen.
When I meet the man who loves my quirks and wants to know about me beyond what my clothing hides, that's when I'll be ready for intimacy.
Casual dating for me does not allow things to go deeper. I think this is why it seems that having sex too early and too casually in a relationship can ruin it.
I know that for me, I want my sex to include real intimacy, trust and respect--this seems to be missing from the casual dating I've encountered thus far.
Here's hoping we all find a little slice of true and valued intimacy soon!



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Leave it!
Unless the person you are saying goodbye to is someone you know is better off hitting the road!!


One night stands?


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Proud to be a bitch too, lovely lady!
I will always stand up for what I believe in and celebrate the rest of the women who take this less popular road with me.

I salute all the bitch ladies with guts--I admire you!


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Thank you all for your input...as always, much appreciated.
Regarding the 'women as pie' comment made in an earlier thread that I mentioned, don't worry--I am quite relaxed. It was not directed at me, so I did not take offense in that capacity.
The reason I mentioned it is that there are those of us who will be offended by those kind of comments about women and I make no apologies for that. Guys have their ways of talking to each other and making jokes but I'm sure alot of you don't realize how demeaning seemingly innocent comments can be--especially when posted for public viewing.
I have no desire to get into any public forum arguments (I won't go there), but I will speak my mind where I feel I should.
I'm not trying to crucify anyone here, but I am giving my honest opinion...I thought that maybe this might be the reason we have these forums in the first place, no?
No, not all men are only after sex.
No, not all men are gonna make comments that offend women on purpose.
But there are alot. It's those ones that I am encouraging people to talk about in this thread.
I also look forward to hearing more from the ladies out there.
Have a great day!


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Looks like I've stirred things up a bit--lol. It was my intention for sure. I did not mean to bruise the egos of any males that may have come across my thread and despite my attempts to clarify that I don't mean *everyone* when I say I'm sick of guys coming at me for sex, people have still become personally offended.

Pucks and Dougie, please note that I never pointed a finger at either of you but for some reason you both got a little defensive.
I don't mind the chatting I've done with either of you...but I will admit I was rather icked out by the crudeness of one comment on Dougie's happy bday thread about wishing him luck in "finding some nice pie" or something to that effect.
I've always been especially fond of my sex being referred to as some kind of dessert or thing to be consumed and discarded...
It's too bad that this kind of thing is so common and yet I'm sure I'm not the only one to find this a bit offensive.
As far as us ladies not being able to recognize a diamond in the rough when it is before us, I beg to differ. I'm afraid that taking your word for it that you are a great guy is not the only thing that can make someone trust you and love you. When we have the time to get to know you (and if we find that you are a good fit--and you, us) then that wil be the true test.
Best of luck to all, and this will be the last time I defend the fact that I am not considering every male in online dating sites to be a sex hunter.



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I think things do happen for a reason...good and bad.
That reason?
Learning!
All the joys and sorrows of life bring a meaning with them...the trick is to see what that might be for you.
The hardest thing for me lately in finding meaning in my 'thing that happened' was realizing that what I wanted to happen wasn't going to...for a reason.
It is so easy to be blinded by your love for someone.
It was only afterwards (and in the painful moments) that I saw that I didn't end up with the man I loved because we weren't right for each other. Ultimately, I wouldn't have been happy with my guy...in fact, in all honesty, I hadn't been for some time. I guess it's easier to put the blinders on sometimes and try to accept the hand you've been dealt.
I can see now that there is meaning and value in all that I've experienced and continue to every day.
Have a great day!




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I want to stress again that I'm not saying that this is *all* men on dating sites that are all about the fling!
I certainly do not think all men are looking for this. Unfortunately, the scads of guys looking for 'pants love' give the ones looking for a meaningful relationship that may lead to more a bad name.
We are not discussing those men here...simply the ones who clearly only want one thing. I have encountered literally hundreds (not tooting my own horn, it's true)of guys who were ultimately looking for this since making dating profiles. It doesn't flatter me any more, believe me.
It's depressing but a fact that the internet seems to be turning into a breeding ground for this kind of thing. One should always be very careful...and selective.
For those of you seeking meaning, search on--I wish you all well.



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Thanks, Sunny!
I realize there are always a few diamonds in the rough...it's a matter of digging through the dirt first though--lol.
I know that there are a few good ones here too, just like on the other sites. It's a shame that most of them tend to use the internet as a means for a quick hook up.
The sad day will come too for those men that use sex with women to fill the void inside--they will one day wake up and find that they may have missed out on something meaningful during their unending pursuit of the 'peice of ass'.
For those dudes that cruise the sites looking for lonely women seeking love and use manipulation to get what they're after, I hope that day comes soon.


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I really want to stress something here because I think it might be easy to confuse things:
I don't personally have issues with people who have typos and use lower case letters when on msn and forums. Let's face it, sometimes you just wanna be fast and get to the point. If I'm chatting with friends on msn, I don't go for perfection--it's about speed.
Having good punctuation on forums is cool for sure, but not as important as when emailing a potential love interest.
I guess what it comes down to is that when I am first meeting someone, I like to see that effort. Like arthurdent said, it's not 'sweating the small stuff' (thank you, Dr. Carlson--lol), it's about seeing the personality of the individual you're talking to.
Do they want to bother to make a good impression? Do they care what you think? Are they intelligent, articulate and well spoken?
I can only speak for myself, but these are very important to me--not perfection in spelling!!

ps--No new dating news for me. I have decided to increase my standards (reasonably), so I have decided that patience will be more likely to reward me than settling! Oh and btw...never been happier!


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Hello beautiful ladies,
I guess I'm admitting it: I'm effing sick of feeling like 98% of the time a man tries to get in contact with me on almost all dating sites is to see if they have a chance to merely hook up with me.
I know that there are exceptions to this rule (I hope you know who you are, you are lovely and rare)...I have met some very polite, decent and respectful guys on these sites, but they are so few and far between that this girl is damn near giving up!
Is it so unheard of in this day and age to ask for mutual respect, admiration, honesty, communication and even (gasp!) love, before deciding to become intimate with someone?
I have witnessed and experienced both sides of the spectrum and have to admit here, before all of you, that I want love--not a lay. Thanks, I can take care of it myself lol
I have decided that for me personally, I will be waiting until I meet someone worthy of me and the love I have to give before I go further. I guess I love myself enough to realize I deserve better---I hope that many of you will come to see this about yourselves too!
For those of you just out for a good time with a guy, cool-- more power to you--I do not judge and wish you well. For those of you deciding that you are looking for something more, tell me that you dig what I'm saying and let me know how you feel, one woman to another. You are all beautiful--have a great day!



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You may find too that just because some people are looking for funny, kind, honest, attractive and trustworthy people that it doesn't mean that they themselves are lacking in it!
I think that I am all of those things to some degree but there is always room for improvement, just like everyone else.
If you become involved with someone who doesn't share your sense of humor, then perhaps you are with the wrong person.
Perhaps the person you don't find funny will be hilarious and a joy to be around for others.
I think we are all works in progress and have our own special lists of what makes a person right for us.
I think what will make that person "Prince or Princess Charming"--or "right"for you will ultimately be their ability to encourage you to grow into a more well rounded and fulfilled person but not do it for you.
As far as people not being able to see what is "under their noses", I think that it may be true for some. For the majority of us however, I think that not only are we aware, but we have already listened to our instincts and decided that he/she may not be right for us even though they are 'right there'.
I guess we'll know when we know.


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Haha...ok, then.
I guess I should point out that while I do like spelling and grammar, that I do not expect perfection from myself or others...only an effort.
I'm not usually one to nitpick about small typos---how lame is that? When people are making an effort, it won't matter to me to see that they may have missed a stroke of the keyboard.
I am actually kind of glad that so many men bypass this common courtesy (spelling, not using "u",etc.) when contacting me...it makes it alot easier to take note of the guys who might just have some potential!



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I'll have one of each please!

No, I'm kidding--I think that men in uniform are very gorgeous and the fact that being a firefighter or cop gives you the hero status to boot is always appealing.
Honestly though, when it comes to dating either, I would be a bit reluctant. I am not saying that I would avoid it because the right one for me will be the right one regardless of his profession...I am a confessed worry wart though--the idea of my man doing battle with criminals or fire would be enough to give this girl a sleepless night or two.
Regardless of this, I admire them both.


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Amen, sista!
Good for you for rising above. Honestly, I have no idea which thread was the offending one and don't need to know.
Anyone who uses this site as a means of belittling others whos opinions, morals, values and beliefs differ from theirs is cearly missing the point altogether.
I am here to celebrate the differences in myself and others, personally. I enjoy starting and commenting on threads that have some meaning to me and try my best not to offend others while standing up for my beliefs at the same time. Life is too short to get caught up in wars with people in any form really--I hope that you will find some peace now.
A friendly word of advice? If you ever find yourself on the receiving end of someone else's nastiness and issues again here, I would simply avoid that thread or that person (or people) where possible. If it were me, I'd block and delete--silence is ofen a very effective way of winning the war without ever fighting.
Killing them with kindness is another one! ;)




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Oooh, awesome! Would love to hear your Johnny Cash at karaoke sometime Dougie--I'll do my Dido impression for you. I clean up good-haha.
I also forgot to ask people if anyone writes music and sings that too! I do--but only a select few have heard my stuff and I haven't performed more than 5 publicly, but that was for school music performances.
I am perfectly happy wrting stuff that I enjoy singing and playing on my guitar just for me, my friends or my daughter.
I fell in love with the idea of being a singer (still have that little fantasy in there somewhere)--but not the lifestyle. Eww. Lotsa bars, lotsa drunks--not enough cash unless you go hardcore and there are NO guarantees.
I shall settle instead for being a livingroom/car rockstar and the occasional karaoke queen.



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