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druidess6308: Most of the men I've been with long term know that something's very wrong when I go into "Yes, Dear" mode. Anyone who truly loves me knows that is not me, and wouldn't want me to be like that. Good luck, Lonely1. And welcome back. I've missed you on here.

seekingasoulmate: You are overthinking everything too much. I wouldn't want to be in a relationship with someone who had all of that on their mind. Relaxand let things happen, don't sweat the small stuff. One step at a time

LethalLove: Each to their own, and if one's religious or cultural beliefs sit with marriage...yeehaa for them.

Me?

Not a bloody hope in hell...our laws are so twisted now that you have to pay settlement/property/alimony costs for when you split up with your mistress...so marriage is irrelevant, and redundant.

My personal views are that marriage is a patriarchal out dated farce....and the divorce rates show that.

virgiomonkey: ......Come on Dude, don't give up to easily with Sommer....

J.D

LethalLove: I can't answer that! Only you can.For us, if either of us are saying yes dear...we know we are being sarcastic..

Ours is volatile, passionate, real... We're two intensely confident and capable people, who have individual opinions, but a deep respect for the individuality of each other.

There's no secret formula...it just is what it is...we live, laugh, fight and love deeply, is all.

LethalLove: Better a grieving husband that knows he DID everything he could...rather than a grieving husband wondering IF he could have done more.

LethalLove: We've never stopped valuing each other as friends....even when I want to bang him over the head with the frying pan....and he wants to push me off a cliff.

He's my best mate..I can tell him anything, and I do....so does he...(and half the time I wish he wouldn't ).

7 years.... yes, with separation in the middle...even when we weren't lovers and partners...we were the best of mates...and still are, now, again as partners.

babyoh150: i was with someone for 15 yrs. married for 5 of them. No kids so I can only give opinion on that. Things started to slip after we bought the house. he seemed to give up on life and we tried councelling together and seperate....didn't work. he wasn't willing to do anything to help marriage out.
If you have tried getting help and your spouse isn't trying then why not try a seperation. Then she can see what it is like without you and if she will make an effort to get you to come back.
It took me 2 yrs of agony to make my decision to leave. I am happy now, even though I am still alone. I spend more time with friends and family.
No matter the age of kids I don't believe it is healthy for them to see an unhappy relationship. they are more likely to think that is the way it should be when they grow up.
Be civil if you leave as the mother will always be in the picture.
Some ppl who divorce get along better as friends and the kids thrive.
The decision is hard. Talk to friends and spouse about your thoughts. Might make decision easier.
Good luck

Scubadiva: Easy. You just change your set up settings to whatever country you want to claim to be from. Heck, I move around a lot and do it all the time.

DaisyChick: I find it weird that when you find a "connection" with someone that most men on this site get freaked out. I wonder what the real purpose behind these profiles really are. I've been around this site (and forums) for over a year and without fail every single time I talk with someone that is capable of a decent conversation they get freaked out if they "feel" anything more than just a friendship. Why are people really here? I truly believe that it doesn't have anything to do with the person on the receiving end (IN MY CASE... unless I am just in some weird little sheltered world). I'm starting to believe that guys seek out "GOOD" girls and then once they get them they run.

My question is why??

For over a year I have had my profile saying that I am strictly here for forums and friends. That has changed within the last month, I'm tired of focusing only on school. I thought I was ready for something more... until I've had a few experiences of men not being able to handle a decent "intelligent" conversation. It's like everything goes great until they realize how compatible we could actually be and that I am not willing to "play games." I consider myself to be on the high end of "good girls." I am working hard in school (as many of you may know). Is it possible that men aren't willing to share my time? (I have to put schoolwork and studying first. At 32 years old it's time to build a future and career for myself regardless of any relationship). This does not mean that I am not willing to share this life with someone else. This just means that I must find someone that understands that I need more than someone to love. I must love myself too! (And be happy with the choices I make in life.)

Any thoughts on this? Could it intimidate people?

LethalLove: hahahaha I thought of a few more...Men with IQ's less than their shoes size.

Men who spend 30 gazillion hours whining about their ex.

Men who wear Brut or Old Spice aftershave.

Men who have a 'flavour saver'AND a combover.

Men who think that shaved chests are sexy.

Men who brag they are great lovers...but are 'done' in 10...9...8...7....6...seconds.Ok..I'll stop now...

TheKid52: It is always darkest before the dawn! Not much point in living in misery which will spill over onto the children and have a bad effect on them. When its over its over and that is that. You have to move on and work harder than ever before as you will have to maintain the family home and the kids and pay for a place to live for you too! No roses but at least freedom, no luxeries either. It is lonely out there is there no hope of another shot at making things work with the lady you once loved? Look long and hard and deep surely there is a fibre of what you once saw that can rekindle love! Best wishes and good luck. I will pray for you to make the right decision.

TheKid52: The site is brilliant and lots of very well educated people on here to chat with. I find that some of the guys want you to stop contact with others when they have sent a few mails in. they are afraid of loosing you. I love it here I can loose a couple of hours and not notice it, lots of interesting topics.Its a family atmosphere, its not cheating on anyone. I link on to see friends and see how they are doing. It is free after all and I dont have to wait for the postman to deliver or not as the case maybe. when you are in trouble there will always be someone on here to tell your troubles to and they do care. We care!