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all of these teachers that can.t even disciplne children in they're own class ..16 and 17 year olds with crap education already shooting one another over drug wars the new terrible " yu get me blood " national school languge that they're all using now instead of talking properly...parents beig afraid to take of their belt to children in case the government jumps on then !..its outrageous .. bring back public flooging for certain crimes outside local town halls at 5pm ever friday evening i say its time to discipline these young people for a changejavascript:emot('');

While we welcome all of the new people, just wondering who is actually still here...lots of hidden profiles too, very misleading. Just a different roll call.

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Hey Congrats !!!!

My daughter did that with her dad. Don't encourage it, they get to thinking they can do it with other people. Young and cute doesn't last forever.

Someone very close to me is an alcoholic, yes not practicing now. Thank God. But it was a horrible 10 years. He has left the friends behind. He had to. He's been clean and sober for 2 years.
In fact he just finally got his license back after taking every correct step he could. That mean't riding a bike in the pouring rain back and forth to work. Even though he was a foreman on a job. Very hard for a man to do this. It took alot of willpower to NOT climb in that truck of his and just drive....but he didn't...
During that 10 years, in and out of jail for fights, dui's, stupid things that made no sense to me....
In a 2 month period he totalled 2 vehicles. Lost part of his face. I sat for six weeks picking glass out of his body. And taking him to a plastic surgeon, watching as they cut off the pieces as they died, after the Doctor had so meticulously sewed them back on after an officer had found them at the accident site. They just didn't want to live there anymore. Maybe a reminder in the future of what alcohol abuse can do.
I thank god that the only person he physically hurt, was himself. And not some family that drove down the street on their way home from grocery shopping.
After his face was almost healed, the sheriff came and got him from my house...It was right before Christmas.
3 times a week, without fail, for the next year, he called me from prison. I listened to him as he became sober...the full impact of what he had done to his life, very apparent in his words as we spoke on the phone...
The day he got out of prison, I was there to pick him up...to be a witness to his journey in sobriety. To be proud of his babysteps toward a better life. Even though the pain I felt was deep and intense, was so proud of him....Felt so lucky he was alive...
And I'm proud of him today...As he is sober...today...and I hope the same for tomorrow...
This man works very hard at staying sober, and yes that took changing his friends and alot of thoughts about what is important and what is fun in this life....
This man is my son

Do you think it a good idea to have a group of friends or acquaintances, that you can rely on,

or,

do you think it is better to be independent, and go it alone?

I thumbed it from Edmonton Alberta to Peterborough Ontario. Then I thumbed it from Windsor Ontario back to Edmonton. Met some really cool people along the way, and some really weird one's. I was younger when I did this. Anyone else thumbed it a great distance? Oh ya, it took me 4 day's for each trip! Not bad considering how far it was and the fact I was hitching!

Haven't had a cigarette in 3 days now. It's tough when living alone

As to how long it lasts, we'll see

Well, we obviously have quite different views on the topic.

On the smoking issue I don’t believe that nicotine is all that addictive (some yes, but nothing a normal person can't break away from if they *really* want to).

I believe that the major addition to cigarettes is mental. Not to say that it’s not a powerful addition. Habits are hard to break. But most people who believe they can’t quit smoking really can, they just don’t know how. And if they convince themselves that it’s difficult that only makes it that much worse because it is a mental addition.

The main reason that people can't quit is simply because they don't have the willpower. Period amen. Physically they *can* do it if they *really* want to.

I always say, "Where there's a will there's a way", or to state that another way, "If you can't find the way, then you haven't the will".

On the relationship issue, I never think in terms of blackmail. The other person isn’t ‘changing’ who I am. Neither am I changing who I am. I simply behave differently when I’m with a partner than when I’m not.

It makes a huge difference to me to have someone to share life with and to not have someone to share things with.

When I’m alone I don’t feel like going out at all.

When I have a partner I’m dragging her all over the place.

She’s not dragging me.

Just having her in my life changes my desires.

That’s who I am, and who I will always be. I’m a partner-oriented person. Not everyone is.

In fact, many incompatible relationships are due to the fact that a partner-oriented person hooked up with a person who is not partner-oriented. They have no clue why it didn’t work out. But they were doomed to failure from the get go.

I won’t even talk to a woman who doesn’t need a partner in her life. I’m incompatible with those women and I know it. They are better off with a man who doesn’t need a partner in his life either.

All people are not the same.

I work with a gentleman that REFUSES to admit he ever makes mistakes. He will not accept constructive criticism, advise or help. He just continues to do things his way (wrong) and when confronted, blames someone else. This has now gotten out of hand and is costing the hotel money because of reservation errors. As office manager, I was told today by the owner either get him to change or fire him.

My question is what makes a person refuse to accept responsibility for his actions? Help me to understand why he can't admit to making mistakes like the rest of us.