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I would take it very slow. Usually guys who are that enthusiastic want one thing...sorry guys...you know most of you do.....

Unless, you Need a dinner then I would take a few times on the phone lets say 3 times to get a better idea of who the dude is. If he loses interest or starts to get pushy...bail, bail, bail.

Any man who is truly interested or at least a nice man will be nice too. End of story.

Plus the advantage for you of talking several times on the phone is that you will start to pick up if you are digging him and if you are not be good to yourself and him tell him you are sorry but are not feeling it.

It is very hard to meet someone online but I guess it can happen.

good luck,






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Regarding who pays? It seems that everyone is for paying your own way.

My view is that both parties should plan on paying their own way. Sometimes the guy offers to pay for the lunch then the girl should step up and offer to pay for coffee or the movie. It shows that the girl is a thinking and caring person.

If I am not sure about a guy but he offers to pay for coffee or whatever he immediately earns a couple of points. Not so much because he paid but because he shows his generosity of spirit.

Guess what? that could tip the scales if I want to continue talking and seeing this person.

If it is a first date and he asked you he should be ready to pay for the entire date. As I said before the girl should help too if she can.

If you are going to date then you need to have some disposable income or don't date. It costs some money to go out.

Dating is all about getting to know the person not worrying about money. Plan economical dates if money is an issue.

my 50 cents worth.

take care,





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Yes, you are going to end up in the same place.

The difference between just having sex to have sex or having sex to make love is the road you take to get there.

The road you take to get there for example is that you get to know each other and see if you are a match and should take it to the physical level.

When you have sex after then you are sealing the deal that you are planning to stay awhile...or for as long as you live would be nice.

Having someone who is supportive and goes for the can of chicken soup when you are sick.

This is called a relationship not just a relationship for right now.

As you get older you start to understand this is not a rehearsal.

Good luck find a good partner! be picky.




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You have the right idea. Now a days it is so hard to meet people and offering to have a cup of coffee should not have had such a reaction.

It looks like he freaked out thinking he was going to have to marry you right away...lol or he has problems with socializing..and small talk.

Either way you were not in the wrong and you know that now though.




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Let me start by saying I am so very sorry. I can't put myself in your position but I will try.

I guess Most of the people on here are looking for love and connection. I have a conditon too but so far not in the danger zone. Still, it is an issue. I guess Everybody needs love and we are still alive so no you don't need to say anything about your ordeal unless you absolutely know it is terminal. On the other hand, once you date someone more than once it is probably a good idea to let him know about your situation. It is only fair.

Hope that helped.

God Bless!



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I think on this site that if there is no picture they may not be doing this site anymore. So don't feel bad if you get no response. They probably didn't see it.




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So sorry, but I too have had no luck on these darn online free sites. I don't think the paid ones are much better.

I have been addicted to them. I think I am on my way back to my old life. Sad sometimes but not upset.

Okay, this is what my suggestion is. I would say you need to focus on things for yourself. Funny how in order to find someone you have to find yourself.

Join groups, such as volunteer groups, hill country group, meetups, or perhaps try Yoga at ruta maya international coffee house.

If you can stay on these sites and not get upset or too addicted...who knows their are some success stories out there...I just don't know if it for me.

I even had to tell myself I am destined to be an Old Maid...only to get my mind in a different direction! lol Well, I hope not, that would be too sad. I am 44.

Also, pray if you believe in God..that is all I hear is to pray and not look....I just have a hard time believing but the alternative has not worked yet.

good luck,



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to celtic lady. You put down all the stuff I have also had to endure, pressure from society and then it pressure me into thinking something must be wrong with me.

I wonder if misery loves company. Who knows married people might be envious of our single life just can bare to be alone. Of late, I am finding out that my own company is not too bad and until I can find My Soulmate I need to remain calm and then maybe he will come along. We will see how long this lasts.

They say it is all for a reason but when a woman sees herself getting older and looks around and sees no prospects..it can be depressing. Got to resist and focuse on something else...like yoga, self improvement, books....etc.

great reply,
thanks again,



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Thanks for your reply: I guess it is not easy. It is kinda like looking for the fountain of youth. I wish when we were born we already had our partner picked out for us....but then it wouldn't be life I guess....darn it!





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What is your definition of a soulmate? and could it be possible we cannot find him or her because we have not done the work on ourselves. For example: finding our true calling or purpose first.

Could it be we are what is standing in our own way?



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Please read through some of the forums subjects especially anything todo with players etc.

I know there are success stories but it is Really hard to judge whether or not you will like the person when you meet face to face and visa versa.

I am on a couple of other sites and made the mistake to try craigslist and All of them have been a bust.

I may feel better in the morning, but frankly for Me it has just been a lot of high expectations and nothing, nada...

Be careful and Do Not get your hopes up and be real careful of giving out personal information too.

Think about it why can't these men meet woman out in the world??? I know why can't we???? still...something to think about...

My 6 months experience should I try some more...lol




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keep showing up once in a while. Maybe over time she will get use to you and maybe talk to you more. Ask her when she takes her break and if you could join her.

(plan b)Then if she doesn't offer you her number then tell her you would like to talk to her some more when she is not working. Then smile and give her a small card or cute card with your number and good times to call....

Then back off a little and see what happens.

If nothing comes of this don't worry you tried.

Remember at this age she may not be able to date or who knows...




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Re: what is this site about? online hoping to date??? Well, for one thing, at least for me, not much going on. I got some views from people in another town or state? what's up with that?

The forums have gotten started up and those seem to be moving along ok.

Good luck and watch out for fakers or those who take up all your time and never meet you. Watch out for scam letters. Never send money, never give out personal information that can be used to steal your identity.

I am still trying to meet folks online but it is really hard to find ones that meet criteria even minimal.

There are a few people who are seriously looking and there are some success stories but no guaranteeds.

Just my perspective thus far. If you are looking for your soulmate you have to go through a lot of duds to get there it seems.


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You are more cornball than I...lol

it is just an expression...really...




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Wow! so sorry. I am the sensitive emotional type myself. Sometimes the situation is not always as bad as we think. We have to take some time to heal some and then try to move on even if the heart does not yet.

You might need some mental health days here and there instead of going to work if you can take them.

Hope it passes soon.

The only time I was not my usual self (sick) was when I tried to like someone who was so All wrong. It was a good lesson because now I know what it will be when it is All Right! lol

See there is good to be found even in the worse of circumstances.


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I totally understand...we are in a pickle....lol or no pickle...just being cornball...oops...

Love yourself though is the main thing!

What does that mean? It means we will try real hard not todo anything or continue anything that is not in our best interests....of course after giving it a try...

Observation and time always tells the truth in a situation.

What the heck....men need us really...but for some reason we think we need them.




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Some good advice already posted about waiting for him to find you!!! or like they tell me pray about it.

Still, not that I am doing it but find out what you want, what you like todo. Go ck out the local bookstore, volunteer, have game night with girlfriends, pamper yourself, exercise.

then we you do meet someone you will have so much to talk about...instead oh all I do is sit in front of the tv...couch potatoe.

Most important try to find inner peace. If you can find that most of your loneliness will be easier to deal with.

Hope this helps.

I too am waiting for my prince to save me...but starting to realize I have to start saving myself too!!

Love yourself and someone will love you too!


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Because they are ugly? Just kidding. Some reasons are that they may hold a prominent post and don't want their pic out there on the internet. Sometimes they will send you one if you start e-mailing. Sometimes though even if the pic is current the person can look different in person.

Lots of fakers too so watch out! Some send pics of models etc...I haven't experienced it here but....

It's tought this online dating...or trying to date...

Keep all options open you never know..

I would try to find out if at least they meet your height criteria and ethnicity if that matters which it might...save everybody alot of trouble.

I would do the phone call if it gets that far...you can tell alot about a person on the phone before meeting....





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I am in my 40's so I can only give you what I would be looking for. For whatever reasons I have yet to find the one.

When I find him I hope him to be able to make me laugh, have depth, character, lots of love to give, and cherish me.

I guess it is never to late to start and it seems you are on the right track. Find the girl who wants to talk and wants to know you. It will be difficult in you age group so just for now meet girls and then you will be able to tell the difference when the right one comes and then you will be able to pick out the best one for you!

Don't be too needy, as that for some reason turns people off.

Tip: girls want to get out, so scan the events in your town, movies etc.


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You seem like pretty romantic person. I think when you realize that you have to love yourself first and foremost. Then you can truely love someone else.

I am in my 40's and I think I have only just begun to realize that I really need someone more than just to have someone. I need someone to share my life with...life is short.

I believe you are 29? You still have time. Find what you want. Date so you can find out what you don't want. Find someone kind, supportive, similar outlook, and someone who can't wait to see and be with you for all the right reason....

Yes I totally understand. I feel like I am dying too. Then I realize that it is All preparation for the Crazy Love.

The longer you go without the more Joy there will be when you find it. Imagine that...boo hoo....

Glad some guys feel the same way. Too bad you are not in my age range.

BTW, Not that I have even been remotely close at all. I imagine that you have to try and of course if it worked out with everybody then we would all be with everybody...right. Keep looking! or Pray as they tell me todo. I have not been praying enough or it is just not my time.

Take care,





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