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Hi Nanny Take it or leave it...positive reinforcement works great with also ignoring bad behavior(unless chids in danger).Be consitant.Make rules and keep 2 them!Temper tantrums or mouthing off when u say no u can't...whatever.Ignore it.If the other sibling is behaving at that time praise him,maybe a cookie and always verbal positive .Another word reinfoce good behavior,do not give attention to bad behavior,except if a rule is broken,tell or take child 2 time out corner,tell them why and how long they have 2 stay facing wall.When times up,talk with them why they were there,what should they do 2 stay out of time out.Sometimes sticker charts work well.Put on fridg. or ?,Put their name on chart.Make a big deal when one of them earns a sticker.Maybe u could ask them if they enjoy(whatevers in your are) the park or ice cream stand maybe playground.When a place is decided,make it a 2day or week goal to earn the outing.Like when u get at least 3 stickers u earned outing on friday.Remind them off and on.Remember rules and stick to your guns.Catch them being good,praise that behavior and ignore or time out 4 bad behavior.Show love with hugs and words.Hope this works or even part of it 4 u.
If u feel frustrated,angry or lst,they will pick up on it.Of course there r so many different types of children when it comes 2,IQ,ability,handicaps,past abuse,etc. Not every way of working with kids will work with all kids.You say u love them and that's great.It isn't easy changing their behavior overnite when they have been spoiled.Best wishes on ur job.Would u let me know how it's going? Prayers help if u beleive
U have a chance 2 help mold their future.Neat huh?
Thanks for the advice! The kids are doing better. They know when its play time and when its down time. If they are good that day they get a reeses cup or a cookie. Im going to try that sticker thing. They still kinda mouth off and the father made a mistake of letting his 5yr old son watch a bevis and butthead dvd so he started cursing and calling people names so im working on that problem letting him know its not nice to call ppl names and that he will get a time out for cursing. Well i g2g but ill keep u updated.
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