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Who cares what they want? I am more focused on being what they are attracted to, rather than (just) what they want.


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To all the Canadian Women: You've all been great, I just don't think we are connecting on the same level. We've laughed, we've cried, we've had good times and bad ones. I don't think we'll ever be more than just friends, and I don't think that is enough for me right now. I need some lovin' of both the physical and emotional kind. Yes we have fun, but we haven't been intimate for quite some time now, and I feel that my needs aren't getting met. So as soon as I can get the oppertunity to travel abroad and see the world, I am going to go. Maybe I'll realize all I ever needed was in Canada, but the way things are going now, I think we should see other people.

I think it is time for me to step aside and go fishing in another country.



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You, know what? I was going to type a long post just now, saying how I don't get it. But just occured to me, I don't ask out enough women for coffee, I am not entirely sure how to do it either. My experience has shown me that there are good ways to do things and bad ways. I just simply need to find a good way to ask out a woman that I am flirting with and make a point of it to ask her out for coffee. This is good because I have just gone from being upset in like 2 minutes to being determined again.

Asking to be set up is just a cop out.


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Dating sites, OR why Beck is popular and video games are cool.
Posted: 3/9/2006 10:50:38 AM
One of the first things you learn about in advertising is appeal to the popular kids/people and there will be a trickle down effect. This does work and it is true. BUT there is another way of selling a product, appealing to social out casts and there will essentially be a trickle up effect. Beck was once a loser that no one liked, video games were for nerds, computer geek was actually used as an insult, and it used to be that only losers used dating sites.

Well not anymore, Beck has had a great carreer, every mtv persona has an xbox360 or ps2, ect..., "computer geek" is a term of the eighties, and there's a ton of cool people on the web.

Why and how did this happen? What can we learn from it? My theory is that the people selling these products, not only saw need to be filled, but also made their customers feel special and exclusive. It's supply and demand. Also when you make something exclusive, it appears to people that don't need a product, will actually feel they need it. "Oh no, all those guys that oogle me, are spending their time on ***! Must follow new trend...."


Nothing has really changed much about the products I mention above. It's the way people think about them that has changed the most.

Here is another point in case. Two guys go to a bar, they dress the same, order the same drinks, sit alone, and pretty much do the same stuff. Guy A however is sad and lonely and goes out to try and pick up. Guy B is confident, fun loving and just wants to chill out. Guy B will win hands down every time because people will think differently of him even though on the outside he is the same as guy A.

So even if you are a video game playing computer nerd name beck, you can have the success you want. Heck, I met a hottie in the mall playing sonic the hedge hog once, but that is for a different thread.




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No my name isn't Shawn. And it was a WOMAN, that I was asking to set me up with one of HER friends. I never ask guys to set me up, I rarely ask them(and by them I mean guys that are already dating/married) if they know a hot gal with a great personality.


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Don't be jealous, everyone loves that pic.


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I get no help in the dating world from anyone. I've had to figure out everything on my own. Either I am such a great guy that nobody wants to share me, or I am just not datable. I don't get it, I can flirt really well, people say I am funny, and a really great guy. But still no dates or relationships. My friend just said It's something I've got to figure out on my own. Given all the time and effort I've put in to get this far, a date or relationship may be out of the question. Besides with that stuff there is more involvement with other people and things I don't have control over. I was once branded with the "nice guy/friend, but I wouldn't want to date him" brand, and sometimes I think it doesn't come off.




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Bad guys don't always get the gal, even when they do, it doesn't last.

It only seems contradictory what women "want." Women are attracted to bad boys because of the signals that bad boys send. Women want a nice guy because that only makes sense. Now the short of it is that attraction is WAY more powerful than a want. Unfortunately for most people, nice guys get so intensly focused on the want part, that they ignore, or dissmiss the attract part. What is it that bad boys do to attract women?

1) they don't let women determine their emotions.
2) They show that they are in high demand/valueable
3) They become a challenge/above them by teasing/insulting/hitting them.****

**** I DO NOT ADVOCATE VIOLENCE TOWARDS WOMEN****

You don't need to be a loser to have emotional control over yourself, or show you are in high demand and valuable. Nor do you need to be a jerk to tease women, you just have to be funny.

Some guys will try to sympathize with a woman to make her feel better. That does have it's time and place, but 90% of the time it's just better poke fun at their situation and make em laugh.

It totally turns women on when they see that i am a nice guy that demonstrates bad boy qualities.


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I lack experience and the idea of relationship is foreign to me because of it. My parents are still together and everyone arround me has had a LT relationship, so I don't think it's impossible for me. It's just that I've always had trouble meeting women that i find attractive. I've learned a lot about mating, dating and relating, in order to over come my shyness. I am pretty much over it. I realized that relationships are foreign to me because everytime I give advice on relationships, it's drawn from advice from a friend, tv show, book, internet site, ect... and not my own experience. I know lots about the different theories as to why people get together. But I don't truely understand relationships because I never been in one.

I really want to date an amazing woman, and feel confident enough that it could work because of my knowlege, but because it get that much harder because I lack experience in a relationship and I am getting tired of learning from books/tv and from friends.

Anyone else feel like this at any point? Advice from anyone would be great.


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