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jampet: no- any more tips? i'm starting a notebook
See..and you would think a lady past her 30's would already be in the know. So much for THAT theory!! Guess it's back to the sorority houses for me!dancing banana


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twinkles1994: Actually the combination of warm and cold feels really good, from what I was told!
We will tell you ANYTHING to encourage you NOT TO STOP!!! lol


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twinkles1994: Why yes I have! I use ice cubes too!
Stay that heLL away from me with THAT!


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gentlepaws: Please god, save me from your followers.
Please Allah, save me from your followers.



(I like to hedge my bets!)


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Anyone ever put an altoids in their mouth when tasting the naughty bits of their partner? Wee Haw

devil devil


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BnaturAl: athiests are irrelevant? just asking.
you are trying to make some kind of argument out of a loose metaphor..the ant is irrelevant to the guy with the boots


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BnaturAl: the ant thing is quite a notion; but is hardly optimistic for the squishee, though I suppose destruction has its own optimism.
it was not meant to imply destruction but go to the irrelevance of the atheist


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I say INCREDIBLY useful.

Someone introduced me to the concept(s) of metaphysics and books like "The Secret" have this belief more widely understood. Frankly, while parts of it make sense to me (ie. the placebo effect) I am not sure about most of it. Here's the rub, believing it or not, while I practice the principles and exercises I have read about, I am a MUCH more optimistic and inspired being.

Marx said something about religion being the opiate of the masses. I used that saying as a young person to stay in judgement of my parents/sisters and their faith. Meanwhile I was out drinking like a fish. What if religion really is just the opiate of the masses? Look how much good it has done with most of the heroes (missionaries and the like) unsung. And what about the great benefits of community and fellowship the belief in God creates.

Militant atheists crack me up. I always get this vision in my head of us being ants on the pavement and God being a guy in boots. The atheist on the sidewalk looking up shaking his hand at the guy in work books denying his existence. >SQUISH<




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langleygirl: Until you ask about the situation or background - why would you jump to conclusions? I'm merely a year older than yourself and I'm already a grandmother ........ my daughter is on her own already. So remember that not everyone has children later in life - everyone's situation is different.

I've come across men who claim to have "no children" when in fact I later find out that they do. They say this sometimes because they don't have custody of their kids and/or they live far away. Truly I think that one should at least state that they have children - because at any time the children could end up coming to live with them.
But your situation would be grown and left the nest


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Hugz_n_Kissez: Well you could be yes...Because sometimes when they get older the might choose to go live with the other parent...I know my son did at 13 because he needed his dad in his life at that age...BUT my daughter still lives with me....So unless you know the story...you shouldn't assume all women have left their children when you see that on a profile!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Thanks....good point!


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spiceygamble: JYou can not expect the entire population of people going through divorce to adhere to your concepts.
I beg your pardon, but when they were on the altar saying their vows it was not MY concepts there were obligating themselves to adhere to.


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GypsyGirl_1963: I'm sorry that you had to deal with this, but not all women that list they don't have their children with them are all bad.

I have been in this situation with my ex who painted this horrible picture of me in our custody case to where I almost lost my children due to his lying. Everyone thinks that women will automatically get the children in a divorce/custody situation...not always. There are always 3 sides to a story the Husband's, Wife's and the Judges decision. In my case I ended up hiring a very expensive cut throat attorney and 2 years of my life proving that I was a good parent and that these were all lies do to my ex's infidelity and strange reality of having his children blending with his new girlfriend later wife.

In the end I did get primary custody, but it took heaven and hell to get to this point. So please don't judge until you've heard why they don't have their children.
Great feedback Gypsy Thanks!! I think anyone that close to disney should have custody by defaultrolling on the floor laughing


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Claayer: I just know from experience with mine.. they were actually Better.. (less hurt).. when he couldnt (be arsed to) see them as often.
Thanks kiss


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Claayer: I know this is slightly out of the norm.. but have you considered making her visits further apart.. and ,maybe for shorter time?

I know that's a biggy.. but it's also less traumatic for the kids.
I have thought about a lot of different iterations of it. There is a lot of contradictory advice on the subject.


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Alfalfa: Yes...there was some assumption their. In fairness to me, however, I specifically mentioned based on what you wrote ALONE and what you wrote was all about money.
there not their....Ugh..I hate when people do that!!blues


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spiceygamble: Now that have given you the details to this family, can you see how you picked one point to focus on & missed out completely on the bigger picture?

When someone immediately zips to one point, it is often that issue that they struggle with as a person. You missed the truth of the matter and over emphasized the details that caught your eye. If you are approaching relationships with this same mindset, this might be a good time to ask yourself ...
"how's that working for you?"Again, I'm simply sharing what I see... not attacking you.
I hope you can understand that.
Yes...there was some assumption their. In fairness to me, however, I specifically mentioned based on what you wrote ALONE and what you wrote was all about money.


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spiceygamble:
I am not trying to pick a fight with you & I apologize if it came across as such.
Me either spicey. I hope I did not hurt you. This is obviously a very touchy subject for me. She visits once a month or so for a few days and I have to watch my kids' little hearts break all over again when she leaves and pick up the pieces.


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there are obviously missing details. If they have all this money, why don't they move the father and child to be near the mother? Why doesn't the mother hire someone to run the business....something does not fit...


I guess...to best articulate my position I should explain my feelings about divorce. I remember when my first child was born and one of my earliest thoughts when passing him to his mom was, how can anyone get divorced and deprive a child of the anything that could risk their ultimate happiness. There is a radio psychologist that argues divorce is only acceptable in the case of one of the 3 "A"s. Addiction , Adultery and/or Abuse. I saw my wife through Addiction early on and Adultery later and would not fold on my kids happiness (that is the Scottish in me!).

Anyway..when people talk about a marriage "dissolving" or people "falling out of love" to me it just SCREAMS...SELFISH. Marriage is a life long commitment...get some feckin therapy and if it don't work get some more. Love for me is a choice and not always an easy one....but in the end, having the courage to work through it with an eye on all its ruin affects, is 10000 times more rewarding than trying to get a better deal somewhere else. We have become a society rich with pansies.


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