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Low self-esteem, and an immature need for attention usually are the factors for people cheating.
Deception sucks.Trust is broken. The bonds of the foundation are torn..It is devaluing, to the innocent party and the liar.
I find it contemptuous, and am deeply hurt when I have been deceived.
And for what? An ego stroke?? An insecure and pathetic need to 'fill up' on shallow behaviours by my partner?
I don't have a lot of tolerance, nor patience for it anymore, if a person I am with is always looking outside themselves for re-assurance, and his sense of self boosted....then he wasn't as evolved as I thought he was and would cut him loose.
I have no time for deception, and I find, "one strike, and you are out..." works for me.
I'm so with you Jesse! My marriage of 12 years ended because he was so busy on the computer and decided to find somebody else, 3000 miles away ... so be it. If he couldn't talk to me when I was only 15 feet away, there was more being hidden than I want to know about. One strike was all he got. When he got on the plane to go and see her, I filed for divorce. Granted, there were other things going on (mostly depression on his part), but there's still no excuse for cheating, deception and breaking the bonds of trust.
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