shipoker55: well, itannoys me...when people blame men for all the problems with child-raising. It was stated that women are left to raise the children when the man leaves. Well, my father was left to raise the children, when my mother left. It wasn't a man who drowned her kids in the tub or who sent them to the bottom of a lake. And yes, men have done as bad, if not, worse. But to turn a blind eye to womens failures and only point out mens...is just wrong!
Problem is, we are all human, and (I believe) inherently(hope I spelled it right) evil. To point out one genders faults without the other, is just not right.
I sincerely believe that these people, whom I called a baby factory, are religious fanatics. I believe nobody with a fully functioning thought process would want 18 children and hope for more. Sure, it gets a lot of publicity. But how do you love is children with the attention they need. There are so many other issues than...this is a blessing from god.
somewhere common sense has got to come into play. And as another poster has stated, if they have so much capacity for love, why not adopt some of these orphaned children? My sister was adopted. My brother and I were not. I never knew I had a sister till later in life, as an adult. But when we found each other, instead of happy, I was depressed. Wondering why Reed and I weren't adopted but she was. Weren't we good enough? My sister and I are really close now....but the point I am trying to make( though not very eloquently) is there are already millions of kids in this world that sorely need love and warmth and happiness. Can't we quit bringing more kids into this god-forsaken place, and give shelter and love to the ones that are already here??.....JMO, of course
Ship,
I was adopted as a tiny baby and because I was not "perfect" (deaf in one ear, speech impediment, and wouldn't speak until I was nearly six) in the eyes of my adoptive mother, I was cast aside as so much chattel. She eventually went on to have four other babies. As soon as I was old enough, I was expected to help care for the other babies who received her "love". As soon as they became old enough, they were expected to help out on the ranch. We were little more than mere farmhands.My adoptive parents originally wanted 12 children! My adoptive father came from a family of 10 children and my adoptive mother from a family of 2 children.My siblings do not go home if they can help it. A cold, unemotional environment will do that to children and it will stay with one well until adulthood. So being naturally born and/or adopted isn't as great as some may think. Some are so lucky and have such loving parents, some do not and manage to survive in any way that they can. We all do the best that we can and live life day to day.
Do you have any idea just how much it costs to adopt a child? Try anywhere from $16,000 to $27,000 and on up depending on the country where one wants to adopt such a child. There are travel fees, adoption fees, dealing with red tape, etc... It's not inexpensive to adopt no matter where one may live including in the US. A good way to figure out if adoption may be suitable for one is to offer a foster home first.
Couple expecting 18th child: click here to read the entire thread »