tessylatease: I was just curious to know where people stand on the issue of true love? Does it really exist? I mean, I truly hope that it does but recently I am really starting to have my doubts.
I would love to find that special person who really loves me and makes me feel fearless and trusting. After being hurt I really admire those that can let people back in. How do you do it?
They say (whomever they are) time is a great healer, but the feelings of inadequacy and lack of confidence must leave long term invisible scars.
How do you let go and just jump back in two feet forward? Success stories would be great as a source of inspiration also advice needed!
I've been fortunate to be engaged to the love of my life. Yes, true love does really exist. It's not easily found but once it is, it's a real treasure to be cherished.
In my life before I met my love, I'd dated some real arse biscuits. Winners only a prison warden could love. After having been badly hurt, I decided to look out to life with sunny optimism and made a contract with myself declaring, "This next relationship is going to be better and by golly it's going to last!" So far, it has. What one declares, it will happen. A little faith can go a long way. Scars will always be there, but a positive attitude and getting off of one's own grunge train of self-doubt and despair can really do wonders. It's never easy to just jump right back into the "Love shack". Our Ego can bring us down by telling us that we aren't good enough , etc.. It's telling Ego "thank you for caring, now buzz off for sharing". It's a self-training method that works great over time.
Relationships really are about compromise, a whole lot of trust and even more love. Clear and open communication is a main key as well. Realism is important as well. coming to accept that your significant other isn't perfect and accepting that we aren't either goes a long way.If you have an argument- let it blow over then talk about it later. Do fun things together, then help the other with things around the house. Compromise about who does what, when, where, how, etc....Even if you don't want to do it. Next time, they'll be willing to do something with you that they don't want to do, but because of their love for you, they are more willing to do it. Togetherness is what sees you through and love will see you to the end.
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