Sommerauer71 wrote:To be honest, I am not surprised you are confused, going slow with no attachments?
Well, again, another cliche, 'going slow' If two people meet and there is some chemsitry there, then it will happen, getting to know each other happens, depending on the level of contact, you can talk and talk.
Having a physical relationship will change the dynamics of the relationship, it does. And that is what I look at, if after becoming physical, a man changes, towards me, then I will question why. If he remains the same, but feels closer to me then great.
The no attachment confuses me. If they say they do not want an enotional attachment, then to me they perhaps want nothing more than a physical one.
So perhaps, try to avoid the sex intially, get to know her, see how it goes, and then go to the physical side of things, that is what I would prefer as a woman.
Try getting to know a person emotionally first, then the rest will be easier to achieve.
As much as I love intimacy, with a person that I am getting to know, I prefer to leave that until I am sure.
But if I feel close and comfortable with a person, then the physical aspect should come naturally.
We all seem to be in a rush to have sex, in the hope it will bond us, and when it does not, we feel let down.
People should tread carefully on other peoples hearts.... the ol' do unto others.... Men get a bad rap.... but women behaving as men.... worse in a way...cause we should no better.... and we should have a bit of dignity.... no dignity in trampling on peoples hearts...JMV