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Unlike many, I've never been injured or hospitalized to a near death extent. I've had a few events in my life that I seriously faced the possibility of death. One for sure was a life changing experience. I was much younger then and life was something I truly feared losing. It is the experience which convinced me there is a God. I'm not a religious person but do have a strong belief and faith. None of that has any bearing on my outlook on death & dying. I have no desire to die but I do believe that when it happens I will welcome it. It could be that I've watched a few people suffer for a very long time before dying. I've watched my mom wither away for the past few years and know that it is a horrible experience for her and know she will welcome it when it happens. I'll be very happy for her and not sad. I've already lost her to Alzheimer's and pray that I don't go out that way.


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Defman...hang in there. Huntsville is not all that far away from me... maybe one day we'll just have a big party and invite the whole crowd. I've got several neighbors who live in the Decatur/Huntsville area (I'm on smith lake...all vacation homes around me)....


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Been there....plenty of times. I'd bet that you've had something on your mind. And, if like me caffeine will jack me up and make sleep impossible, (tea is as bad or worse than coffee in the evenings)..then I drag ass the next day. At times I've found that the only way out of the cycle is to get up and get out. I've had to get out and away from home for several hours so I could wake up enough that I don't sleep until late in the evening. I love when I can or do get up early in the morning around daylight and feel good enough to stay up. Generally, if I sit in a chair and have a couple of cups of coffee then cook breakfast and wash the dishes I'm good to go and usually have killed a couple of hours before getting out of the house. I have a problem with just finding days that I really feel good and energetic which is not as often as I'd like. We're kind of close to the same age and one of my suspicions is a possible parathyroid tumor which is common in people our age...do a little research and check that out. If you've been losing bone mass...problems with teeth or spine then it's a possibility. Supposedly, doctors often overlook the condition and it is a benign tumor that can be removed with a 20 minute mini-surgery procedure. I've been waiting for a year so my insurance will kick in so I can have my doctor to check into it. I should have already gone to the doctor for a physical and need to make an appointment soon.


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I don't know who did it...but they guy who did Stairway to heaven has a vote... there are so many really good pickers that IMO there is no best one....depends on the mood and what kind of music one feels like listening to. I think Willie Nelson is fantastic but I know some who said that Roy Clark was the best.... I do a really good job on some things I do that no one else can do...but I only know a few riffs and a few songs..but I'm good at what I do know.


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i can relate for sure.... took me near 3 months before I felt half way comfortable out of the house. I didn't want to go anywhere that I knew anyone. I just wanted new people and wanted the security of having someone with me when I did go out in public. Fortunately I ran into a very old friend from many years back. Had seen him only once in 30 years or more. We met up and went out to a bar & grill then met up later to go to a bowling alley with pool tables where we now go regularly. It's an out of the way place in a small city where there's quite a few people and many are strangers to each other...so we fit in. Just getting the feel of being out without the s.o. is a very good adjustment. I've had a couple of different dates at the same place and totally enjoyed their company while shooting pool. I'm not much of a pool player but it's relatively cheap and I love just getting out there with friends. It seems to be something I was really missing in life before. I live in a very isolated place and seldom see people so these little outings have become extremely desirable and important to me. I'd love to find even more new and good places to go. I've even invited old dates to bring their new boyfriends along just so I could be around friends again. Getting to know more and more people ....although slowly... just by being active on some of the date sites.


Forgot how to be single...need help: click here to read the entire thread »

...don't matter if yer pitch'n or catch'n...yer still playin' da game! I can play either side and any position... I've got experience!


Are You The Stalking Type,Like To Be Stalked: click here to read the entire thread »

...and thus...fear by it's very nature stirs our choices...ergo...shapes us.


Do we allow fear to shape our lives?: click here to read the entire thread »

All this philosophy is crap. Fear is necessary. Without it we would jump at anything. It is a safety mechanism in our psyche. If you don't have some fear in everything you do you will never know your limitations... Remember Clint Eastwood?... "man must know his limitations..."
I'm like many many people...been hurt several times in relationships and always when it gets good then I begin to fear that it won't stay good...then if I do get hurt I realize the fear and the pain that sometimes follows...but, it does not stop me from going for it again... no pain, no gain. I've had ladies tell me they didn't want to hurt me... my inner thoughts just say "hurt me baby! hurt me!"..... if I don't at least give it a chance then I'll never know what may have been.... is that philosophical enough? From the words of Abe Lincoln, I learned to work but never learned to like it....so, my words.. I've learned what pain is, I've never learned to like pain...but I know that without it and without the fear and taking that chance I'll never accomplish anything.


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Haven't received one with that name but I've received plenty from so called Russian women wanting to come to America and is looking for a husband. It usually takes several emails before they get to the air port and have some money but for some reason can't get to the rest of their money so they want to barrow enough to finish paying to get here. I know one sucker who lost over $20k to get his new fiance here from South Africa a few years ago. There area gullible people out there and plenty of suckers if the fisherman is patient.


guys...has tetetet contacted you??: click here to read the entire thread »

If it were me... I would go at the drop of a hat just as soon as I knew for a fact she is real and the phone number and address are confirmed. If she were local it wouldn't really matter about that. I don't hold back a chance to meet someone who may make my life better and happier....but...on these date sites I go to meet a lady with absolutely no expectations...but always with high hopes.


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I do think it is or was an emotional issue of not wanting to be overly attached, fear of giving up her freedom as that is still new to her also. Too, I'm not long out of a LTR so I have an experience that some women will throw up in my face as I too frequently talk about it. I'm also open about past pains and defensive about not wanting to be hurt. All things are possible but to determine whether she actually was burdened by guilt of a casual relationship or if it was the fear that I wanted more than a casual relationship is something that I am unable and unwilling to judge but the curiosity of her true desires is interesting. I'm just very happy that we are still friends and I love just hearing her voice and receiving the emails. It is very pleasant to be able to continue the friendship and I do hope to see her again from time to time. I would just be far more apprehensive about becoming too involved too quickly....and this will probably carry over into my next dating experience.


Understanding women...sex but end of relationship....: click here to read the entire thread »

Forgive and forget are things we've been taught to do merely to remain civil and to regain the relationships we knew and held dear to us. Without the willingness to forgive and forget then we choose to cut off any possibility of continuing the happiness or relationships we had. This only leaves us to start from scratch on one hand but to face the facts that separating ourselves from others for differences or transgressions can limit our opportunities with other people. Sometimes very difficult to choose which path to take. Just replacing the memories with new experiences is one part of healing from the pain caused by the person who is to be forgiven.


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What is power if you are disarmed? You are not a warrior if no one will step down to fight you. You were not awarded your self-appointed status for your achievements. For this, are you deluding yourself in believing that your religious spoutings make you somebody? You are nothing if you have to prove yourself to everybody as to be somebody of importance you have to gain the love and respect of them by your works and not by your domination. You can not dominate those who turn their back on you and do not acknowledge your words or existence. If you take things without being given them and destroy lives only to gain posessions or power then you are no more than a common thief and murderer, not a warrior or a king, and certainly not a god.


who'd like to face raavana's BATTLE.....!: click here to read the entire thread »

Yep... I did...eventhough we are no longer together it has nothing to do with where I found her and I will always remember the love we had and the life we had together. Hopefully, it will not be a problem when or if I am totally immersed in another relationship. I've met women on buses, in classes, in restaurants (my 1st ex was a waitress) and while out working on jobs (my second was a customer) and in church (my 3rd was in my sunday school class and had been to high school together). So, I'm firmly convinced that you can meet a love anywhere. Holding onto and sustaining that love is what makes it eternal.


Do u think u can find eternal love through the internet?: click here to read the entire thread »

I've never found a problem with women near my age who date only younger guys. Either they will date me or not. I do find that most women who date youger men are usually very attractive but the fact that they look at "boy toys" makes them very unattractive to me. I feel that it is immaturity and a lack of respect for their own well being. I have dated women far younger than myself and find them immature in far too many ways. Most are ill prepared for the stage of life I am already in. When I was much younger I was approached by a few ladies much older. After one date with one who was near 15 years my senior I felt very used. I dated one who was 6 years my senior and felt a very close identity. At that Time I was 30 and she was 36. For years I was seriously involved with a woman 10 years younger and there was never an age related problem until her children began leaving then nest then she went wild and became childlike and began trying to be like her teenage daughters. I was sickened by her newfound zest for life as she lost all responsibility and dedication to her family. The last I heard she had found her new love and moved in with a 25 year old child at her age of 44 and had lost every investment she had to depend on him. I was deeply hurt by her but seeing her choice and what she had turned into is what freed my heart from wanting her. She had always been very active and a perfect mom. She became uncaring about herself and put her own desires above everyone else's....have to stop before this becomes a rant..but the point I want to make is that I am far more interested in a woman who shows a sense of maturity and security. When a woman of any age tells me things like "I'm not interested in money... I just want to have fun fun fun" then they lose me right on the spot. I would only date a woman like that for sexual attraction and not for an expectation of a real relationship and there is no romance in that.
Someone such as you, capigirl, I see a very attractive and sensual face and beautiful smile. To think that you would even accept my emails or truly be a potential date ... well I love everything in your profile and see an extreme amount of common interests and feel that you describe the type of man I am in the type of man I am. But that's the problem...you're far too far away. So, I don't even hold out any desire or hope. I feel cheated that you may opt to date a man younger than me solely on the age issue. I usually find women my age too resistant to change. They are very hot at first but it quickly cools and they do not want to mingle resources. There is a very good side to that but it is not good for future planning. I'm still new at dating and the older women are usually more financially secure while younger ones may want to move in with me solely for security and not for love. There is much to debate here within myself. So, when I do meet or date a lady I can choose to simply enjoy her company as the relationship grows or I can be overcome with questions asking myself many questions of who can do what for whom or what do we want or need out of each other or what our expectations are as a result of the relationship. I do know that all of us need more than just sex to bring to the table if we expect any kind of continuing relationship to exist past the bedroom. I find that women my age have little interest in sex once the relationship starts and they get comfortable but use it just to keep me around...and that's when I'm ready to leave eventhough I may love her I begin to feel unloved as it's something that becomes "allowed" rather than desired and I see no relating in a relationship like that. Hopefully I will not fall into the trap of expectations and will find a very pleasing journey in life with a lady who is interested in every aspect of growing and nurturing a relationship. For me that is far more important than relying on numbers or age to dictate who I want to date.


"IS AGE REALLY AN NUMBER'S GAME"?: click here to read the entire thread »

That I will lose it before I can find the answer to "How can I make love stay?"


What is your worst fear in love??: click here to read the entire thread »

somewhere between nothing and zero on some days... but every day I can find something else I do appreciate about not having someone to worry about approving my every move...then wish I had someone to do all the things for me that makes me feel complete...


How comfortable are u being single?: click here to read the entire thread »

I think you find them at various stages and have to grow them to maturity by proper nutrition and nurturing.....


do you believe in soulmates?: click here to read the entire thread »

Why would you want to romance a stone?


WHY SOME GIRLS HAVE HEARTS LIKE STONES...?: click here to read the entire thread »

that this is as good as it gets....I may not be perfect but I'm the perfect one for her..


" what men want women to know about them?": click here to read the entire thread »