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I have to agree with you B.E.B. It was absolutely a performance of a lifetime! I mean...like total restraint until she was boiling over! LITERALLY!... I do know for a fact that she has issues she is dealing with...kinda sorta my heart goes out to her and all of us who are dealing with lost loves and have issues that we are not through dealing with. There will always be something in the back of my mind that refuses to let me give 100% of myself to a woman and I have to deal with that every time I'm alone with a woman.


Understanding women...sex but end of relationship....: click here to read the entire thread »

I don't claim to understand women....but this one puzzles me. I met her online. She is really really a nice, cute, and sweet person. We have an amazingly amount of things in common including where we live, how we live, and what we want. There was NEVER any pressure to do anything. First date was dinner and a drive, all went nice...just a small hug and light kiss. Second date was out for some activities just to get to know each other, grab a beer and a sandwich, then to my place for a movie. She spent the night, we cuddled but no sex. Third date...I delivered dinner to her house, helped her put a few things together she had gotten for Christmas.... a little snuggling. She anticipated my kisses with openness. After a little romance she pulls the cutains closed as she was extremely hot and anxious. She led me to the bedroom. In no way did I ever pressure her for sex. Actually, by the time I was ready to give it to her she was practically begging... Afterwards she spent a very long time in the shower. Tho' she was very nice she seemed distant. Since then she broke the date which she had made with me. I had to encourage her to just be friends and not avoid me because I'm not about to burn that bridge. I don't know what her problem is or if there is one. I just know that she went from extremely hot to wanting to not date and being apprehensive about dating...just wants time. She says she doesn't want to get into casual sex, but after 3 dates and getting to know each other quite well I do not call it casual. For me it was the beginning of a very comfortable relationship...I just don't know, I'm somewhere between puzzled and confused, not hurt but trying to be very understanding since my last relationship ended with me devastated. I certainly do not want to be hurt again and don't want to see anyone hurt... but What's the deal? I've had similar experiences. I know she has feelings for me but surely the sex was not so bad that she ran from me.... the only thing I may have done wrong was to insist on a condom....as much as I hate those things I want to use one until I know I'm the one and only and prefer to see a health certificate.... So...somebody tell me what's going on in her mind? Did my use of a condom make her feel that she is dirty or that I don't trust her?


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A longer and happier life is not guaranteed...but I'd sure like to quit smoking...if for no other reason than to make myself more socially acceptable....


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SERIOUSLY... I just want to get my life back together... things are going fine now but I want to be back where I was a year ago with a good woman who I was totally happy to come home to and things were rolling along very happily. I really miss not being anxious to come home to that someone special.... well, if I don't find that someone special to come home to then I want to be able to come home and just enjoy being here. I'm getting better at it but feel that there is so much missing in my life... maybe I'll get this house built and be more able to have a home with the woman of my dreams.... I'm just not much for being alone but it seems that most of my life I've been alone.


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There are by far many in this category and it is pitiful. Sometimes I just feel that they area all attracted to me and I know that I've been looked upon in the same manner. Sometimes it's tough luck and sometimes it's bad choices. Not sure what led me down that road but I did make changes and overcame a huge problem after simply eliminating the people in my life who were dragging me down. Unfortunately, in the process of being obsessive about it I also alienated myself from gf's family and now gf left and I've been single since August... really tough on me...but there were many positive changes for me too. First and foremost she has to recognize that she is part of the problem and insisting on making choices based on chance and not firm data is not a good choice. I gave up my education credentials to be a licensed plumber...best choice I ever made and I KNEW that a plumber can make good money and one who applies himself can work on his own without having to have a real job ... and do quite well!



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Some things are old
some things are new
some are stolen
some are on sale by other than their owner
some are animals...may be a rabbit, old goat, or chicken???


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I'd love to stop if all I had to do was lay them down and never think about cigs again. For now, I'm in a serious "anti-stress" mode. I'd stress big time if I were to try to quit. I know me and know better than to tell that lie...that I'm gonna quit. It's a nice thought but not reality... guess I'll stick to caffeine, nicotine, and sex...best stress relievers I know of.


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Hang in there loomie. Don't know about now, but when I was a student at Auburn there were lots of places around Columbus and Phenix City where a guy could have fun. Of course, that has been 30 years ago..so, things do change. I know that I'm deifnitely isolated and alone and that's the whole reason for being on the internet... happy hunting!


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It could mean that one is off the market but the bright side is that one is also out of the way!

I know how you feel but I also know that there are more out there and when we see that someone else has reached that goal it means that I can too...and so can you. Sometimes we have to give of ourselves and not expect too much or too fast. This time of year is very odd for meeting people... I'm fairly well convinced that spring is mating season for our species.....


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It's all silver and gold and when it is alive and strong it feels totally undescribably wonderful. When it dies it turns blue and hurts like hell.


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I am with the other posters here... you obviously are not very happy with your experiences. This probably comes through in your personality so the guys get with you, get what they want, then leave. I can't say the guys are good or would do better but I can say you're attracting the wrong kind of guys. There are lots of questions to ask yourself... are you respecting them? Are you being supportive of their life's ambitions? Do you give them free reign or have specific expectations of them? How well do you take care of yourself so that you are attractive to them? For a relationship to be good and both to enjoy being together the relationship should be one in which both can't wait to get home and always happy and anxious to see each other. I do know that the worst insult to a woman is to be told that she's over weight. It is difficult for many women to control that. But, if you really want to be happy and to attract a guy and keep him you'll work to be happy and to get your body in shape. You will feel far better and be happier with yourself. You've got to be happy with yourself before you can make someone else happy. Everyone wants to see a happy face... can you imagine how Walmart would be such a failure if they had a sad face rather than the happy face on all those signs?


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I recently went through a situation with a friend in which her mom was terminally ill. The though of euthanasia crossed our minds every day. It was very difficult to sit and watch her mom suffer on life support. She had lost everything she owned to take care of her mom. Nevertheless the bottom line was that neither of us felt that we could morally agree to euthanasia. Besides the moral issues there were legal issues.


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Looks like ya got a buzz on bud... take a good rest and give the booze a break..that sh!t causes depression so bad that I don't touch it... well, maybe a little now and then..def not good for ya...'specially if yer mood is outta whack


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Saturday night I am going out with a nice lady I met online. We thought it would be great to invite anyone who is interested to come hang with us. We'll be at the bowling alley in Jasper around 7-8pm. Mainly going to shoot pool, eat at the grill, they have draft beer if you're interested. Drop me a line/PM ... would love to get this going and every week or two or three move it around to different places... I'm sure there's lots of people just like us who simply want to get out of the house...this place is cheap and easy, indoors and reasonably comfortable, not fancy at all, just a good evening out with friends....love to meet new friends! Nothing freaky or weird..... you can post messages here as well...love to see some of you guys/gals....all ages welcomed!



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I agree with all comments except the one negative one... they're all great...just goes to show ya she gets better looking all the time!


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Glad you brought this up. Recently had a lady show LOTS of interest in me. We swapped comments, I checked out her posts, she gave me her phone number. I immediately called her then she hung up the phone and refuses to reply to my emails...treats me like I've done something wrong. I really think she felt that I was stalking her when I was simply responding. Maybe some are too defensive and others are too shallow, but though we know stalking is for real and does go on we all know that we are on these sites to pursue or be pursued.... If you put out a provocative profile then you can expect it....reap what you sew so to speak. Fact is...it's the internet and your choice whether or not to respond. You just feed the problem and the issue if you react... my best advice would be to simply feel sorry for the person and do not respond rather than hurt his/her feelings and inflame that persons frustrations.


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Cell phones are strange. I can not #67 mine. However it does have menu and a choice where I can tell it not to send out my info. If you are not sure how it works...check it out and call your home number or another phone with caller i.d. to see if the function works as expected.


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Hello fellow Alabamians! A new friend got me to check out this site again. She likes it better than the one's I've been hanging out in. Hope to meet more good people here! LET THE SHOW BEGIN!


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