> So according to all the love and flirtation experts on the net (female ones usually - wonder where they got their degree?) women should NEVER,
> EVER on no circumstances make the first move such as asking a man out, mailing him first on sites like this etc. This gives the impression she is easy
> to get, and deprives men of the thrill of the chase, which, apparently is what it's all about.
Don't listen to those "expert", they have no clue. That line of thought may have been the right approach back in the 50s, but today I can't imagine a guy that wouldn't like a woman to make the first move. Not that I've read a lot of literature on the subject, but the relationship experts I've read seem to all agree that women should not be afraid to make the first move, at least in Swedish magazines. Perhaps it's different where you are.
> from men; is the feeling of conquest really so important to you
No, and I bet few guys would say differently. And the ones that do are probably not the guys you'd want to be with either.
I would even go as far to say that playing hard to get is counterproductive. In fact, if a girl appears to not be interested, I naturally assume that she's not, and if she really was she would have missed the opportunity. I'm of the opinion that love shouldn't be hard, it ought to be the easiest thing in the world, and that's how I usually approach relationships. If you're interested in someone, you should be able to tell him/her so, and doing so should not deprave you of any strategic advantages in the game. Too many people are just turning it into a game of chess where they plan every move and want to keep "an edge" versus the "opponent". I've dated girls in the past that I could very well have married if it wasn't for these weird games they play, and I get forced to play along against my will until I can't handle it anymore.
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