Posted: Oct 18, 2006, 6:41 PM CST
Well Irishlass, where can a man start to answer this post,
Cultures are different in all countries as we all know so i can only speak about my own.
What I have noticed over the past no. of years here is the rate couples are breaking up and finally Divorcing, in the middle of all this are the children who have been subjected to the constant rows etc. that has gone on pre-marraige break-up.
If you were to ask any of these children would they consider Marraige I think you would find them saying NO.
Another point I have is that I notice couples are leaving marraige until late 20's and early 30's before they tie the knot and trying to make sure that all is in place before hand, The Home, the cars, the best of furniture etc. They place themselves in enormous death before they have even married.
There is no longer the thought or the will to just get by on what they have and what relations and friends give towards the help, ie. second hand furniture, small wedding, renting their first flat together, just things like that and then not forgetting the huge pressure of having the big Wedding reception and the once in a lifetime honeymoon.
Pressure that they place upon themselves at the beginning through the help of Financial Institutions which eventually leads to both of them having to work for quite a lot of years.
God forbid if the woman gets pregnant early as then the pressure doubles and before long the arguments start about him always working late etc. Not in all cases but I know many it has happened to.
There is so much I could say on this post but I would just like to say finally,
The woman chooses to stay home and look after the children while the man goes and earns the money to pay the bills and look after the family finacially.
One day he comes home and his wife says I've had enough and I want you to leave the home.
He can refuse so she goes to Court and has him removed, not because he hits the children or his wife, but because it is the family home and she is the mother and has no means of supporting the family.
So the Husband has to leave and if they cannot come to an arrangement together over finances the court will also intervene.
This normally happens late in marraige, I have seen husbands/fathers having to work all hours just to make ends meet as he is now having to try and run 2 homes.
it does not leave him much time to see his children and can you imagine what it is like for him to have to walk up to what was their front door and have to knock to see if his children would like to come out to play or beep the horn outside.
This is not the case in every marraige break-up but in 80% it is.
And people wonder why? Marraige is off putting, Paul McCarthney is currently experiencing a break-up and How nasty is that getting at this present time.
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