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I know this and that's what I want and feel I need to do, I'm great at all those things and not being able to share it with a family.

Family is what I want it's not just the children.

Thanks for the reply. Jon ( in Kansas for the moment, soon back to the boats and Florida, I need to get it to boat instead of plural, that's what's keeping me from getting on with my life at the moment.)


Why do some people find it necessary to lie?: click here to read the entire thread »

Is a youthful partner more important the the quality of the person? It sure seems that is what the average American thinks. I have trouble with this myself, because here I seek youth, but I would not if I could find a 53 year old that still could have and wanted children. At least that's how I justify it. Am I the pot calling the kettle black? I feel I have been not forced to grow up because I have not raised a family so I still have many youthful attributes, wanderlust, travel, active, devil may care attitude about things.

OK I'll put up my shields, let fly with the rebuttals.




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I'll tell you my story, I have found it necessary to lie because everybody has a dream of who they want to find and they only look at the category that has the highest probability of finding their dream. They don't look at the fringes of their search criteria since the numbers just aren't there to have the higher chances of success. I don't blame them, I do the same thing, it's called targeting the masses. You shoot for what will give you the highest chance of success with the least effort. My lie, although short lived is still a lie and I hate to have to do it, but I feel I will live a childless life if I don't do it so I'm forced into doing something that I am totally against to achieve the one dream that I hold uppermost in my life. I am one of the most honest people you will ever find, but I fell I have to lie about my age if I ever will have any chance of finding someone to have children with on a site like this. There is maybe one quarter of one percent (just a guess, but an educated guess) of the women that still can and want to have children that will look at a man that is 53, because again about 1/4 of a percent of the 53 year old men want children. The percentages of success just aren't there and there is no good reason for them ( the woman that still want to have children) to look there. I'm the needle in the haystack, and I have to get myself out of that haystack and into the manager, So I have to lie about my age and then hope that after they read about me they will understand why I did it and then decide, yes he is older than what I think I want, but he sounds like such a great guy, I'll talk to him. I tell the truth about my age and explain this reasoning in the text of my profile, so anybody that reads about me learns about it and why I feel I have to do it. I want kids, I have always wanted kids, life without kids is not life in my opinion, so I have decided, I have to do this even though it goes against all I stand for. I have been thrown off multiple times, the singles site POF due to this, They found out that I lied because I posted a thing just like this, and the people that run the site can't see why I need to lie, poof, my profile is gone. I see no reason to post a profile with my true age, to me that is absolutely useless, I have about zero chance of a profile like that finding a person that I need to find in order for me to live my dream of raising a family. That to me is what a union of the man and woman is supposed to do, nothing else comes even close. There are plenty of other things that are good about such a union but that is number one, it is what we are put on earth to do. Propagate the species, and hopefully improve it while we are at it, I believe we are practicing reverse natural selection, (another long and controversial topic to discuss) the dumb people of the earth have 10 kids the smart ones, maybe 2. I would make an excellent father, I am so sure of that, I have decided that I will sail a sailboat around the world searching for a woman that can see the good in me. Unfortunately most modern people are too short sighted and make a selection using a totally vain thing, as the number of years somebody has been on the earth. Does that do any thing to determine the quality of a person, if any thing older might be better, but advertising has brained washed us and that is forced down our throat everywhere we look, it continues to teach us preservation of youth is the number one goal. I believe in eastern Europe advertising isn't as prevalent and I will have better success. In the far east, I think age is worshipped and again my chances are improved. Wish me luck.

It was too long so I cut some will post it below (when there is a will there is a way)



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To the always alone guy,

The best thing you can do to get rid of that problem is learn to dance, if you get good at it, which isn't that hard, then no matter where you go you'll have a way to not be alone. The next thing to learn is to dance with everybody, even the ones you know you don't want, be a nice guy, it's only a dance. Be the nicest guy these women have ever met and you'll be in big demand. Then the ones you do want will take notice and want you.

You don't even have to get good at it, as long as you are fun to dance with, your not trying to look like dancing with the stars, your trying to be easy to dance with and fun. Almost everything I do on the dance floor is done to make it easy for the woman to follow and relax. If she can follow you and feel good about it she'll probably dance with you again. And then when you come off that floor and somebody, a total stranger, says, you guys looked great how long have you been dancing together, the smiles go from ear to ear.

About 8 years ago I won a country dance contest with gal I just met, she had never danced country before and we had no practice, I explained everything while we where dancing right before we did it. We've been friends ever since, in fact I danced with her last saturday night. It had been 6 months since I'd last seen her,


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I'll say hi to everyone in Florida, today I'm in Kansas, but I'll be back in LaBelle with my boats in less than a month. Any other sailors here. I could be looking for crew. I've got a web site about my boats, trips and life www.jheld.mysite.com Give me a shout. Jon


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I had 8 stalks of fresh picked Asparagus, chopped into 1 inch pieces, sauteed in margarine in an iron skillet, then three eggs poached on top, with a slice of Velveeta cheese melted on top. A glass of apple juice and it was a very good start to the day. Is this normal, no way, but not abnormal either. About 1/3 the time I do something like this, often it's raisin bran and powdered milk, or two oranges and a peanut butter sandwich.


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Kids and grandma cloud the picture a little. It was not an easy decision for her that's for sure. It casued many tears and words.


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Not met any face to face from here yet, but with other sites in the last 8 years or so I've probably met close to 30 or 40 for the first meeting. Many have been halfway across the country so distance is always a problem, a few I have had second dates with and a couple I've had 6 month or longer relationships. Just haven't found a right one yet. I'm sure I've talked to probably a dozen right ones (wish I knew which ones they where) but something just didn't go right, maybe a lost email (email with a new friend is very fickle, often one lost email and it's all over, each is waiting for the other to respond) It's a good idea to send that extra "what happened?" email when your in that waiting mode. The couple long relationships where close but just not right. It's real tough when you get older to find somebody that's fits the niche you have carved out, when you're younger we were very mold-able and we met and hopefully grow up together molding ourselves to fit each other, now that we have determined who we will be it's much more difficult to find a match.

I was almost married to one of them but the mother in law put an end to that. She decided that I was too old for her precious daughter. We had dated for over 6 months and were very happy and long on the road to being a happy family. She had two great kids. The mother in law (AKA a real B, in my book) had some money and threatened to take her out of the will. The daughter caved in to the pressure to keep grandma happy for the kids. Life is full of twists and turns.


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I agree that there are no specific questions, I just ask about life and things I want to know. View everything with a critical eye. If things seem too good to be true they normally are, be aware. I think women have more of a problem with this than men, but we have our share of problems too. Nary a week goes by that I don't get solicitations from foreign woman promising love and children in exchange for citizenship. Not put into such blunt words but that's what they want. They want the easy life we have here in the US. Soon it looks like the easy life is going to be in South East Asia, that's soon becoming the land of plenty. We are regulating ourselves into oblivion here in the states, everything is being farmed out and produced over seas, we can't survive only producing technology, we have to produce hard goods too. That's what really fuels the economy. Soon the average American won't have the knowledge to actually build anything, most people think work is typing on a keyboard, That produces nothing but maybe more red tape. ( I think I got a little off topic here, sorry)

If I could find the right type and an honest one from overseas it's not a bad offer, but I would imagine that at least 20% are actually men hoping to get my travel to the US money sent to them. I'm trying to figure out how to tell the right ones from the impostors, men and gold digging women. I've decided that meeting is the only way, but I'm not going to take the risk to bring them here, I need to go there, I might as well get at least a vacation out of my money. That's part of the reason for the round the world cruise idea. Promise them a life on a sailboat, don't promise the USA, if they will go for that then I think they want me more than the USA.


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Laddie
I would say to get some different pictures, do you have any of you doing fun things that you like to do, get a closeup of your smiling face, or laughing. If you don't have the pictures then take some more till you find three that you like. You have to project an image of fun and happiness. You do have fun and are happy aren't you? Spruce up the write up a little, read other peoples write ups, don't steal word for word from them but get some ideas about how to make yours read and look more appealing. Do a cut and paste into a word processor and do a spell check it's the quickest thing we can do make us look more intelligent. Everybody wants someone intelligent. We all can use a little help in the salesmanship department. That's what we are doing here selling ourselves. Then get involved in the forums and read profiles and contact people, they aren't going to knock down your door just because you have a profile up, you have to sell yourself. You got to convince them that they want to know you. It takes time, I've been at this for years on a number of different sites. I've met lots of great ladies, lots of first dates, many second dates and dated a few for a couple months and one for over 6 months. Be honest, thoughtful and kind, it goes a long way to making someone want to get to know you better. I've thought I've found her numerous times. Email correspondence is a very fickle thing. There are lots of liars out there, both men and women. It seems I've got a special problem at my age still wanting kids, so hopefully you'll have better luck. It's work but it's worth it.


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I'm new too, not to singles sites but to this one. I've met plenty of great people on sites like this. Just open up write the best profile you can about yourself, don't stretch it, be honest and open. Try to be complete, you aren't tryin to trap somebody, your are trying to get them to learn they don't want to live without you. Rewrite and rewrite your profile, mine wasn't written overnight, it probably took the better part of a year. It gets lots of attention, it just need to get the attention of the right one. You need to be proactive, you can't just put the profile on here and wait for the person to find you, you have to find them and write them to get them to look at your profile. Posting in the forums is good, anything that get's people to maybe think who is the person and read the profile. Get good pictures, one of the face and one of the whole body, that show you doing fun stuff.

Seems to be a lot of good ones on here at least in the 30-45 women wanting kids category, I haven't looked at the others and the men. I'll let somebody else comment about the quality of them.


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I will tell all and reveal just about anything anybody wants to know about me, I won't tell about others I know. I'm an open book, I wish everybody was, If your not proud of something you should have thought about that when you where doing it. If you need to explain what you where thinking at the time, then explain it but don't try to cover it up or lie about it. Lieing will only undermine a relationship, because then you have to wonder what else is a lie. Unfortunately I've had to lie in my profile on here and every other singles web site, but I quickly reveal the truth. It's one of the hardest decsions I've ever had too make. But having kids is much too important, and I am sure I'd live my life childless if I didn't do it. Most everybody forgives me, and if they don't I can't do anything about it. It's just something I feel I have to do. The right people have no problem with it at all.


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