Posted: May 8, 2008, 12:05 AM CST
muppetkiller wrote:My mother is in the hospital, again. My Step-father runs his ass off, takes care of my mother, ran a farm, sold it for bucks and he's building a business, with a smaller farm.
I asked him about his alternatives. He told me it was better than being alone. I asked him about walking out the door and keeping part of his life. He said he'd rather not be alone and he likes being the good guy. He said, "I'm that guy."
I want a guy, like my step-dad. I want to be like him. He does the right thing, because it makes him happy. I want that guy.
I'm not that girl, but I could be. I might be bitchy tonight, but I'll be kind tomorrow, to my mother.
I'm sick of hospitals, sick of being in them and the mention makes me a grumpy bitch. I have alternate personalities, and feelings, about them.
Anyone else have to deal with hospitals on a regular basis? Do you have a chronic illness, yourself? If you have a chronic illness, how do you stay sane, when dealing with a parent, or a child? My mother is a pain.
Sometimes, I just want to walk out the door and leave.
I am getting the impression that your mum might be in hospital cos of a mental illness rather than a physical one the way you are talking about her...
I can understand where you are coming from, not from first hand experience but from a cousin. She wanted to leave her mum plenty of times, and blamed her each time she ended up in the hospital. That all ate into her. Your step father has the right idea (only if he is just standing by so as not to feel lonely then its a sad story for him - and not a reason to look up to him)
If you want to stick by your mum, do it for her... Not to make yourself feel better or to be like your stepdad...
Maybe you should take a few steps back first....Take stock of your own life first....Then you might be stronger for yourself and your mum...
Its not easy...but its not easy on your mum either....
If I am way off the mark I totally apologise.... I only hopped over from Ireland to see if anything interesting...
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