Posted: Oct 23, 2007, 3:42 PM CST
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Hi.
What I'm going to say is going to sound mean,and I apoligize in advance.
I'd just like to know one thing...
Most of the women on these "friends/singles sites"put in their profile.
"looking for an honest man."
And most of the women,after asking you to tell them more about yourself,you tell them more,and the next thing you know they tell you that they don't want a relationship,they just want to chat.So why did they ask you for more personal info about yourself.I mean,if they wanted to just chat,why do you want to know all about me.I can "chat" to somebody without having to know everything about them.
(Personally and honestly...Yes,I would like to find someone special to share my life with.But until I DO find that person...I'm just looking to chat,flirt with,and maybe get to know anyone that is interested in getting to know or chat with me. I'm not looking to get married next week,or I'd been married several times before.)
I just had a woman do this very thing to me on another site.
And I guess the reason she "backed off"and just wanted to chat was I told her about my past experiences with women I've been with.I've had bad luck,and use to spoil the girls,the best I could.Only to get taken advantage of.This is why I'm single today.
I just can't figure out why some women say they want honesty and when you try to behonest with them,you seem to get punished for being that way.
And I have to add this...I've been out with a few of the local girls on line.And when I meet them,they are totally different in person.Their photos must have been taken years ago.Where is the honesty there?
Like I said,I'm sorry if this offends anyone.
I'd just like to know what to do at this point?
Is honesty the best policy?
There are a few of us that dont do that. Let me tell you about one of mine. there is a very nice person on this sight and when i first joined he wrote to me, well, i did write back, and he replyed.
well when you first join a site, everyone and there brother are e-mailing you and sending flowers that for me, well, was very over the top. I tried to answer them all and the one that i was really interested in was forgotten.
I did not mean to do it, but, it happened. When I found out i had forgotten to reply, I felt so bad, i just let it go. but, It never went as far as yours did. Just be who you are, and Honesty is the best policy, It was Her loss, just hang in there. she will come along.
Marge
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