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substitute bad attitude with negative pessimistic attitude to life


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Does a bad attitude cause depression or is depression what causes a bad attitude?


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i miss London but after two and a half years of contract work I left a ten year relationship behind and packed up for home coz I got tired of the bad weather and being alone in a shoebox and not working. I think London is overrated and due tot he constant influx of emigrants at least in law nobody bothers to employ anyone permanently. I could not live with the uncertainty and the cold city life did nothing for me. Now that I'm back in a sunny clime I get grumpy if there is so much as a day of bad weather. I agree London is a rat race and it's very highly geared. My quality of life there did not justify me staying. I wonder though about people like my ex who fitted in and would not consider leaving.


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well I suppose it's one thing when one's younger but when one's older and wiser could it simply be a case of moving on and not wasting one's time crying over spilt milk?


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i believe you are right. I would also add practicalities like territorial/non territorial professions and job prospects/economic reasons


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What makes some people emigrate and embrace their host country never to return to their native one and others nostalgic of their own country and go back? Do they have different mindsets?


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I think you're right. We're both having a hard time accepting and are clinging on to what's familiar. We both agree we don't want to lose the friendship but i guess it takes time to settle to being just friends. Unfortunately I cannot justify the bitterness or anger.


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I don't think it's the case. We had started drifting apart due to difficult circumstances which marked the entire ten years together. he said he needed time to figure things out and we both agreed that the only way to break the deadlock was to go separate ways. We're now living in different countries. Six weeks into the split he came on holiday to see me and after going back to London said he'd come back to patch things up but saw that I hadn't changed. He's costantly going on about how unhappy he was over the past year how much he had given up etc. and for three months I've been on the receiving end of a lot of anger where any discussion turns into an argument. Whatever I say he says I do his head in yet he keeps in touch and initiates contact. I can't make heads or tails of his behaviour. It's all very confusing. He's becoming very bitter and self centred and this is not the person I know.


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i guess it takes time. split was mutual though initiated by me and though I'm the one who wanted to make things work i never called names or got bitter about how much time and energy I invested in a relationship that ended.


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Is it possible to spend ten years with a caring human being who turns self-centred after the split? How does one reconcile the new person with the old? Is it all about resentment and bitterness after a split?


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From personal experience the higher the standards the greater the dissatisfaction and the downfall. Ignorance is bliss


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