Posted: Oct 31, 2006, 4:15 PM CST
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I usually can handle anything that comes in my path. I believe that my Higher Power will not put no more on me than I can handle. I've been through it all and it has just made me a stronger and wiser person. My mother is terminally ill. She is under hospice care. I am taking care of her. I have 3 brothers who live in a different state. I have asked for their support emotionally, in making a decision with my mothers care. I have been dealing with alot, of guilt and resentments. They did not want to have any part of it. I decided to quit my job and take care of her at home, for as long as I possibly could. This was her dying wish. I was informed today, that she is slipping away and it is just a matter of time. I'm not sure if I can watch my mother die in front of my eyes. My grandmother passed away last year, and I was the one who held her hand when she passed. I did not think that I could handle that, but I did. It was very spirtual for me. But I am so much closer to my mom. I don't usually ask for advice, (that's the stubbornness in me) but I really could use some words of wisdom right about now.
My Mother passed away 3 years ago....She was diagnosed with
liver cancer and 3 months to live....I also quite my job to
be with her.....However I had my other 3 sisters and a niece
there also to help with her care....
It was a very emotional and stressful time....and I think
guilt, resentment and all aspects of emotion reveals itself
during the time and sometime after....natural feelings.....
If you did not have them .......then there would be something
to be concerned about.....
I can't imagine what I would have done without the support of
other family members....and how much more strain it would have
put on anyone of us if we did not have that from one another...
What you are doing is unselfish...out of love and deep respect
for your Mother.....It is a hard and very trying journey but
at the end of that journey you will find that it is the most
satisfying....and rewarding experiance you will ever have...
As you said yourserlf The Higher Power will never put more on
you than you can handle and when you think you can know longer
carry the burdon....He'll help you through it....
In the end you will have had the precious chance to have been
their to comfort, to bond, to cry, to be angry, and to hold
her hand when she passes over to a much more peaceful place
and know that you made her time left here ....filled with
love......with a familiar face.....in a familiar place....and
that is something no one can ever take from you.....
Stay Brave....Stay Strong.....And My Prayers Go Out To You And
You Mother........God Bless You
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