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I think I'd like to stay in America, for now.

All those cctv's recording everything kinda creeps me out.

At least in America they do it covertly with no oversight so we aren't creeped out:)


whats the difference between the american way of life and the british way of life ?: click here to read the entire thread »

Every see the movie 40 days and 40 nights? Men can do it too! ;)


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I don't know enough about the situation. I haven't felt the desire really.

Like any person accused of something in America, I hope he gets a fair trial.


ARE THEY JUST PICKING ON O J SIMPSON BECAUSE HE'S BLACK INSTEAD OF FINDING OUT WHO KILLED HIS WIFE ?: click here to read the entire thread »

I remember having a big debate about that in a gaming community I was part of about.. ahh 5-6 years ago maybe.

For that crowd, the acron. was imo (in my opinion).

We finally reached the conclusion that it was OK in the online world. Text lacks so much emotion, that imo (or jmo) was like raising your eye brows, or finishing a statement with an open-ending.

Basically saying, "I think this, but I'm open to being convinced otherwise".

I'd rather just get someone on the phone as fast as possible:) I spend enough time typing at work.


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I think it is a combination of lost innocence, biology, and learned introversion.

1. lost innocence: The more times you've lost love, its natural to become more wary. Not all people react that way, but a lot do.

2. biology: the younger you are, the more hormones are masking features of a person that would otherwise not be suitable for you. I can look back through pictures and recall experiences now and I think... what was I thinking!

3. Learned introversion: The longer you stay alone, the easier it becomes, and the more uncomfortable it can feel to introduce someone into your world.

Thats my current guess of the week:)




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Yes hehe. Was on a another site. I already reported her (probably a him ) for phishing.




My first online response!: click here to read the entire thread »

Hey all, I just got my first online response, I'm so happy:)

So what do you think, should I help this poor girl out or what?

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i really don't have anyone to open up to,you'r the
first person am telling about me and maybe it's just
becuase you'r soft spoken and all,but i did like to
tell you what happened and where i'm here.I am in a
country they call nigeria in africa due to something
tragic incident that happened to me there's this guy i
used to go out with and i met him over the internet,We
got really close and he asked me to come over here for
a visit so i could meet him personally and we could get
to know ourselves much more,I promised him that i
would,which i eventually did some weeks ago,the day
that I arrived,we went to his house and i was there
till noon after which i went over to lodge in an hotel
rather than stay in his house,i was in my hotel room
till the end of the day after which he arrived and
informed me that he was going to get dinner and i told
him i was tired after a long trip and said i preffered
to stay at the hotel room,a few hrs later i got a call
from the hotel customer sevice that he had been
involved in a terrible car accidentand he was in coma
in the hospital,so i went there to meet him and all i
knew after then was that i spent all the funds i had on
me to save his life,but there was nothing i could do,he
died the next day and i just broke down and cried,I
cried back the hotel and stayed there,i was mourning
and there was no one to console me or do anything about
me,i was all alone and lonely,there was no one it could
reach out to talk to and no one to help me out,I just
kept asking God why,i've been in the hotel ever since
and i can't seem to find a way to leave here,bout some
weeks after the incident the hotel management asked me
to pay my bills which i was owing for staying there and
i could not afford the bills,{there's no one i can
contact at home,cos there's no one for me,mom and dad
died when i was still 5 and i grew up with mygrand
parents whom i lost in the hurricane katrina,i never
got to know my family members,now am all alone and i
need help,where would i get it from ?Would u be able to
heal he wound on my heart,and save me from this
predicament}.My ticket has been seized by the hotel
manager and if i don't pay my bills there's no way i
can leave here or yet meet you to fulfill a long time
dream of meeting someone who would put away all this
pains and agony that i'm going through and mend my
broken heart,there's no shoulder that i can lean,no one
to cuddle me and make me happy. I did like you to know
that i'm not putting a burden on you but i know that
you have a heart that's caring and loving and really
want us to be together,i pray that u would not hesitate
in getting me away from this place.I would like to be
with you,i'm humble,meek and kind and i'm a down earth
person,i'm willing to humble myself before you,I hope
that with all you know now,you would decide on either
leaving me in my pains or taking me away from this
place to you.


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Hang in there man. On that 3rd or 4th day, if you start feeling the urge, I've had friends tell me that writing out a list of reasons why you are quitting can help burn up some time, and reinforce why you are doing it.

Health
Smell
Smile
Woman
Money
Consideration of others
Co workers

Just write out that list of reasons for yourself and keep reading it.


filling good!!!!!!!!!!: click here to read the entire thread »

I pick out lots of people based on their picture and first sentence, but I'm pretty liberal with my "wide net" search.

Then I read the profile in depth. Then if it all seems good, I send an email/message.

When I first did a search by area, it was about 10 pages of profiles:) Takes a while to look thru them all.

So if I had to offer advise, it would be to make that first picture easy to see, clear, and full of personality. Then your tag sentence should be as closely matching who you are as possible.


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I'd make salmon, covered with a crab cream sauce:)

Of course, then we'd have to both brush our teeth, because its full of garlic hehe.


if you had a date and you were going to cook supper for them what would you cook?: click here to read the entire thread »

Thats a very good point. And it is something I'm struggling with a bit.

Of course, you want some physical attraction, but its very true that a person's personality can make them physically more or less attractive to you.

I've been in love with girls who some folks would consider homely, and in love with girls who some folks would consider beautiful. To me, both were beautiful though.

But I wonder if I'd ever find that "homely" girl to love online? The shear numbers of profiles makes sorting them out challenging, and then once that is done, and you've narrowed it down to a few who's words and/or appearance attract you enough to contact them, then you begin to find out who they might really be.

It sure seems like a needle in a haystack situation:)

Maybe what I'm really asking is if people believe that online dating, as a search tool (as opposed to singles events for instance) is really worth the time?


Online dating, realistic goals: click here to read the entire thread »

I'm fairly new to online dating (3days:)

What is everyone's opinion on being "realistic" with who you choose to try to date/get to know?

By that, I mean... so far, online dating appears to be scanning through pictures and a sentence, and picking out what stands out in your mind, or what attracts you.

Often times, (I suppose like most guys), I end up with 10 or so profiles I'm reading that are from really gorgeous women. Some I can picture myself with, others, while I might be able to picture myself with them sexually, there is a voice in my head saying, "Hey River, you might think she's hot, but come on... out of your league:)".

But... that leads to another question: Time and time again I see that being confident (but not arrogant) is an attraction to most folks. Men and Woman. So by NOT seeking out your "dream date" by convincing yourself she's "out of your league", aren't you, in effect, displaying the opposite of confidence?

I suppose if you never take a risk, you'll never succeed, but at what point do some of you decide to draw a line between realistic goals, and fantasy?

I mean, I'm pretty sure its safe to say that thinking "My goal in life is to date movie star X" is probably not a goal that will end up successful:)

So how about it? In the online world, where do you all draw a line between reality and fantasy?


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