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Whats surprised me the most about dating based on online profiles, is how terrible I am at predicting who I'll be attracted to based on their online pictures/profile:)

You can't tell until you meet the person imo.


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We need more money in schools, not more rules.




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"what do prefer your women to wear in bed... "

nothing:)


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Its only going to get easier to kill lots of people at once over time. bio, chem, conventional, you name it. It just gets easier to make as high tech becomes commonplace.

We need to minimize the reasons that people want to kill people. And then defend ourselves well from the remaining nut cases.

Regardless of whether we should have invaded Iraq in the first place, we broke it, so we bought it. At least our military is finally waking up and performing real counter-insurgency work (building the economy, infusing the local populace with power, becoming friends with neighborhood leaders, TALKING TO PEOPLE, and stealing the momentum of the insurgents).

I just listened to an interesting story on NPR about interrogation. They had a long time master interrogator with our military talking about how screwed up our policies have been since Bush and company took over the office. Without even consulting with experts in interrogation, they just assumed that brute force was the best way to get information. Wrong. So wrong. There are thousands of papers and years of experience saying otherwise.

Our counter-productive and ineffective interrogation methods are a small scale example of what our country has done all over the world since Bush took office.

I really hope that it's a lesson to the people who voted for Bush, but unfortunately I really doubt it will be. No amount of facts seems to persuade bush supporters/current war supporters. And the facts are out there about levels of dissent in the world and overall terrorist activity since bush started his 'war on terror'.

But you'll never hear about these high quality reports on the news. Fox News, CNN, etc.. are much more concerned about whether Obama is going to wear a war pin or not. Or which candidate screwing around on his wife, or which candidate inhaled, etc.

Thats why no matter what is happening in the world, I always vote for whichever candidate seems like they will support education the most. My only really glimmer of hope is that the country's overall intelligence grows over time.






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I look for people roughly plus or minus 7 years. Someone much older or much younger than that, and they'd need to be extra special to catch my eye I think.

Since I love music, I find that most people that I meet that are far older or far younger, have greatly different musical tastes. So that is an initial turn off. What moves your soul musically is often a great indicator of compatibility.. Not to mention, imagine a road trip listening to crap you hate! :)

Also, it seems rare to find someone greater than +/- 7 years around my age that is in the same place in their life. Goals, dreams, hobbies, etc..

I imagine that as I get older, that +/- 7 will expand a bit. I would assume that a forty year old dating a 50 year old is much less of a difference than a 30 year old dating a 20 year old.

I've seen some extreme age differences work before, but its rare.

At a dinner party, some person told me an interesting social rule about the low end: half your age + 7. So I could theoretically date someone that is 22 according to that rule. Seems too young to me. I've never heard any rules for dating older heh.


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I read about 2 books per week on average. Anything ranging from horror, to classic lit, to science, to conspiracy stuff, to philosophy, sci-fi, fantasy. And I just met someone who works for a book store, so I'm like.. in heaven:)


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I've never been a parent in that situation, but I've been a kid in that situation, so maybe I can help from that perspective.

Its really hard on the kids. The very first thing you need to do is suck up whatever resentment/hostility you might have with your ex and basically kiss her butt for the sake of the kids imo.

The every other weekend thing is just crap for the dad, if thats the time you are allotted. I remember feeling like it was work having to see my dad. I had to leave all my books and games and friends, and go to some strange neighborhood and hang out with a parent. Although I loved him, and still do, it felt foreign each time.

So if you can, see them more often. Become a bigger part of their life. Buy her a computer if thats OK with everyone, email a lot. Or a special cell phone just for her and you. Get involved in all the little details that you might miss out on. Daily. Call her often, make it a ritual if you want. Every night before bed a call, or every night before school a call.

She doesn't understand, nor can she conceive how much it hurts when she's distant, so its completely up to you to form the relationship. A young kid is only going to form relationships with things that are a daily part of their life. They have no idea how to maintain a long distance relationship, and every week or every other week is a LONG time at age 4.

Now that I've grown up, I've had ample time and talk to me Dad as an adult about those years, and just how hard it was on all of us. If I had a 30 year old mind back when I was 5 and my parents divorced, I would have told my mother and father, "Look, I know you guys don't like each other, thats why you split up. And I know the court said every other weekend, but thats bullshit. You two need to put your differences down, and I need both of you involved in my life. Daily"




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I dated an exchange student that went to my high school (long time ago when I was that age), and we continued on and off in a long distance relationship through part of college.

I don't think that I'd do the long distance thing again. It just doesn't fulfill my needs well.


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I've had some bad ones, and I do not think I'd be inclined to ever try again. I think the biggest mistake for me was actually believing that it was the same as a normal relationship. Its not. I would have been better served just to think of it as a long distance friendship.

Some people might be able to make it work, but not me. I need someone to hold every so often. Phones and email doesn't cut it:)


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Agree. It has been my experience that guy friends that are putting a girl friend off are either not that into the relationship, or are just in a jerk/ahole mood in their life and need to stop taking things for granted.

If you distance yourself for a while, he'll either wake up and realize that he missed the friendship and get back to you (and then is a good time to say how you feel about reciprocity) or he will stop calling, and then you'll know its time to move on.


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I wonder if it's appropriate to remove the Desiderata (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Desiderata) hanging in my bedroom and replace it with a framed copy of the 50 tips:)


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I've used those words twice. Both times I grew to love the person and the relationships lasted a long time.

If I had to guess why other people say that, then ya, its probably one of the following:

1. Was hurt before and is being careful.
2. Isn't really interested in you, and not feeling 'that spark' but will 'settle' for you if no one else comes along.
3. Isn't feeling that spark but has a hope that it will develop.


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Not all men.

But sometimes it does feel good to feel strong, and some men can't feel strong unless they are with a weak person. That is the fault of that type of man unfortunately.

The relationship is somewhat like sex. Sometimes it feels good to be in charge, other times it feels good to be taken over. A healthy mixture of both is great imo:) The problem arises when you are with a person that can only exist on one side of the fence. Although I suppose that some people might actually like it only one way (in bed and in life).


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Actually, I think I'm getting pretty close heh. I met a person on another site and Friday is our first date, but we've been emailing and talking on the phone for a while now. She's just fantastic:)

I'm trying to temper my feelings a bit, because I fully realize that its been a long'ish time since I fell in love and I don't want to go head over heels just because I'm missing attention... but man it feels good:)



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Oh I see, you mean the coin actually had the words "BC" on it. Well ya, that wouldn't make sense then:)


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Hehe... I'm confused. What does Christ have to do with a gold coin?

I worked in a museum and we had lots of coins dated before 0ad. Am I missing something silly here? hehe.


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Heh, thats nothing. Check mine out:)

Men 18-25 2 3.5
Men 26-32 6 1
Men 33-40 2 1
Men 41+ 4 1
Men TOTAL 14 1.36

Good thing I'm hetro:)

I think some guys just want to make sure that they stay in the top 500 rating. So they bump other guys down. Its kinda silly imo.




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I'm not sure about all guys, but I like to read more detail. Like, music, books, hobbies, favorite movie, etc.. And something quirky that stands out.

Like a profile on another site. Lots of details, places they like to eat, etc.. and then right in the middle of it, "oh, and I snort when I laugh, and I like cheese" haha. Just something that helps bring out your personality.

Sometimes those details are what makes me hit the 'send email' button. Without em, its hard to know if you'd connect with someone. And with thousands of profiles on the internet these days, it can take a long time if you have to email each person requesting that info.


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Here's my best guess as of today:)

People tend to be superficially attracted to anything they deem exotic. Exotic being above average; personality or appearance that almost a cartoon level of exoticism beyond an average person.

Woman are often attracted to danger, roughness, intrigue, dashing appearances, the 'james bond' or 'james dean' type thing. They might know in their heart that it wouldn't work long term, but their eyes and loins gravitate towards the most "alpha" of the alpha males by instinct. And in the wild, we know that the alpha rises to the top by being brutal, and strong.

Men, in contrast, are often attracted to pliability. The chance to spread their seed is greatest when a woman is pliable, inviting, and overtly sexual.

So, naturally, sensuous, sexual woman, who have a tendency to be pliable, will be 'taken' by super alphas who exhibit 'strong' exotic appearances, who are louder than the rest of the pack, and who are...well, sometimes jerks:)

(can you tell I took a few too many bio courses:))

So ya, its probably a superficial biological thing.







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About 10 years ago in college, I was part of a fraternity.

Right before the biggest party of the year, a few of us were running late due to lab classes, and were showering quickly to get ready.

Well a few of the guys decided it would be funny to take all the towels and our clothes out of the bathroom, lock every single door on the hall, and the house was filled with about 2+ sororities and 100+ random college folks.

So, being the braver (more stupid?) one, I decided to walk out on the window ledge, and get into my room from the outside. This was the second floor:)

So there I am, with a few wads of toilet paper between me and an indecent exposure ticket, when I see sorority number 3 walking up the drive. One of the girls happens to toss a plastic water bottle at our house (probably at some guy for fun) right when a cop drives by.

So the cop stops. And there's still me, about 20 feet in the air, wrapped in paper, with 15 ladies and a copy right beneath me...

You know what happened next. One girl looks up, points, another looks up, the entire crowd and the cop look up... so now there's one bright red guy wrapped in TP standing on a window ledge, trying to jimmy a window.

I eventually got the window open, with much "help" being suggested by the ladies below. I believe one of the helpful tips was "use the toilet paper to wipe the lock clean dude!".

After I finally got in, I got to meet the cop, and got a stern talking to about being an idiot and falling yada yada hehe.

Oh.. college:)


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