Posted: Jan 19, 2008, 11:34 AM CST
Hi girlnextdoor
Arranged marriages are and have been the trend in most of the East for decades now.
Only in present times we have begun to witness a slow change towards choosing your partner and it is quite often termed " westernization "
What happens is the family chooses a match based on many criteris. Family background ( lot of other family details ) , horoscope matching ( most of the times) , location , occupation etc.
Sometimes dep. on te family outlook the boy/girl have a say in the matter. And that is it.
In recent times, love marriages have cropped in to the scene. Even then usually it is within the culture , religion and sometimes community and the rest of the ritual and ceremonies follow likewise.
Ermmm.. Are arranged marriages successful ? Considering this is a time old trdition and divorce rates stilll havent gone upt hat far .. yes they are !!!
Do the partners love each other ? We are talking about a society where Education is limited to the man or woman who are educated like to fit in to the society mould. Further, familt dynamics is based on a large value system and caring and compromising so they do love each other in many cases.
On the other hand, if we cosider " one doest miss what one is unaware of " this holds good with a large section to. The lack of options to make a choice.
Its a gamble like in a love marriage but a bigger gamble at a personal level and lesser at the family and society level.
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