Sommerauer71 wrote:How? As adults do you view your parents?
I ask this because I stated in another thread how gorgeous my father is, and a person emailed me to state how wrong that is on so many levels.
Of course, he got the foxtrot oscar from me.
I look at my father, now, from a parenting view myself. As a little girl, I always wanted to marry my dad, he was tall, gorgeous, sorted things out for me, fixed my roller skates, gave me ice cream when I hurt, blew on my grazes, to help soften the blow... Brushed my tears away when I was heartbroken at 18, because my boyfriend dumped me, taught me to drive....
Why would I not marry my dad?
Because it is illegal?
He has been married now, to my stepmother for 30 years, they still hug, he still pinches her bottom, gives her a cheeky wink everyday, adores her, she him too... They are so close, love and adore each other, I wish my stepmother was my mother...
So, my question is, why do I see my dad as handsome and gorgeous, because he is...
He is stupid sometimes, as we are when we are adults, but I adore him and I cannot wait for a hug when I see him, I become that doe eyed little girl again and he becomes my dad...
You know, he, when I am at his house, in my childhood bedroom, still comes and lies on the bed net to me to give me a hug...
As he did when I was younger and he had returned from travelling..
So, how do you see your parents, pur parents are the first people we learn from, does your parentage have an effect ont he way you conduct your relationships?
I love my mother, but I find it hard to 'love' her.......... I loved and adored my dad and, in my eyes, he could do almost no wrong........ I've felt very guilty that I can't be a loving son to my mother but that's the way it is and I can't seem to change it.