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sexielady
Hudson, Florida USA
Posted: May 13, 2008, 8:22 PM CST
mbcasey wrote:
I thought I met the love of my life, but it didn't work out. People have told me she wasn't the one for you.

They also said "it will happen for you" I have even dispensed that advice myself to others who have been looking and had no success.

Do you believe there is someone for everyone? Do you think it "will happen" for everyone who is looking for love? Maybe there are some people on this Earth who are destined to be alone all their life, even though they do not want to be. Do you believe that could be true?


I feel that there are people that are destined to be alone. I personally have not had success in relationships. I keep picking men that have to cheat and lie. After years of this and after changing the type of man that I am with it has still happened. So to answer your question Ken, yes I feel that I am destined to be alone, even though I don't want to be.
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sexielady
Hudson, Florida USA
Posted: Mar 30, 2008, 6:02 PM CST
kidatheart wrote:
Odd, I didn't have any choice but to get mortgage insurance.

Even though I agree, it is mainly there to protect the lender and I had to put down 25% in order to get the financing. Not to mention I've had 3 previous mortgages and never defaulted once and I own a home that is paid for.


Different country different regulations? dunno Could be. professor


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sexielady
Hudson, Florida USA
Posted: Mar 30, 2008, 5:47 PM CST
ooby_dooby wrote:
sexieladie, what a pleasure it is to read a post written by someone who KNOWS what they are talking about. As soon as I started reading your post I said to myself "this lady knows her s__t!

When I moved to KY many years ago from a job change I obtained a 3/1 arm I knew the risks, yes they were explained to me and I also am not ignorant about financial matters. Back then arm's adjusted up after the initial term of the loan but nothing like today. I got the arm because I knew I would not be staying in KY for more than about 2 1/2 years. In a way I felt guilty about it because I felt like I was screwing the mortgage co but that feeling didn't last. I also made absolutely sure there was no prepayment policy on the loan.

I refi'd my mortgage on my present house in 02 and this time it was for a 25 yr fixed rate with no prepayment fee. The PITI debits my checking acct auomatically so I cant forget.
If everybody did what I do there would be no sub-prime debacle today.
I cannot tell you how many calls I've gotten from even my own mortgage co to refi AGAIN even before I reached break even on the first refi.

Serenity, I feel for your friends. They were slapped in the head by fate with a 2X4.

I think people on the fringe for buying a house should almost be required to purchase mortgage insurance.


Good for you Dooby, you were one of the few who used an ARM correctly. Yes I do know what I am talking about, have been a licensed mortgage broker and in the banking industry for many years. I do have to say that there were many good reasons for people to get either a 3/1 or a 2/1 ARM. Most of them did have a PPP. For the people that I put into those types of loans I always made sure we got them out before the rate went up and into a fixed loan. Most were 30 yr fixed. Some were 20-25 yr. It wasn't a bad way to purchase especially if you weren't going to be in the house long or if you just needed the mortgage trade line on your CBR to boost it up enough to get a conventional loan. I have mixed feelings about MI. Credit worthy people that traditionally have 20% down never had to purchase MI. Traditionally MI has only protected the banking industry. They also charge rates by credit worthiness as well. That never sat right with me. The bank is protecting the money they are lending and making money from the buyer based on their credit. If you have an 800 score then you pay less on the same amount of money that someone who has a 680 score. It's still the same amount of money lent out. For an FHA loan there is no getting around MIP. It is charged based on the amount of money borrowed and LTV lent. That seems more fair to everyone to me. And yes it still protects the lender not the borrower.


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sexielady
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Posted: Mar 30, 2008, 4:39 PM CST
Serenity1971 wrote:
I believe they are looking into it. I don't feel sorry for those that knowingly did it to themselves or for those that falsified financial records in order to make themselves look good enough in order to do the loan. In my book that's a form of fraud and they should pay for their crime, but that's just my opinion.


I agree with you there. thumbs up


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sexielady
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Posted: Mar 30, 2008, 4:20 PM CST
Serenity1971 wrote:
I understand and know where you're coming from on this, but I was speaking of ones that I know personally that do pay their bills, and have cleaned up or have reduced their debts. One family in particular I'll use for an example.

They are approximately $230,000 in debt due to unexpected medical bills from their child getting extremely ill. They have been trying to get them all paid off as well as handle the regular monthly bills plus their mortgage. Now they are looking at losing their home because of the circumstances. They wanted to refinance to a fixed rate, but due to the outstanding medical bills the banks won't do it.

So are they considered to be people that have abused the system. I think not. They have always paid their bills, but now they're looking at a fate that they never expected because of circumstances out of their control.


Then they need to speak with a broker that handles FHA Mortgages. 1. FHA is Not Credit driven and they do take those circumstances into account when they underwrite the loan. 2. FHA Limits have risen 3. FHA will refi up to 95% LTV. 4. FHA discounts medical. 5. FHA does have manual underwriting. They may not be able to combine all debt into the loan however they just may be able to get the PITI payment down to where it's affordable.

Yes I agree that there are a few people that life happened to and it was unexpected and they didn't abuse the system. Those are the ones that I want to help.

The majority of what is heard is from those who did abuse the system and are now looking for someone to feel sorry for them. That's what I get angry about. I know to many of them because I personally refused to put them into a loan they could not afford. They took their business elsewhere and now here they are the ones on the news and in the papers saying "No One Told ME". Yes there were the brokers that didn't disclose however all the title companies at least here in FL didn't get a choice to not disclose. The Disclosures had to be signed at closing and buyers have a copy. They were also told to read and understand before signing. I have seen to many of my clients that got mad at me because I told them not to go that route, go to where they knew it would be done and now they are in foreclosure. All I have to say for those people is sorry for your luck.

The people who were truly doing the right thing and circumstances such as your friend had happen are the ones that the new FHA guidelines have been written for. I implore you to have them check it out.


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sexielady
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Posted: Mar 30, 2008, 3:26 PM CST
Serenity1971 wrote:
hahaha

Unfortunately that's already happening. There are several people losing their homes due to the fact that when they got their original mortgages, they did an adjustable rate mortgage. The rate has sky rocketed and people that were paying $850 a month for their mortgage are now having to pay $2000 a month. It's heartbreaking to see many of these families lose their homes and that most of them put everything they had into them.


I have to say that this particular post upset me so bad that I wasn't even going to post at all. The more I think about what you say the more I have to post.

First of all lets put some perspective on the reason why people CHOSE to get an ARM. They either refused to put any monies of their own into OWNING a home and had to have 100 -107% financing with closing costs included so they came to the table with NO MONEY, or their credit was so poor they could only get and ARM at 80/20 or and FHA with 3% down. Now lets add into this equation that we also had option ARMs out there where people have a CHOICE of which payment they want to make. IF THEY chose to make the neg am payment they were told in advance what would happen. For those of you who are not familiar with what this is I'll explain. Option ARM gives a choice of making 4 types of payment. 1. Less than an interest only payment, where the balance of the interest is added to the back end of the loan. ie: if your interest is at 5% and the option is at 2% then 3% is added to the back end.So yes you could end up owing more than the property is worth. 2. Interest only payment, making the payment on 5%. 3. normal interest and principle payment. AKA PI payment. 4 normal PITI. Principal, Interest, Taxes & Insurance AKA Fully Amortized Payment.
Most people who chose the option arm chose to only make the first type of payment due to many reasons. These loans are now coming up. These are the loans that had 5 to 10 year options on the payments. The people who have these loans were FULLY DISCLOSED to before and at the closing table. They knew and know what they have and had. They also knew it was a way for them to purchase more than they could realistically afford.
Do I feel sorry for them? No. These people need to take responsibility for their own actions and quit blaming the government and banks. Yes the banks have their responsibility as well. They in turn lent money to people that have never paid a bill in their lives and wanted the moon. Yes the interest rates have risen and fallen and people that had normal ARMs also knew they needed to build their credit up so they could refi in 2 to 3 years to a fixed interest rate. Some did and most didn't.
Because banks lightened up on lending practices from the past and gave chances to people that would have NEVER had a chance to OWN a home and because it was abused, now the government is going to have to step in and put more regulation on an already over regulated industry and try to open up the secondary mortgage market. The lending practices have already spilled over to all types of loans such as the auto industry, credit card industry and education. The FED has a hell of a mess on it's hands and it's not just the banks responsibility.


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Posted: Mar 28, 2008, 8:52 PM CST
blue_eyed_blonde wrote:
hmmmmm.....sealed eh...well thank goodness you dont need your lips to type her name...
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Posted: Mar 28, 2008, 8:40 PM CST
kitty01 wrote:
Have you noticed all the new people are mostly women or young men, not many new ones in their 50's, so does that mean I will have to start robbing the cradle.


professor Hold on Kitty, good things come to those who wait! Besides you really don't want to train them do you? laugh


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sexielady
Hudson, Florida USA
Posted: Mar 28, 2008, 8:33 PM CST
blue_eyed_blonde wrote:
oh no, he hasnt come to me yet...shall met him soon tho, i hope..i have the ability to drive ppl crazy just on the phone or chat...


You go girl!!!!!thumbs up wink


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sexielady
Hudson, Florida USA
Posted: Mar 28, 2008, 8:32 PM CST
briansdeman wrote:
not much just sitting in my thong and playing with my dong gon gon gon gone


Sorry for your luck that it's gone......and I guess the thong won't hurt you since nothing there!dunno


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sexielady
Hudson, Florida USA
Posted: Mar 28, 2008, 8:29 PM CST
blue_eyed_blonde wrote:
yeh maybe he will, if i dont drive him crazy first... thanks for including me sexie, you will be in my thoughts as well.


professor Drive him crazy so he has to come to you!!!!!!grin devil grin


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Posted: Mar 28, 2008, 8:25 PM CST
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sexielady
Hudson, Florida USA
Posted: Mar 28, 2008, 8:21 PM CST
blue_eyed_blonde wrote:
thats not so far, mine is in another state...hmmm

hopefully in time, he will...


That's hard... I know what you are going through. Mine used to live 1200 miles from me until he moved back here. Maybe yours will come closer to you! I keep asking the angels for guidance! I will include you as well !
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Hudson, Florida USA
Posted: Mar 28, 2008, 8:15 PM CST
blue_eyed_blonde wrote:
cool!!! thats a long time, do you both live close together as in cities or what have you...oh cuss, im getting nosey...LOL congrats all the same tho


Yes we are living 5 miles apart. I would love it if he would come back home! wine


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sexielady
Hudson, Florida USA
Posted: Mar 28, 2008, 8:11 PM CST
blue_eyed_blonde wrote:
Yes, of course I know this topic has been done before ...

So anyways, does anyone have a new/old crush on someone or have you fallen in love lately???

And for gosh sake's you don't have to say any names, cuz I'm not... but by all means, feel free to share or give names


I have been in love with the same man for 6 1/2 almost 7 years. We have lived together and we have lived apart. Currently we are living apart. I know that he does love me and he knows that I am in love with him. Interestingly enough we actually met via the internet. We are working on the relationship. Maybe one day we can work out all the issues and be together.


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sexielady
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Posted: Mar 24, 2008, 8:22 PM CST
Freeya wrote:
oh oh, i think i better hide now...


OH No Freeya you don't have to hide now that you let the cat out of the bag! We just know what you are looking for so we can hook you up!
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Posted: Mar 24, 2008, 7:52 PM CST
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Hudson, Florida USA
Posted: Mar 24, 2008, 7:49 PM CST
Indyfella wrote:
On CS, we're allowed to have low standards.


Amen Indy! She is low with NO standards! laugh

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Posted: Mar 24, 2008, 7:41 PM CST
Freeya wrote:
this is a dating site,
hence,
if there is to be any hilary talk,
its got to be wether or not you would date her


NEVER IN A MILLION YEARS!!!!!! EVEN IF I WERE A GUY! NEVER! barfing barfing barfing


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Posted: Mar 24, 2008, 7:37 PM CST
Just one more reason I don't like the woman. How much evidence do our fellow citizens need to tell her once and for all she doesn't belong in the White House? She scares me and a whole lot of people that I know. Even hard core democrats!

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