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We had court yesterday. I went and testified. His lawyer asked me some weird question but I answered everything honestly. I know that my ex was taken back to the jail and is still being held without bail. What happens next...Im not quite sure. I know that he has a right to file for a grand jury hearing within the county. Im almost positive that he will. Then Ill have to go and testify again. I was so nervous and scared up there on the stand. He had his parents there, which think that I am a lying no good whore( his mom once told me those words). She stared me down and kept whispering to her husband. The weirdest thing is though, I now feel like I have done something wrong.

I have decided to contact an attorney and see what I will have to do to have mine and my childrens last names changed( to my madien name). I dont want to have any link to that family at all anymore. I am also seriously considering moving out of NY for a while. Im so uncomfortable here ... now more than ever.

I am as scared as hell but I know that I have to go and testify. I have contacted our local Aid to Victims of Voilence office and I am meeting with them on Monday. They will have one of their advocates go to court with me. I would love to have a huge, mean, ugly male accompany me...but I unfortunatly dont know any.

The officer that has been working with me since I filed the complaint said that he would be there on Tuesday and that he would make sure that nothing was to happen to me while leaving the court room. I have to believe him so far...hes been great(wouldnt even give the DA my address so that he could make sure that they didnt slip up and post it on something).

My guard has been up for the past two years..well, more than that even. I live with constant fear that Earl or one of his friends/family members will pay me a visit. The thought of moving out of state has crossed my mind a million times, but I have two other children that live with their father that I havent been able to leave behind.

Thank you all so much for all your advise and kind words. It really means alot to me.

So, I went to court on Monday for a paternity hearing and child support order. I was there but my ex didnt show. The judge, knowing that my ex has made a habit of not showing. put a temporary order in place for 50$ a month.

This evening I recieved a phone call. When I answered... my ex was on the other end...he said this to me...

You f-----g B---h!
You are going to make me loose my f-----g house!
You are going to make me loose my f-----g job!
You f-----g b---h!
Im going to hunt you down and f-----g kill you , you stupid B---H!

and then he hung up.

The scariest part Id that I have 3 current orders of protection against him and he has a very violent past with me. I called the police and made a report but the thing is is that they have to wait until Monday in order to find out his address from the family courts! He is being charged with a class E felony when they find him. Im feaking out and Im not sure what to do at this point...do I pack up my home and once again move? Im getting my phone # changed for the 4th time! I dont have any clue how he keeps getting it...it unlisted and not in my name!

What should I do? Has anyone out there been through anything similar?

Ok, I figured out.

You total income for the year in cents would be about 7.5 x 10^109

That's 7.5 times 10 to the 109th power. That's a LOT of pennies.

Each penny weighs about 2.5 grams so that's 0.0025 kg per penny

Adding up the total mass (or weight) of all the pennies I got 1.9 x 10^107 kg

That's a lot of kilograms!

Then I looked up the weight (or mass) of the sun. It weighs about 2 x 10^30 kg

A scientist by the name of Schwarzschild discovered that any object that is 1.4 times more massive than our sun will collapse in on itself and form a black hole.

Multiplying the mass of the sun by 1.4 gives only 2.8 x 10^30 kg, far less that the total weight of our pennies.

So in other words, if you put all your pennies in one place they would instantly collapse in on themselves and form a super massive black hole!

You could never get at your money since nothing can be retrieved from a black hole.

So you'd be penniless and you'd have really bad breath from having performed your job all year!