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While Africa has been brought up, here is the latest on 'the King and I and I and I...
While the excitement meter of our usually crummy lives continues to hover between "lame" and "blah", the King of good ol' Swaziland spent most of his last few weeks trying to choose another new wife out of 20,000 bare breasted teenage girls who danced before him in that country's annual Reed Dance Festival. Poor fellow! Despite attempts to modernize that country's archaic attitudes towards women, the King continues to wield absolute power and the tradition of picking new wives each year from Swaziland's thousands of virgin girls continues.
King Mswati III has taken 14 wives since he came to power in 1986, following in the footsteps,(or rather, the beds), of the previous monarch who ended his reign with 70 wives and 400 children.In 2002, the mother of the King's new wife began a lawsuit alleging that the king had kidnapped her daughter, but the court ruled that king had the right to select wives in the traditional manner.
Last year, the king even took back the one small step toward his culture's enlightenment by abolishing the law against having sex with teenage girls. The king himself initiated the rule in 2001, but has since repealed his own law and had been forced to pay the fine of several cows. (Reuters Press) Life is hard at times...


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By the details filled in by the paramedics/ ambulance crews, and doctors; just as the Fire and Rescue personel have to file reports on the women they have to rescue from being stuck/ wedged in their toilets...


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I'm assuming that many males would envy those men but would recoil at the costs involved.
A German study has found that having affairs can be quite deadly for men. Not because their wives might have them killed if they found out, but because men are about twice as likely to die during sex with their mistress than with their wives.
Research done at the Centre For Forensic Medicine in Frankfurt studied over 30.000 deaths covering the last 30 years and found that 60 men had died during sex, almost all by heart attack. While only one in four died in the arms of their wives, over half of them during an unfaithful fling and the rest died during masturbation.
One possible explanation may be that the added stress of having sex during an affair may have caused the heart attacks, but the researcher's only conclusion was that the men were trying to impress their extra-marital lovers and that extra effort caused the heart to kill them...This as also been known to happen to much older men that married young, beautiful women that had vociferous sexual appetites...ahh yes, the old 'dying with a smile on your face routine...


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The fanatics on both sides of this issue can state what they like, but they will never improve upon the advert signs that were put up in Piccadilly back in the 60's: one sirn read "'GOD IS DEAD. NIETZSCHE", while on the opposite side the huge sign read: "NIETZSCHE IS DEAD. GOD"...


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Excellent points brought into focus by both of you be it the 'virtual domestication' of a family or the re-shaping of reality into a heaven or a nightmare by imposing one's virtual dream world unto everyone Else's world. This then, of course begs the question of a measuring stick as to what constitutes a better or for worse world; does it come down to if it helps more people than harms them then it is for the better...reality versus virtual reality is a double edged sword then, for all concerned.
The woman in Japan however did not seek to hide-away alone as she had joined a popular game site for her to acquire a virtual family or at least a husband and when sum merely dismissed, she got pissed. Perhaps it is a far better thing that this woman was not involved with a real life situation then....
We all need our various types of sanctuaries to escape the negative effects of our respective realities, in whatever ways we are comfortable with, but it is understood that it be done in ways that do not harm others, we are usually left to our devices, be it drugs or painting but not plotting the deaths of others or as a game addict of Dungeons and Dragons role playing his part in the reality of the work-a-day world . Crossovers are not appreciated by society in general, just ask Pinky and The Brain...%D
All-in-all, let people have their inner sanctums or inner rectums as the case may be and as long as we can recognize the boundaries between what is real in the here and now and of those things that are not most of us will remain fairly balanced. A little swerving around doesn't have to hurt anyone...%) Now, where is my wine bottle and my books.....


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Interesting point, but I doubt that the 'virtuality' of anything can take over without a person initiating the events on purpose or by default; then again we have the problem of 'existence' versus 'living' don't we...is it better to exist or to live...sort of 'ask not what the world can do for you, but what can you do for the world!' %D
Here we are on another precipice of mental anarchy, better consult our copies of the Hitchiker's Guide To the Galaxy...for inspirational purposes only...%D
More and more, however are opting out of 'reality' as many find it unbearable, unreliable, incoherent and unstable, but then again, Life is fluid and changes; stagnation is in the end willful. People bring it on themselves for varied reasons. Not all can cope with the circumstances they find themselves in. The virtual worlds that exist and are created by those are only isolating and exacerbating their problems until they reach their breaking points ...
To Live or to merely exist...ummm a virtual Shakespeareian monologue..%D


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I find it both hilarious and pathetic....love the reality headline:
'Woman charged with virtual murder!' only begs the question Will the real murder soon follow? Possible news film at 11pm...
The social aspects of this can only become more pathetic as it is analyzed deeper that people take refuge in and seek social affirmation by living virtual lives, but then again, in many cases reality is far worse...I hope the follow-up stories will debate this complex issue.
To each, their own...c'est la vie


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Puerto Plata is great; hell, the whole of the Dominican Republic is a bit of heaven. The resort at Puerto Plata is very close to the Haitian border however and it can be amusing to watch the security people chasing the ones that get through the fence...%D
Still, I could live there all year quite happily %)


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I have always found it rather ironic that there are no laws against showing tolerance for others in whatever category, no laws forbidding the expressions of love for, of other peoples that make up our planet's population yet it is extremely rare to have anyone post such attitude; 'Love' is definitely NOT in the air...lots of other crap is bot not Love; Hate fills our world, it is omnipresent in all possible forms 24/7...yet there are laws against it everywhere; punishments abound for all sorts of 'hate crimes' yet it is the most exercised right of expression everywhere, especially on Dating Sights....of those that have forums. All Internet forums are dominated by hatred being expressed of someone, of something, somewhere by someone...
Hatred of other peoples is a real darkness of the soul of those who spend so much time and effort to express their various hatreds. It is the darkness of human souls that have lost their way. A person that hates is never at peace , either with themselves let alone with others.
Harmony is far more productive that hatred any day.


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The one soundtrack that keeps eluding me is King Creole that Elvis did in the mid 50's. One day I'll find it. In the meantime I have just gotten a few dozen CDs from Putumayo World Music; Arabic, North African, East, West and south African contemporary Jazz, Blues and Rock as well as traditional classic music and songs from these cultures. Everyday the kasbah rocks. Arabic Jazz-Rock is just phenomenal. Putumayo have a never ending international catalogue of music from all over the world; every country, every category. Just fantastic.


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While most of the listed colours are in my house be they in total or partial room colours as each are done in different motifs, bedding, linen, furniture etc. Even purple in a re done hippie style 'pad' room, to black oriental carpets, orange is restricted to some bath assembles and any greens appear only in Chinese folding screens as trees. I don't find green very appealing. My favourite colour is actually Technicolour!
My least favourite is white...it always seems like an unfinished canvas.


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Very good. It needs to be remembered what he did and especially did not do. When I watched him outlining the faked photos and giving his assessments of what they alledgedly showed and implied, many in Europe wondered who had scripted his performance. He followed his script perfectly, knowing full well it was nothing but lies.
And for this people regard him as the ultimate example of what a good soldier is. I find this both ludicrous and tragic.
Perhaps it is because I have spent too much time around soldiers who believe that the true soldiers of any nation are not puppets who dance to the tune of the State when their strings are pulled and manipulated by the politicians; who believe that when the State is deadly wrong, then it is their measures as soldiers to step in and rid the State of the criminal politicians and all their puppet soldiers and not stand by keeping silent and doing nothing.
General Ge Gaulle many years ago wrote a a treatise on soldiers and the State and what their real, true responsibilities should be when the State is not only wrong and clearly do not have the best interests of the country nor its citizens at heart. It is all laid out in a small book called 'The Edge Of The Sword" In the last analyses, when all is said and done, there can be but one solution and that solution is a military revolt: a coup by the military. Bring Ceasar down by force.
Sadly, De Gaulle himself forgot this when he pronounced himself 'l'Etat
C Est Moi' over the Algerian debacle.
Soldiers such as Colonel Chateau-Jobert, General Salan, Major Denoix de Saint Marc and many other officers and their soldiers who dared to revolt were the heroes because they at least tried to bring down de Gaulle. No silent sidelines for them. They may have failed, but they were still right to try. Collin had, as a few others had that responsibility to try but they stood by, and all kept silent. Those types earn nothing but contempt, especially from History.
The life of a country depends upon its soldiers not its politicians for its ultimate existence and freedom. Soldiers and Freedom is not an oxymoron, bot Freedom and politicians usually is.


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See the film The Handmaid's Tale, for the full visual impact of American Fascism; the film stars Faye Dunaway, Robert Duvall as 'The Commander'. Film was made in 1990 and virtually passed un-noticed . Typical.


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I suppose that we will shortly hear from one of 'the sacred group' claiming it is all true and will even elaborate on details...wow, can't wait! %D


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Your question is good, but it is predicated upon the assumption that this world we usually live in is not only real but the only world of existence. This is a fallacy.
This normal, solid world around us is just a facade, and, while we believe that it is THE world, the ONLY world, we are deceived. This assumption that we are in a perfectly ordinary, logical world, and that we know most of the rules, traps us in a kind of permanent tunnel vision. The mystic writer Gurdjieff used the the somewhat alarming simile of hypnotised sheep, who are kept in a state of trance by a magician who wants to save money on fencing, and so assures the sheep that they have nothing to be afraid of, and that nothing is going to happen to them. There can be no doubts whatever that , (especially after fully reading through , for example, Carl Jung's book, strangely entitled 'Flying Saucers--A Myth of Things seen in the Skies', in which he identifies in detail that not only UFO's but many other things are but 'projections' of the collective unconscious of mankind or what he labels as 'individuation'),this 'illusion of normality causes most people to waste their lives and fail to grasp their potentialities.
If, instead of this vast facade of triviality that surrounds us, we could become more aware of the complex realm that lies on the other side of it, we just might stop wasting our lives and really, actually find our various missions.
The writer John Keel perhaps comes the closest to all this in his book The Eighth Tower. A very good book to have around as a sort of 'reference to reality'...%)
We sometimes catch glimpses of a larger reality that tells us there is so much more; we glimpse something far richer and bigger and more complex, a feeling that we are on the verge of discovering some secret. And the secret somehow belongs to the same type as to a young person's discovery of music, art, even sex for that matter. It is a promise of Freedom, of far more freedom than we could ever believe we possess, and also of control over our own lives.


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Barack Obama and John McCain have clashed over their economic plans and other issues in a fractious final TV debate before the US presidential poll.

In a series of testy exchanges, Mr McCain accused Mr Obama of lying and of having ties to a domestic "terrorist".

Mr McCain also accused his Democratic rival of wanting to raise taxes.

Mr Obama sought to link Mr McCain with President Bush and said he was running a negative campaign. Immediate voter polls found Mr Obama came out on top.

A CNN poll of people watching Wednesday's debate said Mr Obama won by 58% to 31%, while a CBS survey found the Democrat the winner by 53% to 22%.

A poll of undecided independent voters by US network Fox also suggested Mr Obama was the victor.




Who is 'Joe the plumber'?

Mr McCain's reference to Mr Obama's association with Bill Ayers, once a member of a US group that waged a violent campaign against the Vietnam War, continued the main Republican line of attack from the past 10 days.

Mr Obama rejected Mr McCain's criticism over Mr Ayers - now a university professor with whom he has served on a charity board - pointing out that he had been a child at the time of Mr Ayers' radical activities.

"Mr Ayers is not involved in my campaign," he said.

Mr McCain, senator for Arizona, also accused Mr Obama of big spending on attack ads.

The Illinois senator responded that 100% of Mr McCain's political adverts had been negative and that voters were more interested at this point in how the candidates planned to fix the economy.

'Spread the wealth'

The 90-minute debate, held at Hofstra University in Long Island, New York, with moderator Bob Schieffer of CBS News, elicited more direct confrontations between the candidates than their two previous encounters.

Again, McCain seems harsher, but is this not what debating is all about?

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Both candidates sought to explain how they would make their promised economic packages and spending plans fit with a rising US budget deficit.

Mr McCain said he would be able to balance the federal budget by cutting wasteful spending and urged voters to compare the records of the two candidates.

He used the example of "Joe the plumber" from Ohio who expressed concern about what Mr Obama's tax plans might mean for his business after meeting the Democrat at the weekend.

Mr Obama rejected Mr McCain's charge that he planned to raise taxes on higher earners to "spread the wealth around", saying that "nobody likes taxes" but that investment in the economy was necessary.


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Mr McCain sought to fight back against Mr Obama's attempt to link him to the policies of the Bush administration.

"Senator Obama, I am not President Bush. If you wanted to run against President Bush, you should have run four years ago," he said.

Mr Obama countered: "If I have occasionally mistaken your policies for George Bush's policies, it's because on the core economic issues that matter to the American people, on tax policy, on energy policy, on spending priorities you have been a vigorous supporter of President Bush."

The two candidates also traded blows over their policies on energy.

While Mr Obama spoke about his support for alternative energy sources and the need for the US to build highly fuel efficient cars, Mr McCain voiced his backing for offshore drilling and nuclear power.



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Age matters only for cheese and wine %)


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Sounds like the simple reverse of the 'Russian Missile crisis' in Cuba only now it's US missiles...Europe needs no more US missiles, they've never yet taken their atom bombs out from Germany.
Perhaps a better solution would be to have Germany build and deploy missiles along with the French against any so called 'rogue state', and expand European Defence to including Russia, after all we are all European; the Yanks are NOT Europeans. The entire concept of Europe includes Russia not the US.


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This is but one reason that short selling was stopped as more US companies and financial firms were(are) worth more dead. The NY Stock Exchange correctly said that it would not last long as the Security and Exchange Commission have no jurisdiction outside the US and short term selling is back with a vengeance and that will bury more financial firms and further devalue the already inflated dollar. The Treasury et al can print all the money they want; there is absolutely nothing backing the dollar, it's alleged worth is debt based, meaning its really worthless.


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One learns by various ways to keep one's mouth shut especially when it comes to Love; if you do learn to keep your shut, then it always ends up as too late for everyone.
Not only is there not enough Love in this world, there isn't enough people saying they do love someone, despite the pain of being usually rejected...


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