venere08 wrote:I would just like to add a quick comment. The thread refers to 'married people'. NOT married couples.
This accepted, those who have posted seem to agree, that the thing that concerns them, if anything, about a married person posting on this site, is the specific type of married person, ie the situation they are in which could ultimately impact on the emotional well being of another person they might forma bond with over time, during their online interactions.
I don't think I need to spell out the issues that could arise from someone who is 'separated', and so is still married, even if the two people live separately. This scenario was covered earlier in the thread by a couple of other CS's.
When that 'separated' person still has a significant enough relationship with their wife/husband', essentially some sort of emotional ties may still exist. Certainly resolution has not been achieved by at least one party.
Problems may occur when that 'separated (still very married) CS person relating to another very SINGLE CS. The 'married' CS may perhaps not be treating online relating as 'real' or 'serious', or that real emotions are actually involved. Then these two people meet in RL. I don't have to spell out the potential issues that may occur when these two people meet. It may be only then that the 'separated/married person realises that it is a real person that was actually online. And that real emotions are now to be sorted out, not just for one, but possibly both.
Any other scenario of being separated/married on this site, really matters not, as apart from personal preference/bias, has no measurable impact on anyone's emotional/mental wellbeing.
I understand and agree with your post...a very good and fair one...
Although, in my case, my husband doesn't post on here, he's not a member either. He
does have access to my computer and account here if he chooses...but he chooses not to because we have trust.
Trust is very important with both of us...
But there have been a few other comments that aren't quite as fair as yours...
example:
dancingfarmer wrote:My personal preference would be to keep the friends I made on here by e-mailing them directly and not staying on a singles site after I got married. You don't need to stay on this site to keep in contact so that excuse doesn't hold water.
IMO, that's a
very close minded way of thinking...and it may have really offended some...such as myself...
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