Oh dear... the toils of being young & inexperienced.
I wouldn't want to be that age again for anything!
Ok, look... you have a couple of factors to look at besides age.
He's been really hurt, maybe for the first time. He's carrying that baggage around like it's designer.
You've already been through a failed marriage & you now have a child.
May to October is nothing... a drop in the hat. I doubt you can speed this guy's pace up & if you did, you'd only ruin the outcome.
So... you'll have to decide, do you want to sit his little but down & say...
"look I want this to work, screw the past... show me some dedication now or I'm walking"?
...or...
Do you want to let him unfold before your eyes, at his own pace. Keeping in mind, just because his pace is slower than you feel is needed, doesn't make it a bad thing. I often find the slow but steady guys are the most dedicated, loyal & responsible.
The first thing would be to iron out this little matter of the so called lies. Real men don't need to lie to mommy & daddy about their dates.
...I'm just say'n, either he has some codependent issues or he needs to stop using cheesy tactics to impress you. Find out which it is.
Now, YOU have to go decide for yourself.
Good luck.
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