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Skeptikos:

It is one thing to over-analize everything in your life "out there" : It is an entirely different thing to look within yourself for your own meanings and answers.

One is mental dung: the other is the golden essence of your life itself and sadly, the essence of what for most, is their greatest fears---the TRUTH ABOUT THEMSELF.

Sorry, it not about judgement, and, I don't see a great deal of the latter on this forum . . . y'know.

Really makes folks nervous when anyone goes there.



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I'm 60 and sex is still damn important. But for me, I don't go there unles I feel the relationship has a chance of going somewhere. I know who I'm lookng for and I know how to weed the garden very quickly.

Where does that all get me sexually? . . .

Lets just say that if I want to have safe sex these days, it usually requires a rubber glove.


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Yes . . . sigh!

Story of my life. Not many women out there can understand me. I've been accused of over-analizing---don't know if that is what you are saying. That lady was clearly just calling me an )o(



"S okay. Been called worse.

It's the thought system. Some call it "Consciousness" or "New Age"--and then y'r right. Even of those, most don't take it as deep as I do. But then, most don't regard the Grim Reaper as a best friend.

Sweet--sour . . .
Good--evil . . .
Those who truly appreciate life--I believe--must know death.

YIKES!!! THERE I GO AGAIN . . .




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" . . . worth more" or ARE MORE.

Samo-samo . . . dontcha think? Isn't self-worth really about recognizing that the truth about this consciousness that most are so focused on as being, is really such an infinitesimal small part of who we all really are?

We all know the definition of infinity, but we (this conscious being) are simply not capable of truly KNOWING what that is. I think it is the same with knowing that "higher power" or "God," just as it is with knowing our souls.

Ah well, enough spiritual fornication for now. Let's prolong the orgasm.


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Absolutely true . . .

Nothing ever changes in your life---different faces, same people---until YOU change. And to change you, you must change your mind. You must see things differently.

Like I once did, most everyone needs tell themself a lie or two every time they wake up just to get themselves thru the day. If the didn't---If they faced the truth, they'd have to change---their whole life would change. Most don't truly know just what that change would be. We all fear the unknown. But most are clear that there would be a price. And that price is something they'd literally sell heir soul rather than to pay.

For me, then, I knew it would cost not having that woman in my life to love again.

The grim reaper reminded me that my soul is all I have and all I am.


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Interesting thread . . .

Yes, I had a woman who stuck with me thru "thick and thin." Fact we were married for 25 years and I loved her with all that passion that the romance novels all try to portray. You know, when she was around my heart literally wanted to sing. I loved her with the kind of love that few ever know and for that I wouldn't change any of how it was for me.

Then came a time---ten days in a hospital---when it looked like it likely was all over. I waited for a blood clot in my leg (injury) to either dissolve or for more to break loose into my lung and kill me. Yes, I had that privelige to look the Grim Reaper in the eye and to know him with intimacy. And I got honest with myself. My wife was not there facing him with me.

My wife---absolute beauty that she was---loved me to the best of her ability. But it was NOT the same love as I held for her. There was commitment, there was caring . . . Yes she stayed with me caring for me, while she suffered. Somehow for her, true love had to suffer. She was never happy. She wanted more. I was just not good enough. I knew she'd loved the man she knew before me and it was never a source of jealosy or contention with me. But I suddenly realized that I could NEVER be enough. I had been adopted by a mother who wanted her own child but settled for me . . . So yes, I created that all over again with my marriage.

In meeting the Grim Reaper I changed! And that relationship, that sick F****** game was no longer one I would play with her. It took about 18 months to finally agree that I too, wanted that divorce she 's been threatening me with about once a month for those past 25 years.

Now I am looking for that woman who wants that perfect love with me that I once had with my ex-wife. And I want to know that kind love within me again too. I'm clear that it is not how perfect the other person is, rather how perfect your love for them is. But this time I will not settle knowing it is not the same for her.

I've listened to y'all lament your marriages here. Maybe with me, you can see the other side of it just a little?

Egorhh


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