Posted: Aug 27, 2008, 1:40 PM CST
jbibiza wrote:If you have had love in your past but for one reason or another have left the relationship... not mature enough to realize what you have... social pressure that they don´t fit into the norm of who you should be with, having difficulties committing to a relationship, timing... Is there still a chance to meet someone for a long term loving relationship?
In other words... Can you walk out on love once to often?
Nope. Only if you believe that. There are no limits to possibilities that you ask for. It's how you align yourself with what you want, and don't want.
There is always a chance to meet someone for a long term loving relationship. The first step is to believe it and ask for it (easier said than done), but the universe will give you the opportunities that you ask for. The trick is to believe it without a doubt. Focus on the positives, and don't focus on the fears and the negatives.
The fun part is having the patience and perseverance to do not give up...lol
gingerb wrote:Mistakes are a learning experience. Having those particular mistakes, you are less likely to make those particular ones again.
The thing about lessons is, we get wiser, but sometimes that can also mean we get fussier, to our own detriment.How many chances you get depends on how open you are to letting it in and how well you got rid of the lingering after effects of the other ones.It's a bit like looking out at the world through lovely lace curtains. They let in light and protect you from the bad effects of the sun. They give you privacy, and let you heal. They defuse the world and look pretty, but to see clearly, and to be seen, we have to open them up and let in the good as well as bad rays, and accept the view, atmosphere. and light, because we need the full effect of it, to live. .........
Nice insight ginger
Ambrose2007 wrote:Isn't that Crosby, Stills, and Nash, AL?
I think you may have hit on something key here. People who are "falling in love addicts" - that is, people who are in love with being in love but really aren't able to sustain it for whatever reasons - will eventually, I think, begin to burn out on the process...perhaps may come to believe that their opportunities are running out for true love.
These poor people are, in my view, chasing a chimera of love...and they'll no more be able to capture it than they'll be able to finally seize the gold at the end of the rainbow (if you'll forgive the mixed metaphor)
I personally don't think there is anything wrong with wanting to fall in love or being addicted to it (in a controlled/realistic way). It's just a problem if one becomes depressed or angry if it does not happen on their terms.
I strongly feel that the important thing is realizing what it takes for "being and staying in love" as well as being aware of the process that usually takes place when a couple experiences the falling in love part in the first month to six weeks, like for example when your partner can do no wrong in your eyes during those first few weeks filled with vibrant hope and expectations.
What I have experienced when my past relationships were going good, was when you can just be happy and live in the now without placing any absurd expectations on your partner to make you happy. To expect conflicts is also healthy on so many levels. You can't just expect everything to flow smoothly.
I agree Ambrose, Hollywood has memorized the general public of it's projection of what love is. Just the other day my daughter saw a tv show that depicted an unrealistic version of love. So I tried to explain to her that not everything works out in real life like it does on tv.
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