jlb684: Interesting timing for me, as I am still trying to get over a relationship I was having with a much younger man. Until now, I haven't mentioned his age. He is 33. I am 54. 21 years between us! I was falling for him...no, scratch that. I DID fall for him. Hard. And I am still in pain over this, more pain than I have felt in many years. I ended it with him because I was falling in love with him and didn't know what the hell I could possibly do with that. And every day I am paying the price for both...for falling for him and for ending it.
Anyway....I didn't really know how he felt until recently. He spent a lot of time with me, we went out and did many things together, he introduced me to his friends, he called every night that we weren't together, and we talked of things we were going to do in a few weeks, next month, even next year. All of his actions told me that he really cared and wanted to be with me, but he didn't vocalize it. And I was scared. Scared that he was just having fun for now. Scared that he would end it with me. So I guess I was doing a pre-emptive strike (stupid, stupid me...it sounds cold, but I saw it as some form of self-protection at the time). I saw him on Friday night. We met to talk. We met at around 10:00 and talked until 5:30 the next morning. During that time, I saw as much pain in his eyes as I had in mine. He fought tears, but I saw them.
I don't know what we'll do.
I only know that, in this case of older woman and younger man, the younger man cared more than I had imagined, more than I would have ever guessed. We still have a mess on our hands. But, no matter what happens, I will at least always know that it wasn't just a fling for him. And that gives me comfort while at the same time it brings me continued heartache.
If he had said something earlier do you think it would have made a difference in how things ended?
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