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Hey Bob...

I know what you mean Hugz. What is most problematic from my point of view is that we as society of people have all but demonized emotions and feelings. You couldn't name one percieved negative emotion and not find someone who doesnt deplore its presence. Like jealousy just for instance. It, like most emotions gets such bad press that we become afraid to admit them openly, so the feggin brain comes up with ways to work around it rather than admit what is "taboo' in society at large. Its a strange connundrum for me. Back asswards me thinks.

The social and personal denial of emotions,forces the brain into tangential outlets, that become difficult to decipher in a crisis moment. If youre asked "why were you talking to that guy like that", that's the ego brain saying "I feel jealousy", but wait , I cant say I'm jealous because its weeny or bad press for me, I'll look like an ass, SO I'll say something that puts the same thing out there, only blame your weakness for it. So the outletting gets disguised and wrapped in egomaniacal construction. I wish society wasnt like this, but it is with most emotions and because of it most people couldn't readily or properply identify an emotion save to say theyre angry. Thats but one of many particular emotions, but the only one that seems to be accepted by and large as non woosey or 'ok for all' to have at times.

live long and prosper we're all becoming Vulcans

I can't seem to stop thinking about my ex and its driving me crazy. Anyone got any advice that might help?

I am waiting.And thats waiting time will take a few month.

oh my , I disagree with you.

I think honesty comes in when one can no longer keep up the facade and indeed becomes the most honest of their character then. I think they are dysfunctional before hand, hide it in the beginning and can no longer hide it.

I think the dishonest part is the beginning, the face that hides the dysfunction. To be totally honest and thats a pipe dream because it would never happen and I wouldnt expect it, but honest should be a constant and maybe thats what you mean?

I myself avoid people who are always joyous, never challenge my views. I look for people who won't let me get away with dysfucntional shit, (in a constructive critique). I dont want someone who will "fill their closet with goodies" to attack me with later on when they feel more comfy and I'm not that way myself. Be dysfucntional and I will tell them. If they run then I assume they want to be that way, so bye bye..

It is a lot of work, youre right, constant reinventing of ourselves together, finding ways to amicably disagree and still find resolution. its hard to get away from the utilised aspect as well. I'm not sure I would want to totally, the whole purpose of together is utilisation in its lovong sense hopefully.

Hiya Ms. Trish, how are ya doin'

Big River - The Highwaymen

Thanks Trish I will not study today.To hawe 95 in100 is soo far away
forgive me for my perfect english.
Many times I dont understand nothing than my posts when I read a few times later.

Well I agree Hugz though I dont think its necesarily romance as much as effort to understand another. And you may be right about it being "until after the honeymoon so to speak" I think both men and women experience this and then revert back to dysfunctional behavior because its hard to keep up appearances that aren't already burned in to our psyhche. I agree romance should be reworked and sprinkled liberally though, it a woman's need generally.

I meant though that I think we need to practice functional behavior, so that it becomes burned in to our psyche. We are so much more functional in the beginning, because as you say , there's a reward factor, bu then the old crap works it way back in as we become more comfortable letting out who we really are. There are lots of really good books on this I'm sure. Learning to negotiate etc. Its no so hard to negaotiate with someone who wants what we do, but when its someone who deosn't want what we do, well ... if you dont have functional skills, results will prove it.

I think that's the problem...once people get together as a couple...someone may decide no more effort needs to be made....this is quite prominent in the "I'll romance you until I get you" philosophy....then no more romance because it's not needed anymore....if we gave half of the things out of love for the person we are with rather than there needing to be a purpose to it all...then maybe things might be a bit different!!!!!!!!

That wouldnt be tooooo bad but you're still including someone you trust to make a decision for you. Kind of like finding someone you can trust to point out someone you can trust? and you cant find someone you trust to marry so .... yikes!

true .. theres a lot we could learn ..

I admire you ..

elvis presley...Tryin' to get to you ...sun'55

We'll never know for sure unless in the translations they find that the story is simply an author of the time who wrote an inspired novel. It is alos possible that it was written by the sumerians and used for the same purpose that it has been used by Christianity and Islam, to make gods something to fear and worship. I still wonder though, since so much of the texts are actual provebale science that we couldn't prove until only recently. Gives me pause, but enough to buy gods, for sure. I would accept aliens long before I would gods. There's even more proof for them being possible than god.

feckin miracles, a little science you dont know about and youre mesmerized and awed. Chris Angel is a prophet/god if this is the case.

To all who have asked, check out the video posted by Indyfella and prepared by a former CS'er who attended our 8/16/08 meet-&-greet at Norris Dam State park!

Hope you enjoy it!

-J