gemma74: A friend of a friend put me in touch here because she had met someone here. They have been dating for 3 months now and she has fallen for this bloke in a big way. He flowered me a few times last month and yesterday he sent me a message. I haven't replied because I know that this is the bloke she is seeing. I dont know what to do, she is such a nice person and I don't know if I should tell her or not, we keep in touch and she tells me how much she loves this bloke and i feel terrible knowing he has contacted me. Should I tell her? Please help
Blimey, I was compelled to unhide my profile for this thread!
Yes, most definitely you should. (notwithstanding posting here has done just that as you know).
I have read most of the comments, and I cannot believe some people here still wonder if this and if that. The OP stated above that she feels 'terrible'. Terrible enough to post here, knowing that both her friend and that man will no doubt be reading this. Her way of dealing with the dilemma. He is obviously not just saying hi, and passing on his lady love's best to her. Now is he? Or she would not feel so freaking terrible.
And as far as I am concerned, there is NO situation in which friends should keep such information from each other. I certainly don't. I cite an example where a GF of mine here met on a forum one night months ago, over a pear recipe. We soon started a lively banter over that recipe. Enter Mr. X.... From the get go, it was obvious from their interchange, that GF and he had been in touch before and more than that, the obvious flirting showed they might have a thing for each other. By the next day, she and I had started emailing, but I also received an email from him. First thing I did was email her to say he had done that, and that I noticed she and he seemed very friendly. She acknowledged that and said she was happy for him to email me, but she held a special spot for him. I took note of that last bit of vital information, so when the three of us were on a thread together, it became such fun, he flirted with the two of us, and we really confused the crap out of people here. But the GF and I(and we are now best mates)were always informing each other of the status of our emailing with said man, and he knew about that. The three maintained complete respect for each other. That GF, my dear friend, SummerUK, and I have unshakable trust in each other to this day. We would never compromise that for anyone, least of all, over a man.
Now I am offline again. Have fun guys.
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