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This is your second thread in as many minutes on the subject.

I do not think the disability is the problem, there are plenty of people on this site with disabilities. That is not the problem. You need to talk about other things as well, and while it should be something you tell a potential mate, it shouldnt be "Hey my name is ______ I have a disability"

Many have disabilities don't worry about them unless they affect you personaly?

What IS this disability you speak of? You appear to be standing upright on 2 legs, and I swear I see 2 arms also... so what's the problem? Many women have disabilities also, do you respond to or message them? Maybe you need to meet some women with whome you have a common frame of reference? IDK.

- Michael ("American by birth, Texan by the Grace of God!")

While I don't agree with the women bashing thread here, I must say not all disabilities are "visible" so be careful there!!

u are wrong thetallone,We are all dissability here ......

Unless it is obvious (and all disabilities are not obvious) how would a woman know any man has a disability when deciding whether to reply or not?

Oh I have no doubt of this! I'm just stating the obvious I guess... it's a talent of mine. No offense was intended to anybody!

But physical disabilities, especially the loss of limbs, are pretty darned hard to hide... soooo, since his disability doesn't appear to be obviously visible, I'd have to wonder how these women know right off the bat that he has a disability and then are passing him up without a 2nd thought?

Now if it's just a matter of women he's messaging not replying to him, well then welcome to the club dude! Happens to me pretty much every time too, so I can assure you that it has nothing to do with any disability you may have! All us single males are disabled as far as that goes.

I've found women to be very illogical... if you try to talk to a woman at a bar for instance, she thinks you must be a loser (not to mention an alcoholic) for being at a bar trying to talk to women so she wants nothing to do with you. If you try to message a woman online (especially on a "dating" or "social networking" site), she thinks you must be a total loser for being on a dating or social networking site trying to message women so she ignores your message no matter what you said or didn't say... in other words, I don't think we single guys can win for losing here.

I think it's really funny, in a really sad way, that messages along the lines of "Hey wanna meet and have sex with me tonight? I got $50 to spend!" don't get any LESS of a response than "Hi I think your profile is really interesting and I see you like <whatever it is I also like> and I was wondering if you might be interested in having lunch sometime at <a nice restaurant in your mutual area>?" Neither gets a response, ever! It makes no difference what a guy has to say or what he looks like or anything as far as I can tell! LMAO! ROF!

It is a really screwed up world we live in I swear! I wish I could say that my experiences with women have been unique and/or just bad luck or bad timing or something... but it's been this way for a long, long time and I've seen plenty of other single guys complaining about virtually the same bad experiences with women so I'm pretty sure it's way too damned common.

I'm not bashing, I'm simply reporting my experiences and observations and wishing I understood why it is this way AND wishing I knew a better way cause this way really really suxs.

I gotta feed coonies and go to bed. Night ya'll!

- Michael ("American by birth, Texan by the Grace of God!")

Yea we are all missing something, or we wouldnt be here

....HMMM I'm missing something...

Yea , see u missed it, Ka put, sala v

u are right,cutie lars

I don`t think it has to do with a disability. If I may suggest, I`d say go over your profile,may be there`s something to modify there.Just my opinion. Good luck to you and have a great day!

Do you mean physical or mental disibilities? Many women think retarded guys are "cute".

After reading your profile, I'd say it has more to do with the negativity of statements like "I'm a poor ex-truck driver" that would turn women off, than anything to do with your disability.

There are ways you could phrase that, and other parts, to be honest but not seem so negative. Negativity is much more of a turn-off than lack of income or shaky hands.

... and some use the excuse of disability for not being attractive to women due to their personality....

No wonder so few people are meeting each other!

thetallone1,

I read your profile.

You said you had an operation and your hands shake. Is that your disability?

The thing that bothered me more than shaky hands was what you said in your "What I'm Looking For" section.

You said if you didn't get what you are looking for in a woman (hugs, etc), you would "stray and find it elsewhere"

That isn't very encouraging for women here to know that

Plus, sorry to say, your gut shows prominently in your picture.

Try a new picture, cut out how poor you are and how you might stray and you'll be all set.

I was thinking the same thing!!

Given that people who've read his profile still can't quite figure out what this disability is, I'd suggest that disability has no bearing on the matter.

I too used to be in the heavy trucking industry, though I didn't drive them I owned the big rigs and managed and often worked on them. Admittedly, it was not a profitable business and I finally had to end it and sell my Peterbilts about 3 years ago... I still miss them, though I don't miss all the headaches and expenses that operating them brought me! Ughhh! It's a very tough industry to be in, impossible even.

But I digress.... I can't see where the OP has actually come back to read the posts he's started, or at least he hasn't responded to anybody on his posts.

- Michael ("American by birth, Texan by the Grace of God!")