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I think it's is a controversial topic.The teaching of the Roman catholic church world wide is one.ABORTION IS KILLING A CHILD, REGARDLESS THE SITUATION IN WHICH THE PREGNANCY WAS CONCEIVED.
For example..On march 9th, 2009.It was reported in a catholic news service that in Brazil, a girl , 9yr old conceived twins from her step father.Her mother who was a catholic faithful sought an abortion from i guess catholic doctors who conducted an abortion.
The church with support from Rome, ex communacated the mother of the said girl and also the doctors

Have been mulling this topic over for decades....and as yet have not come to a decision as to whether I would approve abortion being legal in my country....to date it is not.

First off.....if it was my child that was in question I would certainly not approve....even though I have stood by my decision not to have kids of my own....but if that scenario had to appear unexpectedly, no, I would not approve of aborting it, and would do my utmost to support and keep the child once born...it would my own blood on my hands.....

HOWEVER.....did meet with situations of close friends of mine, female of course, who were faced with that situation....various of them......

...most decided to go ahead with the pregnancy and grow the child, even as a single parent......others did not....and although locally it is illegal, but a lot of other countries in close proximity around us offer the service in their hospitals....so....

I believe in the right of the individual to decide what to do on the matter....what is the point of staying pregnant if this is going to end up with a disastrous life for the girl in question and possibly a lousy deal for the child once born?

Children should be had when wanted, otherwise there is no point in bringing them in the world to make their life an yours miserable...

So ultimately....I abstain from taking a stand....and would do so even if the subject has to come up for referendum locally.

Yes, Moonlight, I'm well, thank you. I hope you are, too.

Ive never had to make this choice thankfully but I am full of compassion for those women I know who have had to - they are the ones that have to live with it - not you lot..........

All that I can say is I agree with the girl's mother in this...9 years old is way to young to be forced to have a children, especially when it's as a result of such molestation. I hope the mother also divorced the man who did this to her daughter. If it were me, he'd be lucky if divorce him is all I did to him, besides sending him to jail.

All fair comment Dru, I really was just wondering what your thoughts were. And I am glad to see a discussion on the matter as opposed to a row.

Sorry Vonney but I just saw masses of judgmentalism by people who have never actually had to make this heartbreaking decision

I am well thank you....moveing on.

what a nightmare situation to be in, do you put your child through the difficulties of carrying a baby and giving birth or the trauma of killing the baby.

Did you Trish?

I didnt see that, to be honest anytime the subject has come up before I have found it is the people who are against abortion who get jumped on and attacked for their opinions.

You dont know that....some may have.

I'm just thinking.... supposing my mother aborted me, would i be here?So is the catholic church right when it teaches abortion is killing an innocent child?

Agreed, that would be a nightmare, on top of the trauma of the molestation by a man she should have been able to trust. That's why I said he'd be lucky if sending him to jail and divorcing him were all that I did to him. Life is sacred, but scum is not. (OK, sorry...I know he's still a human life, and still sacred , but it would be hard to keep that in mind if I were in the position of that mother. I'm still human, after all...and a mother.)

Sorry but thats a silly statement, of course you wouldnt be here if she had aborted you.

This subject goes way beyond any teachings of any church....

Oh believe me I know. Wouldnt know where to begin if someone did to any of mine what was done to me

Then again we are talking about an adult who knew what he was doing not an innocent life.

That's okay, Vonney...I was very willing to answer your question. It was a fair one. The world is never black and white to me, but holds shades of grey, and I'm willing to discuss my views on any subject. I do realize that sometimes they seem to conflict with my core values, but that's what shades of grey are about, and why I acknowledged that some could see me as hypocritical for it as well.

I'll also add one thing to my comment about aborting a child if it had been a result of any of my rapes. Those happened when I was 16-20, and I was young. If I were raped now and it resulted in a pregnancy, I might not abort it, but either keep it and love it, or give it up for adoption. Why? I'm older now and can handle more emotionally than I could when I was younger. (A hypothetical situation, since I can't get pregnant now, and I pity the man who would try to rape me now, but the thought occurred, and I wanted to address it.)

Forgive me for my 'silly' thinking.But then my question is ,is the catholic church right?

And that shouldn't happen, since we're all entitled to our opinions, and we're all individuals. I respect everyone's right to their opinion...I don't have to agree with everyone to get along with them. That's the one thing that never ceases to irk me...those who don't tolerate others with differing views, whether in their own threads or other threads. It's supposed to be an open discussion, not "I'm right and you're wrong, and you should agree with me because..."