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Poor thing,,,
and all this because I say I don't care about the past...
pity that

No one is really getting my second question. I'll try again. If you were dating an attractive Mexican woman, would you be jealous if she had been with another American man before you?

If I have to slap a board on my ass to keep from falling in - then YES, it matters how many you're been with !

No, that was not the reason.
Of course you may not know what to say. It's human and you're not less of a man for that!

no, why would it matter

It’s easy to say numbers don’t matter until you come up against the situation. If you are constantly meeting her exes it can be a bit much at times too.

We’re human and subject to all of the human weaknesses.

Reality would tell me to be careful of HIV and is this woman going to want to find someone to replace me or something on the side just for fun.

A woman told me once: “Take it as a compliment if your woman is afraid someone else is going to try to get you. It means she thinks you are worth having and does not want to lose you.”

I suppose a woman could look at a man being jealous the same way as long as he was not too far over the edge about it.

I suppose if a woman from another country had dated another man from the US or my subculture of the US it might be a relief. She’d have a better idea of what to expect and it would save my female relations the trouble of warning her what the men in my family are like.

You don't want me, phew!

Such men who seem controlling and want to know the number of underwear you have, are probably not ready to share their private information. The kind of jealousy I felt from this man made me see how selfish he was.

I would almost have to assume she had been with another American if she was here...
Why would I be jealous?
If she hadn't, I would have to wonder what made me so special?

That's so much better! I would be jealous because I would want to be the first cooking prawn curry for him

Selfish in that he's most likely a control freak, which in turn leads to the possibility that he's something even worse...

I live close to Canada. New Yorkers seem like foreigners. Quebec is just up the road a little ways. I've traveled far more up there than I have in the US.

He is black and I could not stand his childishness.

You seem to be a control freak

Yo, dude! This is an adult thread.

I'm thinking the difference here, between you and me is that I'm almost 50. You're young. If I were to meet someone with basically no experience or had never been with someone different at my age, I'd sort of wonder if she's been sheltered or just married forever...

Hey!!...... The "MACHO" is more frequently in spanish men.... For American man Is the send way if the woman have more than 4'.... They don't care...

They a bit weird since you are in Finland and when in Kenya, there is no great connection with another African nationalities! He is mental!

a man says 15 divide it by three a woman says 3 multiply by four you will be close

What is the magic number? Where is the line drawn? I don't ask numbers and I wouldn't want a man to ask the same of me. When I was married, I slept with only one man.....my husband. Having been single for a number of years, I have had a greater number than one. What number might I give that would be palatable? I'm not stepping into that trap and I won't try to put a man in such a trap, either. Practice safe sex and make your choices. It's that simple, really. I don't live in a fairy tale....I don't expect my Prince Charming to show up one day, delighted with my years of chastity. Rather, folks, time moves on and I am not ready to abandon the sexual part of who I am because I haven't found the one person who fulfills the other parts of me. I could sit here and say that I haven't had sex in months or years, but that would be a lie. And I'm not ashamed. In fact, I'm glad for it.

Unless there was a context for the asking...