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yeah your right the problems really start then, boy nag nag nag


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My taste is not important, but what I have seen.
The wo/man that has kids that show the life, living,and time are all in place in the life they live get mates quick, and a lot I have seen don't have kids themselves.

It's in the way you spread out your time, are you seeking a bread winner to help out with them bills, or a mate to place in your life?
How you handle your life shows the other a lot.

A GF of mine married a guy with two girls both under 8.
She did not want kids of her own, and did not think to want an others, but she fit in his life, she filled no number, as in 3rd after the girls but before the dog and ex, and he did not seek a babysitter, she added to his life in interests and in likes.
Just get out there, they met at a butterfly release at the local museum he was with his girls, as a whole unit, she said it was his happyness and calm that made her smile.

It didnt matter to my husband if i had 20 children..

you love the mom..you love the children..

He had 2 daughters too..

you love the dad you love the children..

i quess some dont want the responsibilities..

I just have my 11 year old at home now..

and he treats my boy as his flesh and blood..

I feel for men/women who has to go through life with people judging them if they have children...

but you dont need them if they cant handle that you have a child

That's the reason I seek older men. They seem to understand the situation better and aren't so intimated. I don't seem to have too hard of a time.

You do not need a girl, you need a woman.

THE TRIBE.

Women are weird critters............. maybe I should find a girl and try and manipulate her cute little mind so she doesn't get big ideas like so many women these days!

That doesn't sound nice.

I adore women.

I adore MATURE women; women are like cheddar cheese........ they taste better the older they get. Hey? What on earth am I on about.......... I need my meds and my schrink!

Robert, this has been a very hard week.

GG, is that you?

Has it?

I had a very hard week on vacation in Spain!

I should be flying to Frankfurt today to see a very beautiful lady who lives in Cologne, but I just can't be arsed to go - plus my neice and her mum flew out to Malta yesterday and fly back to Paris & London tomorrow and are coming over here by ferry to visit my mum in the nursing home and show my mum her first great grandbaby - so I might mosey on over and say 'hi' to them both............... plus my mum spent months having a christening gown handmade as as they can't be bothered to come over to the villa I'd better deliver it to them

(dang - I have to go and buy them a couple of boxes of hand-made Belgium chocolate too from Fred's on my way............ Fred's an interesting character who owned his own haulage company in Belgium and then spent three years learning the art of Belgium chocolate making and then set up shop over her!)

Bums!

We all need to remember, you/we are all of the above.

You're talking in riddles!

Travel?
Love to family?
????????
Business?

A lovely CS lady who came over to Malta a year or so ago to visit a friend - the two of them came over here on the ferry and we met up and had a drink............. she invited me to visit her in Cologne when another friend decided she couldn't see me due to a huge family gathering......... anyway, this plane ticket was JINXED - I'd changed it three times at a fee each time and so now over 1,000 dollars have gone down the drain!

That's life!

I have the same problem, Not many guys want someone Like me who has a daughter. I believe my ex said he "Didn't want the instant family and it was to much of a hassle to deal with"

I am finding this site extremely difficult in finding that special lady,

It makes me wonder if any of the ladys on here are for real because i have sent god only know's how many messages and got no reply which i find completely rude because manners cost nothing to just say thanks but no thanks,

Has this world gone mad or something i was raised to be polite and again politeness cost nothing what so ever.

I am not so sure if i can believe in those storys on these sites about we got chatting and feel deeply inlove and now we are getting married (YEAH RIGHT)!

SensualVixen's post seems to imply that even though you have a child yourself, you don't want to meet/date women that have children.

Seems kinda hypocritical to me.

- Michael

Oh I agree, I think the stories are an advertisement hype anyway

The reason guys don't want to get involved with a woman who has a child is because its too much of a commitement and a responsbility and they can do without in there lives.

When a man meets a woman that is single and has no kids he doesn't have to worry about anything well he does in a way his woman which is natural anyway, but having to worry about a woman and a child is a big thing to take on board even if the woman says that her guy doesn't have to worry about the child he may still feel uncomfortable with worrying about what people might think like is that his kid god he's so young to have a child or he was not being sensable by using some sort of protecting,

There are many reason's why guys don't want to date a woman with children its nothing personal or bad he just feels that he wants to be with that woman and her alone which might sound a little shelfish and not right but people decide to have kids when they want them and they want them to be there own not someone elses who has walked out and left the woman to deal with it all alone which i think is completely wrong but thats the way the world has turned out to be and i don't think there is anything anyone is ever going to be able to do in order to chage that.

I hope no one takes offence to this letter because its not ment to have cause any offence to anyone.

That Actually Makes alot of sense. I have never thought about it from that point of view before. Thank you. Hehe Learn something new everyday.

Hey everyone

To the author of this post:

You don't mention whether the mother of your daughter has walked out on you, met someone else or whether she is alive or not.

If the mother has walked out on you or met someone else, I think you should take a step back and put yourself in your daughter's shoes. Not just putting yourself in her shoes but maybe walk a mile or two in them as well. Although she's only three years old, she already has a mind of her own but unlike us, she cannot describe her own feelings to you yet. She might feel confused but don't know it's called confusion. The point I'm trying to get to is that she may realize mommy is not there anymore and I'm sure you didn't tell her the complete truth, therefore she's still trying to process that. In your quest for trying to find "a girl" or "woman" may just make her feel more confused and you'll end up with a very sad and miserable little kid with a very low self-esteem.

Focus on your daughter for the next 5 years and don't take all kinds of women home because you're feeling lonely. When she's older she will have the mentality to understand what you were going through and she will feel secure in knowing that she was enough to keep her father happy for a while without needing a girl or woman. She will trust you because you were there for her when she needed you most, which is now.

Hope this helps....