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SeriouslyFun London, Ontario Canada
Thu Jun 25, 2009 8:44 PM CST : Death of a parent
My mother took her own life at the beginning of June 09'. I have spent these past few weeks looking after all the details of two estates and trying to grieve during the pauses. I met a woman online prior to this, and took myself off that site for a while. Just wondering how long a person should wait to pursue dating after something like this has happened. I have got my bearings back, but know that there is more to come.
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bestat45 saint john, New Brunswick Canada
Thu Jun 25, 2009 8:46 PM CST : Death of a parent
SeriouslyFun: My mother took her own life at the beginning of June 09'. I have spent these past few weeks looking after all the details of two estates and trying to grieve during the pauses. I met a woman online prior to this, and took myself off that site for a while. Just wondering how long a person should wait to pursue dating after something like this has happened. I have got my bearings back, but know that there is more to come.

just offering my condolencessad flower
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chococherrie78 samarinda Indonesia
Thu Jun 25, 2009 8:46 PM CST : Death of a parent
Sometimes having another person to help you through an ordeal like this helps,,,sorry to hear your bad newsheart wings
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jeepers Cowpet Bay, Saint Thomas Virgin Islands (USA)
Thu Jun 25, 2009 8:47 PM CST : Death of a parent
chococherrie78: Sometimes having another person to help you through an ordeal like this helps,,,sorry to hear your bad news
I agree. Might help get your mind in another place for a while. sad flower
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starshinebright Riverside, California USA
Thu Jun 25, 2009 8:47 PM CST : Death of a parent
I am so sorry for your loss!!!!bouquet hug
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SeriouslyFun London, Ontario Canada
Thu Jun 25, 2009 8:48 PM CST : Death of a parent
Thanks Best, and you are.
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caspatch galena, Missouri USA
Thu Jun 25, 2009 8:48 PM CST : Death of a parent
you close to the woman then get back with her you need someone in your life now plus it is a good sign if she is willing to stand by you, sorry for your loss
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rebellad cork city, Cork Ireland
Thu Jun 25, 2009 8:49 PM CST : Death of a parent
all u can do is carry on kid, what will happin will happin, dont put a time frame on it.
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SeriouslyFun London, Ontario Canada
Thu Jun 25, 2009 8:49 PM CST : Death of a parent
Thanks Star.
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SensualVixen Tampa Bay area, Florida USA
Thu Jun 25, 2009 8:51 PM CST : Death of a parent
SeriouslyFun: My mother took her own life at the beginning of June 09'. I have spent these past few weeks looking after all the details of two estates and trying to grieve during the pauses. I met a woman online prior to this, and took myself off that site for a while. Just wondering how long a person should wait to pursue dating after something like this has happened. I have got my bearings back, but know that there is more to come.


Sorry for your loss. Everyone is different. We can't bottle grief, cap it, and place it on a shelf after X number of days or months. Mourning periods are not the same for anyone, even for different deaths in one's life. Only you can answer when you can and should start dating again.
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SeriouslyFun London, Ontario Canada
Thu Jun 25, 2009 8:55 PM CST : Death of a parent
Thanks all. I feel okay about getting through the grieving part, I have loving family and friends.

I guess my question is how long should you wait to put yourself out there? I know what lies ahead, and I know that I can manage it with my supports. It is a much different experience losing a parent rather than a grandparent or aunt/uncle.
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bestat45 saint john, New Brunswick Canada
Thu Jun 25, 2009 8:57 PM CST : Death of a parent
you need to do what feels right to you
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SeriouslyFun London, Ontario Canada
Thu Jun 25, 2009 9:12 PM CST : Death of a parent
Yes, I hear you Best, but it is confusing at times.
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Arlene101 Cape Breton Island, Nova Scotia Canada
Thu Jun 25, 2009 9:17 PM CST : Death of a parent
SeriouslyFun: Yes, I hear you Best, but it is confusing at times.
I am sorry for your loss, I hope my mail to you shed some light on you and the subject of suicide.handshake comfort sad flower
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kkitty2 somewhere in Minnesota, Minnesota USA
Thu Jun 25, 2009 9:23 PM CST : Death of a parent
sorry for your loss.
all we can do when we loose the ones we love is to cherish them in our hearts and continue on our journey. sad flower teddybear
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SeriouslyFun London, Ontario Canada
Thu Jun 25, 2009 9:32 PM CST : Death of a parent
Thanks All,

Signing off and going to bed. Work tomorrow.

All the best,

SF
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luvlife2 birmingham, Alabama USA
Fri Jun 26, 2009 5:23 AM CST : Death of a parent
i went through the same thing 3 years ago,my dad took his own life,take time for yourself first to sort out your feelings,but if you find someone that you can talk to about this situation it helps alot.
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mindfful London Chicago, Illinois USA
Fri Jun 26, 2009 5:36 AM CST : Death of a parent
confused comfort

no easy answers
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Crollydoll11 Kilkenny, Kilkenny Ireland
Fri Jun 26, 2009 5:47 AM CST : Death of a parent
SeriouslyFun: My mother took her own life at the beginning of June 09'. I have spent these past few weeks looking after all the details of two estates and trying to grieve during the pauses. I met a woman online prior to this, and took myself off that site for a while. Just wondering how long a person should wait to pursue dating after something like this has happened. I have got my bearings back, but know that there is more to come.


I am very sorry to hear of your sad loss.The grieving process is very different for everyone.The way they grieve and how long they grieve varies also.Just because a person is getting on with their life,going out and living doesn't mean they have forgotten their loved one who has passed on.It doesn't mean they don't cry when alone,so do what you feel is right for you,not what someone else expects of you.
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Charli15695 Dallas, Texas USA
Fri Jun 26, 2009 7:16 AM CST : Death of a parent
My condolences SF...take care of yourself and your needs first. hug sad flower
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