Why are people puropsely/knowingly mean and cruel to others???

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somechick Cincinnati Ohio, Ohio USA
I've often asked myself this question. Why would someone want to knowingly and purposely hurt another human being? I've seen this very same thing happening within this site.

I think that it is because they have a chip on their shoulder and they have a low self esteem. When they feel so rotten about themselves they feel that they have to be mean to others so that they don't look so bad next to other people. If you ever notice, those type of people usually attack happy people, and I think that is because they are envious and they don't know how to be happy and they are jealous about the joy and love that happy people have in their lives and they want to take it away. So they will do any thing and everything to try to make that person miserable. Mean people try to make others look bad so that they look good, but in fact they are only making themselves look like a complete fool and people catch on to their behavior and know that if they talk about you that way they are taking about them that way also. I think that it is really sad that these kind of people are not confronted and stopped. I always confront people like this and point out how simple they look and how insecure they look. I also point out that no one likes them because they are mean. This usually will change them or shut them up. Sometimes you just have to fight fire with fire.
I sometimes try so hard to understand why so many human beings do find it easier to be critical and mean and hostile, instead of being nice, but I never seem to get to any valid explanation. Maybe because they express their inside furies and frustrations by trying to make others feel lousy too, or maybe because they just don’t care about the way their reactions affect the others.

Could it be because they're so angry or could it be the society in which we live in, and ALL the the * Negative * things that we are exposed to on a daily basis ? People have become desensitized. Maybe it's because of something that happened in their personal lives to make them that way. I just don't know.
RobbieM Hertford, Hertfordshire, England UK
In short, boredom, character faults, if their short (and male this makes some try to overcompensate, after all look at Napoleon!!!).

Some people just like arguing though, that's the truth of it.

They probably don't have any real friends in the real world, so they come online, bored out of their head and let rip at anyone who replies.

I may to some who don't know me in the real world seem,(coughs) outspoken, for instance when in your case i pointed out the poetry you posted on the forum and claimed it as your own work was shall we say highly irritating to me, as i worked in publishing, and have seen plagerism before.

That and the photo you had up that wasn't actually you, well to me smacked of abject dishonesty and that;s why i spoke up about it.

It's not that i am passionate or have a deep seated or vested interest, it's just i like facts to be facts, and if i see a mistake, and can help to correct it i do....normally vocally!!!

As you'll probably remember if anyone lies i basically let rip, and ram the point home bludgeoning the person if they just don't admit their mistake, or just frankly lie or try to shift the blame onto someone else.

I admit i have a character fault, it's not believing lies when i'm tried to be told them and them portrayed as facts.

I hope i didn't bite you head off too much!!!laugh

After all, anything you'll see on here is like old newspaper, it will be gone soon and may well be used to clean up dogs muck or diapers, so i wouldn't worry about it.

In short, who cares....take a break if it's bothering you, or in my case play online games and shoot the adversaries.laugh

It realy isn't worth worrying about, honestly don't let any of the crap said on here bother you or anyone else.
KoolMacKool Perth, Western Australia Australia
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petalbabe Ogdensburg, New York, Cork Ireland
Good post, somechick...thumbs up

I dont know, is the answer to that question..I guess its just human nature.

CS is a cauldron of all mixes of people; different ages, different cultures, different religions. There are bound to be confrontations occasionally.

I am the first to admit that I have lost my temper on here before, and I dont feel good about it when it happens. Sometimes, outside circumstances dictate your mood and it spills over into your posting. Thats not an excuse, just a fact.

I have recently found myself arguing with someone young enough to be my child, and had to pull myself up and say to myself, "What the hell am I doing arguing with someone who is young enough for me to have changed their diapers for them?"..doh

We all have bad days, and the trick is to apologise and move on.

I live in a country that is supposedly reknowned for its "Old Fashioned Values". Well, Im sorry, but I dont see an awful lot of Old Fashioned Values when a youngster is sitting behind a computer screen giving out to someone old enough to be their parent. Its just the nature of the internet, sorry to say.

I have now decided to concentrate on what I originally signed up for; to find love. The rest of it, well, not worth my effort most of the time.

JMO



petalbabe Ogdensburg, New York, Cork Ireland
RobbieM: In short, boredom, character faults, if their short (and male this makes some try to overcompensate, after all look at Napoleon!!!).

Some people just like arguing though, that's the truth of it.

They probably don't have any real friends in the real world, so they come online, bored out of their head and let rip at anyone who replies.

I may to some who don't know me in the real world seem,(coughs) outspoken, for instance when in your case i pointed out the poetry you posted on the forum and claimed it as your own work was shall we say highly irritating to me, as i worked in publishing, and have seen plagerism before.

That and the photo you had up that wasn't actually you, well to me smacked of abject dishonesty and that;s why i spoke up about it.

It's not that i am passionate or have a deep seated or vested interest, it's just i like facts to be facts, and if i see a mistake, and can help to correct it i do....normally vocally!!!

As you'll probably remember if anyone lies i basically let rip, and ram the point home bludgeoning the person if they just don't admit their mistake, or just frankly lie or try to shift the blame onto someone else.

I admit i have a character fault, it's not believing lies when i'm tried to be told them and them portrayed as facts.

I hope i didn't bite you head off too much!!!

After all, anything you'll see on here is like old newspaper, it will be gone soon and may well be used to clean up dogs muck or diapers, so i wouldn't worry about it.

In short, who cares....take a break if it's bothering you, or in my case play online games and shoot the adversaries.

It realy isn't worth worrying about, honestly don't let any of the crap said on here bother you or anyone else.


Anything else to add, Rob????!!laugh

Good post, sir!!!
mindfful London Chicago, Illinois USA
petalbabe: Good post, somechick...

I dont know, is the answer to that question..I guess its just human nature.

CS is a cauldron of all mixes of people; different ages, different cultures, different religions. There are bound to be confrontations occasionally.

I am the first to admit that I have lost my temper on here before, and I dont feel good about it when it happens. Sometimes, outside circumstances dictate your mood and it spills over into your posting. Thats not an excuse, just a fact.

I have recently found myself arguing with someone young enough to be my child, and had to pull myself up and say to myself, "What the hell am I doing arguing with someone who is young enough for me to have changed their diapers for them?"..

We all have bad days, and the trick is to apologise and move on.

I live in a country that is supposedly reknowned for its "Old Fashioned Values". Well, Im sorry, but I dont see an awful lot of Old Fashioned Values when a youngster is sitting behind a computer screen giving out to someone old enough to be their parent. Its just the nature of the internet, sorry to say.

I have now decided to concentrate on what I originally signed up for; to find love. The rest of it, well, not worth my effort most of the time.

JMO
good morning petal
ive no doubt you will find successcheers



Da10th Three Springs, Pennsylvania USA
Sometimes I think it's simply as you said, a matter of envy & jealousy. Other times it may be a situation where one feels scorned or disrespected. And yet other times there are simply those that deserve to be treated in a cruel manner.

Each situation presents its own scenario. As a previous poster stated, don't let people like this get to you. Enjoy your time heere and don't allow those that you don't like, dictate your level of enjoyment on the site.hug



petalbabe Ogdensburg, New York, Cork Ireland
mindfful: good morning petal
ive no doubt you will find success


Hi, you!!

Thank you, I hope so...sigh

wave
mindfful London Chicago, Illinois USA
petalbabe: Hi, you!!

Thank you, I hope so...

why does your new pic look like you are nude?
in the park no lessscold blushing



petalbabe Ogdensburg, New York, Cork Ireland
mindfful: why does your new pic look like you are nude?
in the park no less


laugh laugh laugh

Oops, does it??blushing

Nope, not nude! Was a very hot day tho..

Might have needed to tap you for some bail money if I'd got pulled there!!!

grin cool
mindfful London Chicago, Illinois USA
petalbabe: Oops, does it??

Nope, not nude! Was a very hot day tho..

Might have needed to tap you for some bail money if I'd got pulled there!!!


youd be waitin a few days

im only hittin dublin next week then id have to hire a car



course anything left at that point you are welcome tohandshake



petalbabe Ogdensburg, New York, Cork Ireland
mindfful: youd be waitin a few days

im only hittin dublin next week then id have to hire a car
course anything left at that point you are welcome to


Well, I hope you enjoy Ireland, mindfful...!

thumbs up
mindfful London Chicago, Illinois USA
petalbabe: Well, I hope you enjoy Ireland, mindfful...!
good company makes anywhere enjoyablewine

i hope we dont seem mean and cruel hijacking the mean and cruel threadmoping oopsuh oh
somechick Cincinnati Ohio, Ohio USA
mindfful: good company makes anywhere enjoyable

i hope we dont seem mean and cruel hijacking the mean and cruel thread oops


mindful hijack away cause I just responed to your message/flower and sent you an email explaining the reason for this thread and why I've decided to close my account and join the Real World.
mindfful London Chicago, Illinois USA
somechick: mindful hijack away cause I just responed to your message/flower and sent you an email explaining the reason for this thread and why I've decided to close my account and join the Real World.


well i sent you a letter back but you were already gone

i wish you every good thing

i manage to live in the real world and also come in here now and again

dunno

but then i got lucky here so i am sentimentally attachedheart wings



Lagoona22 Bugibba, Majjistral Malta
People are mean and cruel because people are basically evil.....it's only online that we can be nice and choochie-coo....but you wouldn't want to date us in real life!!...god no!!...
spiderbulgaria Yambol, Yambol Bulgaria
I don't know why they are like that, but i don't care or worry about it too much because i just don't mix with people like that, life's too short.
hopefloats Slim's Lady, Tennessee USA
Anna, if you're reading these posts here, I want you to know that you will be missed! I have always enjoyed your posts sister. hug teddybear gift

Merky
Big_John Ocean Springs, Mississippi USA
I think we each get to choose what type of person we want to be. We elect and put forth the decisions we make. We present to the CS World our personality. The internet is like the real world where we have a mixture and blend of every type of person.

I live by a very, very simple rule that everyone knows: It takes two to fight. Rarely have you seen me enter into a discussion that is hostile. Life is too short to fight with someone I don't know and be honest don't care about. I just leave the Thread and don't go back.

Each day I wake up and think this is going to be another wonderful day to do something great. Some days are for me, like fishing, golfing and traveling. Others are for helping others through my Boy Scouts, Church and volunteering efforts.

I don't know why people are like they are! Many intelligent minds work their entire life studying this subject. I don't! I accept you the way you are--the good, the bad and the ugly. Be yourself and either make friends and chase them away. Your choice!
bestbefore poole, Dorset, England UK
Big_John: I think we each get to choose what type of person we want to be. We elect and put forth the decisions we make. We present to the CS World our personality. The internet is like the real world where we have a mixture and blend of every type of person.

I live by a very, very simple rule that everyone knows: It takes two to fight. Rarely have you seen me enter into a discussion that is hostile. Life is too short to fight with someone I don't know and be honest don't care about. I just leave the Thread and don't go back.

Each day I wake up and think this is going to be another wonderful day to do something great. Some days are for me, like fishing, golfing and traveling. Others are for helping others through my Boy Scouts, Church and volunteering efforts.

I don't know why people are like they are! Many intelligent minds work their entire life studying this subject. I don't! I accept you the way you are--the good, the bad and the ugly. Be yourself and either make friends and chase them away. Your choice!


thumbs up

I left this site a few months back because I hated all the back stabbing and bitchiness but kept in touch with the forums, which are there for all to read, member or not.So beware the world is watching you not just "Big Brother". I have noticed that most of the really malicious people have long since departed or been ejected so am back again hopefully to enjoy some pleasant banter though I'm sad that Mercedes and Shedman are no longer around.wave




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