kitty01: Like I said I do not know what is wrong with me, I just seem to have my nose bent out of joint.
Honestly, Kitty, when a few generations (3 in your case) are in position to live under the same roof and (I assume) with no much space for privacy for each of them, there is always something wrong

People need their space and privacy. This way everybody loves each other and happy with each other. My daughter and I live in 15 min walking distance from each other. I love them dearly, see them all a few times a week, talk on a phone daily, but for the life of me can't imagine living all together. Love having kids over for a couple of days in my place whenever I can, but it's my call.
There is nothing wrong with you. You just feel being used and they feel they are entitled to use, or it seems so from your post.