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I am seeing the humor in that you wrote this Thread and haven't gotten any post to it in over 30 minutes and the Thread is about guys not reponding to your emails.

As for me I can tell you I used to respond to everyone, but then when you write the thanks, but no thanks email you get some really nasty returns. So I guess over time I stopped so as not to have to read messages like that.

I don't take it personally when someone doesn't respond to me. I just take it as they are not interested in me. I try to keep it simple in my mind.

Good luck on your future searches. Keep trying--that one might respond.

It's like what BJ said in the post above; if they don't respond, just take it as a sign to move on. I've sent a lot of mail to men, some of them write back and some of them don't. It's ok. I sometimes do the same. It's not because you don't like being kind to people, it's just that sometimes what isn't said speaks louder, and sometimes with less awkwardness. Personally, I would rather not be responded to than have someone tell me "You're not what I'm looking for". If they have read their mail (you can tell if you look in your 'outbox'), and they have not responded, then it wasn't meant to be.
If you're really, really interested, you can try emailing them twice and see if they might be interested at a later time.
However, I do try to respond to most emails with as much tact as I can. Everyone does deserve that, I know.
Good luck.

But it's far better to message back and tell them, intead of not saying nothing.

Agree with these points.

happy hunting......

i think alot of people want, or think they want, but are to lazy, or wishy-washy to make the effort to get what they want. they feel it sould just happen,BAM!!!
i've noticed the same thing in the workforce, people want a job ( pay check ) but are not willing to actually preform the dutties as required to do the job right.

I agree...

I will do it from my point of view. I delete alot of messages some without even opening. I don't care if it is rude, I am never likely to meet them have no wish to. I only respond to people I know, or a person from the forums and the few friends that I have here. I prefer to keep my communications open to the forums.

Okay,here I am lookin' at the profiles...checkin' out the ones that state"looking for long term""here I am ladies""looking for my soul mate"blah blah blah....So,I write and so forth...no answer no relpy.. so,I'm thinking wha's sup wid dat??

Well personally, I am active on here. I give out messages to women I feel I could connect with. The harsh reality is that I can count on two fingers the number of women I've talked to on here on a personal level after sending messages that only turn out to be a one or two day thing, only to never hear from them again.

I'm kinda offended by the fact that other guys out there who aren't genuiune in there search make guys like me look like the norm to other women. The fact that you say, "looking for my soul mate", blah blah blah ... makes me feel like it's a personal attack on me since that its on my profile.

I'm a good guy. I'm honest. I may not be the best looking, tall dark and handsome, and rich like other guys out there but I am down to earth. I know what really matters in life, and why the hell can I not at the very least expect mutual attraction with the kind of woman I'm looking for? I don't think that makes me a bad guy.

The fact that other guys out there may not be genuine with their words doesn't make me at all like them. Hell, I would be very thrilled at this point to get a reply from any woman from this site. I'm a considerate human being, as I would think most people would be.

I'm just the next guy out there who is honestly looking for his piece of happiness.

Good lord, I am going to look at your profile, you sound great! What the hell is the matter with these women?

I have given up contacting guys on here, have been here a year and a half, not a great ad for the site am I lol, anyway I used to send messages to guys I thought I might have things in common with but the vast majority didnt reply. It is disheartening to see that your message has been read and they have viewed your profile and decided not to reply. Obviously it is because they are not interested, I would hope it is in fact that they dont want to hurt someones feelings by saying that and not that they are just rude.

The positive on that, the one's that don't reply, pencil em out lol.

Funny..."what's up with this?" was exactly what I thought as I read your original post. Didn't seem age-appropriate, somehow...

Unfortunately Im guilty of that and I have to say it's purely just not to encourage them...if they write more than once then I'll respond to politely decline... it's bad but in general Im really bad with correspondence, not just here....

Well there could be a number of reasons why this is happening. Don't be discouraged, though.

Some people just aren't looking for what they say they are. Some just say what they think you want to hear, but have other intentions. Others are just very picky and only reply to certain people. Unfortunately, that's just the way it is.