is white the new black

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SuzyJ The Hague, Zuid-Holland Netherlands

Mon Jun 29, 2009 9:54 AM CST : is white the new black?

This might be a contraversial topic but Im always up for a bit of banter...
Ok, I have a lot of african and in general black friends and if you've seen my profile then you also know my preferences. And if we're talking simply about aesthetics I think black is beautiful, and the blacker the better. Love the way the light bounces off the skin, big brown eyes (a sucker for it every time), big soft lips, muscular well defined bodies, strong features and many times soft exotic accents...mmm...love african food, music, dance and culture in all the forms I've encountered so far.

But it seems that black guys in general are not every womans cup of tea...my white girlfriends never want to date any of my black male friends and in fact if I go out with my black female friends they all try to pull white guys and won't go near black guys! So what exactly is the deal ladies? What's the fear or thing that puts you off?

Same question to the men.

BOBANBOBAN Pozarevac City, Central Serbia Serbia

Mon Jun 29, 2009 9:56 AM CST : is white the new black?

Am not black...am not whit

so ill take what ever there is.....(i know ...i have a big....heart)....

marifem1973 Munich, Bayern Germany

Mon Jun 29, 2009 10:10 AM CST : is white the new black?

Personally I have had a very good experience dating Black men However just like in any race there are the Good Ones and the Bad ones. But Black men to me are very Sensual and Caring and beleive me most of them are very spiritual and they know how to treat a Lady because their Mommas Raise them Right :)

sultryash Bridgetown, Saint Michael Barbados

Mon Jun 29, 2009 10:18 AM CST : is white the new black?

i will stand neutral on this.............however i think its a matter of preference, coming from a Caribbean background my views on this vary....does not matter the ethnicity of a man to me it has to do with the individual...........all of us regardless of age color creed exhibit certain traits that links to our race, and the culture in which we were raised.

JMO

petalbabe Ogdensburg, New York, Cork Ireland

Mon Jun 29, 2009 10:32 AM CST : is white the new black?

I would have no issue at all dating a black man, if I wanted to.

I suppose the cultural landscape you live in can affect your views somewhat on this, but myself personally cares more about how they treat me, than the color of their skin.

sultryash Bridgetown, Saint Michael Barbados

Mon Jun 29, 2009 10:34 AM CST : is white the new black?

petalbabe: I would have no issue at all dating a black man, if I wanted to.

I suppose the cultural landscape you live in can affect your views somewhat on this, but myself personally cares more about how they treat me, than the color of their skin.

whaaat den, Zuid-Holland Netherlands

Mon Jun 29, 2009 10:37 AM CST : is white the new black?

SuzyJ: This might be a contraversial topic but Im always up for a bit of banter...
Ok, I have a lot of african and in general black friends and if you've seen my profile then you also know my preferences. And if we're talking simply about aesthetics I think black is beautiful, and the blacker the better. Love the way the light bounces off the skin, big brown eyes (a sucker for it every time), big soft lips, muscular well defined bodies, strong features and many times soft exotic accents...mmm...love african food, music, dance and culture in all the forms I've encountered so far.

But it seems that black guys in general are not every womans cup of tea...my white girlfriends never want to date any of my black male friends and in fact if I go out with my black female friends they all try to pull white guys and won't go near black guys! So what exactly is the deal ladies? What's the fear or thing that puts you off?

Same question to the men.

I could date anyone, just like PB mentionedm its how they treat me.

azucarmorena Atlanta, Georgia USA

Mon Jun 29, 2009 10:41 AM CST : is white the new black?

What the fudge?

I haven't even had lunch yet!

whaaat den, Zuid-Holland Netherlands

Mon Jun 29, 2009 10:42 AM CST : is white the new black?

azucarmorena: What the fudge?

I haven't even had lunch yet!

u should have done that, before jumping online

Cause u never know what u will find here

Hi

azucarmorena Atlanta, Georgia USA

Mon Jun 29, 2009 10:50 AM CST : is white the new black?

whaaat: u should have done that, before jumping online

Cause u never know what u will find here

Hi

I have 15 more mins till making my tumbly less rumbly. In the meantime will sit in the corner , nod , smile and appear interested.

tainogirl Trincity,West Indies, Trinidad and Tobago

Mon Jun 29, 2009 10:58 AM CST : is white the new black?

SuzyJ:
But it seems that black guys in general are not every womans cup of tea...my white girlfriends never want to date any of my black male friends and in fact if I go out with my black female friends they all try to pull white guys and won't go near black guys! So what exactly is the deal ladies? What's the fear or thing that puts you off?

Same question to the men.

Well I suppose it depends on the culture. Out here we don't have to care. We'll marry and date anybody. We like to mix things up, so nobody has to date or marry anyone they don't want to. And if you belong to one race there is no law that says you only have to date the same race. Lots of people date outside their race. I have noticed though that there are black women who see white men as being in better social standing than black men, they feel that white men will treat them better. The reasons why we choose who we choose can be very complicated sometimes.

SuzyJ The Hague, Zuid-Holland Netherlands

Mon Jun 29, 2009 11:13 AM CST : is white the new black?

tainogirl: Well I suppose it depends on the culture. Out here we don't have to care. We'll marry and date anybody. We like to mix things up, so nobody has to date or marry anyone they don't want to. And if you belong to one race there is no law that says you only have to date the same race. Lots of people date outside their race. I have noticed though that there are black women who see white men as being in better social standing than black men, they feel that white men will treat them better. The reasons why we choose who we choose can be very complicated sometimes.

there goes a serious answer from someone not afraid to be honest! Thanks for that tainogirl ;)

hualapaiguy Kingman, Arizona USA

Tue Jun 30, 2009 9:23 PM CST : is white the new black?

SuzyJ: This might be a contraversial topic but Im always up for a bit of banter...
Ok, I have a lot of african and in general black friends and if you've seen my profile then you also know my preferences. And if we're talking simply about aesthetics I think black is beautiful, and the blacker the better. Love the way the light bounces off the skin, big brown eyes (a sucker for it every time), big soft lips, muscular well defined bodies, strong features and many times soft exotic accents...mmm...love african food, music, dance and culture in all the forms I've encountered so far.

But it seems that black guys in general are not every womans cup of tea...my white girlfriends never want to date any of my black male friends and in fact if I go out with my black female friends they all try to pull white guys and won't go near black guys! So what exactly is the deal ladies? What's the fear or thing that puts you off?

Same question to the men.

What puts me off is making something as complex as attraction as simple as skin color.
I've met some beautiful people in very plain bodies of all shapes and colors while I've also met some of the ugliest spirits in some beautiful packages. We each like what we like because we DO.
For some who are looking for LTR, seeking one's "OwnKind" is where we begin. For starters, the more we have in common, the greater the list of tools to bring to keep a relationship in good repair. I watched some friends of mine who've been married up to 60+ years and that's the tool they've had (along with sheer tenacity) that's kept them celebrating anniversaries.
Still, do what you like and enjoy your own journey.

nfowler nowhere, Washington USA

Tue Jul 7, 2009 3:19 PM CST : is white the new black?

I don't think I could ever date a black man...um...wait that's not what I ment

mnowsa dallas, Texas USA

Tue Jul 7, 2009 4:43 PM CST : is white the new black?

well...if you must know, i don't really have the time or patience to study and research the color/race of a woman( and trust me it takes really long to find out if a woman is white or black or whatever that is with all the plastic surgery, tanning, hair-dying and other stuffs

). so all i look for is the beauty and a nice, round and tight bootie. if you have got them, woman, i am in to take a long, love-dive.

TLC69 duncannon, Pennsylvania USA

Tue Jul 7, 2009 4:53 PM CST : is white the new black?

Thankfully beauty and love are color blind.

rizlared Pisa, Tuscany Italy

Tue Jul 7, 2009 4:58 PM CST : is white the new black?

SuzyJ: This might be a contraversial topic but Im always up for a bit of banter...
Ok, I have a lot of african and in general black friends and if you've seen my profile then you also know my preferences. And if we're talking simply about aesthetics I think black is beautiful, and the blacker the better. Love the way the light bounces off the skin, big brown eyes (a sucker for it every time), big soft lips, muscular well defined bodies, strong features and many times soft exotic accents...mmm...love african food, music, dance and culture in all the forms I've encountered so far.

But it seems that black guys in general are not every womans cup of tea...my white girlfriends never want to date any of my black male friends and in fact if I go out with my black female friends they all try to pull white guys and won't go near black guys! So what exactly is the deal ladies? What's the fear or thing that puts you off?

Same question to the men.

Not wishing to offend, but as you mature so the colour of someone’s skin becomes less important, I can honestly say that I just don't notice the colour of someone, it's the overall persona of the person that attracts or precludes me, to my mind to be attracted to someone purely on the bases of the colour of their skin is narrow minded. Oh I speak from experience my first wife was South African and second was a Cayman Islander.

pubwrite08 District Heights, Maryland USA

Tue Jul 7, 2009 5:01 PM CST : is white the new black?

SuzyJ: This might be a contraversial topic but Im always up for a bit of banter...
Ok, I have a lot of african and in general black friends and if you've seen my profile then you also know my preferences. And if we're talking simply about aesthetics I think black is beautiful, and the blacker the better. Love the way the light bounces off the skin, big brown eyes (a sucker for it every time), big soft lips, muscular well defined bodies, strong features and many times soft exotic accents...mmm...love african food, music, dance and culture in all the forms I've encountered so far.

But it seems that black guys in general are not every womans cup of tea...my white girlfriends never want to date any of my black male friends and in fact if I go out with my black female friends they all try to pull white guys and won't go near black guys! So what exactly is the deal ladies? What's the fear or thing that puts you off?

Same question to the men.

I have dated white men all my life. I might have thrown a brother or two in the mix here and there. But I am more attracted to white men. Maybe because I was partially raised by one... I do not know, and I do not question it.

StressFree small city, Kalmar Sweden

Tue Jul 7, 2009 5:09 PM CST : is white the new black?

SuzyJ:

But it seems that black guys in general are not every womans cup of tea...my white girlfriends never want to date any of my black male friends and in fact if I go out with my black female friends they all try to pull white guys and won't go near black guys! So what exactly is the deal ladies? What's the fear or thing that puts you off?

Same question to the men.

It's the European way. Europe is light years behind America as far as this matter is concerned. Not to say it does not happen in America, but in general, it's a lot more accepted in America.

rizlared Pisa, Tuscany Italy

Tue Jul 7, 2009 5:17 PM CST : is white the new black?

StressFree: It's the European way. Europe is light years behind America as far as this matter is concerned. Not to say it does not happen in America, but in general, it's a lot more accepted in America.

I take your point but don't think you can say the whole of Europe, just some countries within the EU, certainly there is far less tolerance to coloured people here in Italy than in the UK

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