Whats catchy enough to get all of your attention

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SuzyJ The Hague, Zuid-Holland Netherlands

Tue Jun 30, 2009 7:22 PM CST : What's catchy enough to get all of your attention????

People...I was seeing a guy some time ago in the begin of the year for about a month. I broke it off because I couldnt take the guy seriously as a partner but he was a cool guy and since we both go to the same horse riding place each week we decided to stay friends - or so I thot on my side! Now he got another girlfriend directly after - and this was fine - however since he had her, and since we were good friends as far as I was concerned, he used me as a sounding board for all his relationship issues. The guy plays around with other women, thats his business and one of the reasons why I didnt want to get too involved but since the other girl knowingly cheated with him behind my back I didn't take them seriously, either of them. I just tried to remain neutral and be friends with him - now I never went to his place that much or hassled him but tonight I was in a bit of a fix and needed to drop by for a bit and he said to come round....when I got there someone else answered the door and refused to let me in saying he was not there where it had never been a problem before. I didn't believe he wasn't there and said so and that I thot it was shitty that he would tell me it was ok to come and then ignore me, bad manners, and not manly in my opinion. Well despite his friends lying to my face in the end I found out from him he was actually there...so all along he has been pretending to be friends and not. Now this kind of thing seems like such a waste of time and effort but why do people do it?? Why not just make excuses before inviting me round?

Well...I think this guy is a two timer and cheat in every sense, not only to his women but also to people he calls his friends and I think he deserves a little comeback. Please - advise and possible ideas of retribution are greatly appreciated at this time :)

I already thot of ordering lots of dominos pizzas from his address

seriously tho...his girlfriend needs to know something about his behaviour but I doubt she is going to believe me as she no doubt will be under the assumption Im just out to cause problems as revenge, where Im not...how do you go to someone like that reveal to them the truth when they think you have a hidden agenda...I thot about tapin him on my mobile phone camera complaining and then letting her see/hear it....its not good what he's saying about her but Im a very loyal person to my friends so I didnt go to her before....what can I do?

lookin4ubabe Yakima, Washington USA

Tue Jun 30, 2009 11:54 PM CST : What's catchy enough to get all of your attention????

In my opinion....let it go!!! You don't need that bad energy around you...it's a waste of time. There is nothing to accomplish by getting him back, someone will get hurt. I know it hurts you but....there are two kinds of people in this world the kind that lift you up or tear you down...what kind do you want to be? JMO

Thanks for sharing tho....

SuzyJ The Hague, Zuid-Holland Netherlands

Wed Jul 1, 2009 12:51 AM CST : What's catchy enough to get all of your attention????

well I can understand you ladies dont get the situation but fear not, Im far from being broken hearted over this one

the truth is Im just not that into him in that way so it wouldnt be possible

Well as for remaining friends - as mentioned we have to spend a lot of time together since we both go to the same riding school - Come on ladies - we're adults here. I thought most adult, mature people let the little things slip and moved on?

I'm not about to let someone make me move away from something I love or act like a child and not be friendly/friends with them over such a petty issue - so with respect I think the commentary isn't that good. But each to their own...if allowing people to bully you away from the things and places you love, and ignoring everyone you feel slights you works for you then by all means, do it.

NeWildflower Scottsbluff, Nebraska USA

Wed Jul 1, 2009 1:04 AM CST : What's catchy enough to get all of your attention????

SuzyJ: well I can understand you ladies dont get the situation but fear not, Im far from being broken hearted over this one the truth is Im just not that into him in that way so it wouldnt be possible

Well as for remaining friends - as mentioned we have to spend a lot of time together since we both go to the same riding school - Come on ladies - we're adults here. I thought most adult, mature people let the little things slip and moved on? I'm not about to let someone make me move away from something I love or act like a child and not be friendly/friends with them over such a petty issue - so with respect I think the commentary isn't that good. But each to their own...if allowing people to bully you away from the things and places you love, and ignoring everyone you feel slights you works for you then by all means, do it.

Actually you're right, adults do let the little things slip and move on.. they don't sit around plotting revenge and asking others to help them do it. If you're not into him, you'd let it go and find someone else. Sounds like you ARE into him, he's NOT into you, and you're about to become the psycho/stalker ex that everyone hates. Do yourself a huge favor and forget him.

CaySea Follow the yellow brick road, Western Australia Australia

Wed Jul 1, 2009 1:15 AM CST : What's catchy enough to get all of your attention????

Why do you have to leave something you love over this if you dont exact your revenge. Let it be if you take revenge then he will need to avenge you and the whole thing could easily become a much bigger mess and someone will need to leave. Give him the cold shoulder if you must do anything. Mention to his new g/f if you must. Whether she believes you or not is up to her. Revenge usually hurts the avenger more than the avenged

seekndestroy Seattle, Washington USA

Wed Jul 1, 2009 1:41 AM CST : What's catchy enough to get all of your attention????

SuzyJ: People...I was seeing a guy some time ago in the begin of the year for about a month. I broke it off because I couldnt take the guy seriously as a partner but he was a cool guy and since we both go to the same horse riding place each week we decided to stay friends - or so I thot on my side! Now he got another girlfriend directly after - and this was fine - however since he had her, and since we were good friends as far as I was concerned, he used me as a sounding board for all his relationship issues. The guy plays around with other women, thats his business and one of the reasons why I didnt want to get too involved but since the other girl knowingly cheated with him behind my back I didn't take them seriously, either of them. I just tried to remain neutral and be friends with him - now I never went to his place that much or hassled him but tonight I was in a bit of a fix and needed to drop by for a bit and he said to come round....when I got there someone else answered the door and refused to let me in saying he was not there where it had never been a problem before. I didn't believe he wasn't there and said so and that I thot it was shitty that he would tell me it was ok to come and then ignore me, bad manners, and not manly in my opinion. Well despite his friends lying to my face in the end I found out from him he was actually there...so all along he has been pretending to be friends and not. Now this kind of thing seems like such a waste of time and effort but why do people do it?? Why not just make excuses before inviting me round?

Well...I think this guy is a two timer and cheat in every sense, not only to his women but also to people he calls his friends and I think he deserves a little comeback. Please - advise and possible ideas of retribution are greatly appreciated at this time :)

I already thot of ordering lots of dominos pizzas from his address

seriously tho...his girlfriend needs to know something about his behaviour but I doubt she is going to believe me as she no doubt will be under the assumption Im just out to cause problems as revenge, where Im not...how do you go to someone like that reveal to them the truth when they think you have a hidden agenda...I thot about tapin him on my mobile phone camera complaining and then letting her see/hear it....its not good what he's saying about her but Im a very loyal person to my friends so I didnt go to her before....what can I do?

hell hath no fury like a woman's scorn comes to mind....hence why some of us are learning its best to stay single thus living in peace !!!!!

SuzyJ The Hague, Zuid-Holland Netherlands

Wed Jul 1, 2009 3:18 AM CST : What's catchy enough to get all of your attention????

Hehehe if he behaves like a child is it so strange that he's treated as one? I love how the ladies all think there's some denial thing going on with regards to the love feelings! Ok...I was having some fun and venting when I got home last night but this was totally the WRONG place to do it as so many people take themselves way too seriously to have a joke and a laugh.

Personally I think I'll just order him 10 pizza's from domino's and sit back and have a giggle with my girls over it

seekndestroy Seattle, Washington USA

Wed Jul 1, 2009 4:12 AM CST : What's catchy enough to get all of your attention????

SuzyJ: Hehehe if he behaves like a child is it so strange that he's treated as one? I love how the ladies all think there's some denial thing going on with regards to the love feelings! Ok...I was having some fun and venting when I got home last night but this was totally the WRONG place to do it as so many people take themselves way too seriously to have a joke and a laugh.

Personally I think I'll just order him 10 pizza's from domino's and sit back and have a giggle with my girls over it

actually i thought it was funny .... still i think most guys dont even think of stuff like that....

we just move on....

... and start dating your friends instead !!!!!

SuzyJ The Hague, Zuid-Holland Netherlands

Wed Jul 1, 2009 4:16 AM CST : What's catchy enough to get all of your attention????

seekndestroy: actually i thought it was funny .... still i think most guys dont even think of stuff like that....

we just move on....

... and start dating your friends instead !!!!!

Now there's an image! Most of my friends are guys!

seekndestroy Seattle, Washington USA

Wed Jul 1, 2009 4:20 AM CST : What's catchy enough to get all of your attention????

SuzyJ: Now there's an image! Most of my friends are guys!

well.... i didnt say i'd stoop that low but i suppose some may....

im sure there is a female in the group !!!!

maybe a sister or female cousin or something !!!!!

SuzyJ The Hague, Zuid-Holland Netherlands

Wed Jul 1, 2009 4:25 AM CST : What's catchy enough to get all of your attention????

seekndestroy: well.... i didnt say i'd stoop that low but i suppose some may....

im sure there is a female in the group !!!!

maybe a sister or female cousin or something !!!!!

Actually its entirely possible that he would date either a guy or a gal I know since he swings both ways

I just realised I don't have any female cousins either! And he's welcome to try anything with my sisters

they will chew him up and spit him back out again...love my sis's

seekndestroy Seattle, Washington USA

Wed Jul 1, 2009 4:30 AM CST : What's catchy enough to get all of your attention????

SuzyJ: Actually its entirely possible that he would date either a guy or a gal I know since he swings both ways

I just realised I don't have any female cousins either! And he's welcome to try anything with my sisters they will chew him up and spit him back out again...love my sis's

yeah?

funny how that works....

i've heard many people say: my sister/daughter/cousin/friend/ acquaintance/co-worker/etc would never date him and would tear him apart, or chew him up and spit him out in pieces, blah blah blah blah blah....

...yet inevitably they all ended up dating the guy without the tearing and chewing!!!!!

if one of my ex's were to go after one of my friends, i'd just warn him not to be an idiot, but if he still wanted in, i'd give him pointers !!!!!!

Music_Is_Life Southend, Essex, England UK

Wed Jul 1, 2009 4:33 AM CST : What's catchy enough to get all of your attention????

seekndestroy: well.... i didnt say i'd stoop that low but i suppose some may....

im sure there is a female in the group !!!!

maybe a sister or female cousin or something !!!!!

I think that coming from Washington your used to dating sisters and cousins. Keeps it all in the family. Sounds like something off Jerry Springer.

SuzyJ: Actually its entirely possible that he would date either a guy or a gal I know since he swings both ways

I just realised I don't have any female cousins either! And he's welcome to try anything with my sisters they will chew him up and spit him back out again...love my sis's

Why don't you go for the Dad? That would be revenge indeed. You could become his step Mom and really screw with him

seekndestroy Seattle, Washington USA

Wed Jul 1, 2009 4:37 AM CST : What's catchy enough to get all of your attention????

Music_Is_Life: I think that coming from Washington your used to dating sisters and cousins. Keeps it all in the family. Sounds like something off Jerry Springer

well it is true that inbreeding is rampant in some places here in the US.... but mostly in the South where family trees tend to have just one branch straight up and down !!!!!

but here in the NW its actually quite different.... to many liberals who think they have a god given right to be snotty and bitchy....

needless to say.. i dont date much !!!!!

SuzyJ The Hague, Zuid-Holland Netherlands

Wed Jul 1, 2009 4:56 AM CST : What's catchy enough to get all of your attention????

Music_Is_Life:

Why don't you go for the Dad? That would be revenge indeed. You could become his step Mom and really screw with him

Nooooo no no...thats malicious and besides...his dad isn't my type. Im talkin about having a giggle at his expense...not fucking with his mind or other people's...it'd be pretty low to date someone only to hurt another person and not because you really liked them....thats just not my style...inannimate objects like pizza can't get hurt.

Peace

rodolpho amsterdam, Noord-Holland Netherlands

Wed Jul 1, 2009 5:11 AM CST : What's catchy enough to get all of your attention????

One golden rule

All is fair in love and war.

Trap the bastard and tape him.

btw you're cute suzy.

ContraryCol crawley, West Sussex, England UK

Wed Jul 1, 2009 6:19 AM CST : What's catchy enough to get all of your attention????

SuzyJ: People...I was seeing a guy some time ago in the begin of the year for about a month. I broke it off because I couldnt take the guy seriously as a partner but he was a cool guy and since we both go to the same horse riding place each week we decided to stay friends - or so I thot on my side! Now he got another girlfriend directly after - and this was fine - however since he had her, and since we were good friends as far as I was concerned, he used me as a sounding board for all his relationship issues. The guy plays around with other women, thats his business and one of the reasons why I didnt want to get too involved but since the other girl knowingly cheated with him behind my back I didn't take them seriously, either of them. I just tried to remain neutral and be friends with him - now I never went to his place that much or hassled him but tonight I was in a bit of a fix and needed to drop by for a bit and he said to come round....when I got there someone else answered the door and refused to let me in saying he was not there where it had never been a problem before. I didn't believe he wasn't there and said so and that I thot it was shitty that he would tell me it was ok to come and then ignore me, bad manners, and not manly in my opinion. Well despite his friends lying to my face in the end I found out from him he was actually there...so all along he has been pretending to be friends and not. Now this kind of thing seems like such a waste of time and effort but why do people do it?? Why not just make excuses before inviting me round?

Well...I think this guy is a two timer and cheat in every sense, not only to his women but also to people he calls his friends and I think he deserves a little comeback. Please - advise and possible ideas of retribution are greatly appreciated at this time :)

I already thot of ordering lots of dominos pizzas from his address

seriously tho...his girlfriend needs to know something about his behaviour but I doubt she is going to believe me as she no doubt will be under the assumption Im just out to cause problems as revenge, where Im not...how do you go to someone like that reveal to them the truth when they think you have a hidden agenda...I thot about tapin him on my mobile phone camera complaining and then letting her see/hear it....its not good what he's saying about her but Im a very loyal person to my friends so I didnt go to her before....what can I do?

ContraryCol crawley, West Sussex, England UK

Wed Jul 1, 2009 6:22 AM CST : What's catchy enough to get all of your attention????

It sounds like the man is very immature and that he was just playing manipulative and controlling games with you.
He needs to grow up and your right to consider him a waste of your time and effort.
A manipulator/player is very selfish at heart.
As for this new girlfriend I would leave her to find out in her own time because the bint was complicite in his cheating on you.
Simples.

SuzyJ The Hague, Zuid-Holland Netherlands

Wed Jul 1, 2009 7:48 AM CST : What's catchy enough to get all of your attention????

ContraryCol: It sounds like the man is very immature and that he was just playing manipulative and controlling games with you.
He needs to grow up and your right to consider him a waste of your time and effort.
A manipulator/player is very selfish at heart.
As for this new girlfriend I would leave her to find out in her own time because the bint was complicite in his cheating on you.
Simples.

Nice analysis

ContraryCol crawley, West Sussex, England UK

Thu Jul 2, 2009 2:19 PM CST : What's catchy enough to get all of your attention????

In response to: What's catchy enough to get all of your attention????

Theres got to be a physical attraction combined with similationg conversation,honesty,openness and a real possibility of actually meeting the person and having some form of a relationship with.
Otherwise its a waste of time thinking on those terms.

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