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seekndestroy: roger that.... im not one to assume that weight equals laziness or even unhealthy status.... i too have had to battle weight gain as a result of injury and im still currently in need to drop 20 or so lbs.... im on the gym 5 times a week and playing ball 3 others... so definitely fighting the battle, my biggest problem is i love carbs and sugar, so if i stop working out even for a week or two, i start to baloon up....

bottom line is when you look at someone across the room or the pics on a dating site, you dont know them and even after reading a profile or having a short conversation you are still not going to know them... so what draws you to someone is simple physical attraction and size plays a significant part in it... i think everyone operates like this yet most feel that actually saying it is somehow wrong... then we all get frustrated when we get "rejected" without a valid reason.... personally i'd prefer someone to tell me: "i think you are too fat, too ugly, too much of a jerk.." or whatever else... at least then i'd have something to fix (if it can be fixed) if i decided it was important enough....

tgwstw: I take the guy with the biggest .
Ideally.

tgwstw: I take the guy with the biggest .
Ideally.

tgwstw: I take the guy with the biggest .
Ideally.

mbcasey: Good luck with the weight loss program...

I don't need for someone to tell me I am too fat for them, because I am uncomfortable with my weight as it is now.

The only one I need to hear anything from about my weight is me. I know that sounds altruistic and somewhat phony, but it is true. Besides, there are a ton of reasons why women reject me regardless how much I weigh...

You are right though...physical attraction is a main part of dating, no matter what anyone says. Why do dating sites allow pictures then if it wasn't true? Why do men and women say in their profiles, no picture, do not contact? There is nothing wrong with physical attraction. I do think it is wrong to base a decision entirely on physical appearance though.

I love carbs and sugar too...but I was just diagnosed with type 2 diabetes, so be careful...

rodolpho: Watch freaks of cock and I am sure you will cahge your mind.

ThePositiveOne: I want to give you your "blunt answer", however, I'm not sure what your definition of thin is... So I'll say thinner. I really am not that attracted to women that are too thin. But then, my perception of too thin is going to be different than every other man. I like curves...

tgwstw: Lmao.
It's like this, I am very confident. I know I am no super model, but I scrub up well and I value myself.
It's fundamentally how YOU feel in your OWN skin, fuck what anyone else thinks.
I am healthy enough, pretty enough, and there in the right places.

Now I could care less if a guy were overweight, as long as the face is good and the body is clean.

As I, for one know that it's good to have a little extra, than too little.

ThePositiveOne: I want to give you your "blunt answer", however, I'm not sure what your definition of thin is... So I'll say thinner. I really am not that attracted to women that are too thin. But then, my perception of too thin is going to be different than every other man. I like curves...

tgwstw: Lmao.
It's like this, I am very confident. I know I am no super model, but I scrub up well and I value myself.
It's fundamentally how YOU feel in your OWN skin, fuck what anyone else thinks.
I am healthy enough, pretty enough, and there in the right places.

Now I could care less if a guy were overweight, as long as the face is good and the body is clean.

As I, for one know that it's good to have a little extra, than too little.

rodolpho: I do give a fuck what others think cos Im judged in that manner.

Just wait until your in a court of law and I'll bet you do care.

tgwstw: Well I think if I someone every judged me harshly, I might care.
But no-one ever does, so I think it's all about how I see and project myself.
Positivity and all that shit.

rodolpho: Good one.

its how you will project yourself how others will judge you...

Im not holy saying I dont judge.I do.

And I judge you to be right.

seekndestroy: ok i'm getting tired of everyone's political correctness with this whole attraction/weight issue....

i know we all like reassurance and to feel good about ourselves and that it is not PC to be blunt these days because we are afraid to hurt other's feelings.... so now as soon as the weight issue is brought up in the form of "would you date a large men/woman?" or "what type are you attracted to?" people immediately start giving the PC answer: "well it's all about personality, sure looks are a consideration, but they are nothing without a good personality...or its all about health not size....blah blah blah"

ok people, YOU ARE DIVERTING THE ISSUE AND THUS AVOIDING THE QUESTION!!!!

so let's make this very specific and see who has the set to answer it bluntly!!!

you have the opportunity to date your dream woman/men. we are talking the perfect personality, looks, health, income, job, goals, values, etc etc....

one has no fat whatsoever and the other cant see his/her toes if he/she looks down

again remember, health, sexual performance, personality, goals, values, etc are the SAME for both....ideal !!!

no ifs ands or buts, just a simple thin or fat will suffice

which do you pick?

i'd take thin without a second's hesitation