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druidess6308 Reverse, Pennsylvania USA
A thought occurred to me just a couple of minutes ago as I told a friend of mine that I love her...why is it okay for women to tell their female friends that we love each other, but men feel weird telling their male friends that they love them? They can say it to their female friends, but feel that they'll be perceived as "gay" if they say it to their male friends.

Is it only in the US, or is it a world-wide thing? I know European men kiss each other on the cheeks, just as they do the women...but do you tell your male friends that you love them?
mexikanska Cancún, Quintana Roo Mexico
druidess6308: A thought occurred to me just a couple of minutes ago as I told a friend of mine that I love her...why is it okay for women to tell their female friends that we love each other, but men feel weird telling their male friends that they love them? They can say it to their female friends, but feel that they'll be perceived as "gay" if they say it to their male friends.

Is it only in the US, or is it a world-wide thing? I know European men kiss each other on the cheeks, just as they do the women...but do you tell your male friends that you love them?

For men is very difficult to say "I love you" even to the woman they love.....
Afraid to commitmen???...who knows, only themdunno



BOBANBOBAN Pozarevac City, Central Serbia Serbia
druidess6308: A thought occurred to me just a couple of minutes ago as I told a friend of mine that I love her...why is it okay for women to tell their female friends that we love each other, but men feel weird telling their male friends that they love them? They can say it to their female friends, but feel that they'll be perceived as "gay" if they say it to their male friends.

Is it only in the US, or is it a world-wide thing? I know European men kiss each other on the cheeks, just as they do the women...but do you tell your male friends that you love them?


jaw drop shock

i would rather have a swimm with the sharks...
I LOVE U all my CS male friends .........not all girls grin grin kiss wave bouquet
druidess6308 Reverse, Pennsylvania USA
BOBANBOBAN: i would rather have a swimm with the sharks...


But that's my point...why? dunno
druidess6308 Reverse, Pennsylvania USA
mexikanska: For men is very difficult to say "I love you" even to the woman they love.....
Afraid to commitmen???...who knows, only them


I do understand that's hard for some men, though they can say it to their female friends and their mothers easily enough. laugh
druidess6308 Reverse, Pennsylvania USA
jashcd: I LOVE U all my CS male friends .........not all girls


Cool, Jash...and a cultural point, I think. Which is the other thing I'm curious about. This is, after all, an international forum, and I don't know if this is different in other parts of the world.

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mexikanska: For men is very difficult to say "I love you" even to the woman they love.....
Afraid to commitmen???...who knows, only them


for man there is no problem for commitment but the problem for right person ........... then only tough allow to say LOVE u .......kiss kiss
ali110 karachi, Sindh Pakistan
druidess6308: A thought occurred to me just a couple of minutes ago as I told a friend of mine that I love her...why is it okay for women to tell their female friends that we love each other, but men feel weird telling their male friends that they love them? They can say it to their female friends, but feel that they'll be perceived as "gay" if they say it to their male friends.

Is it only in the US, or is it a world-wide thing? I know European men kiss each other on the cheeks, just as they do the women...but do you tell your male friends that you love them?
Dru ,Also men love each other as well as kiss each other
it depends upon the friends that
how they are close to each other
We all are same ,God made us same
same brain ,heart ,body,feelings,thinkings and sex
Just there is only diffrence of culture it makes it
a little bit diffrent.
comfort



Snuggs09 Livingston, New Jersey USA
druidess6308: A thought occurred to me just a couple of minutes ago as I told a friend of mine that I love her...why is it okay for women to tell their female friends that we love each other, but men feel weird telling their male friends that they love them? They can say it to their female friends, but feel that they'll be perceived as "gay" if they say it to their male friends.

Is it only in the US, or is it a world-wide thing? I know European men kiss each other on the cheeks, just as they do the women...but do you tell your male friends that you love them?


wave Hi Dru. Just last night I watched a movie where two men were friends. One of the men was talking about a problem and his male friend said that he could talk to him about anything. The problemed guy didn't say anything. The guy who said he loved him said "I love you, don't you understand that". It was a true friendship....not a Brokeback Mountain love.

I personally am not fond of women saying they love me other than my daughter. If a man sent me an email and writes "luv" I take that with fondness. If he writes "love" it bothers me.

IMO the word "love" is over used.



BOBANBOBAN Pozarevac City, Central Serbia Serbia
druidess6308: But that's my point...why?


its not really a problem to say it in a form of a joke...

but beeing serios.....Dru... common...Am still a cave man...

uh oh
rizlared Pisa, Tuscany Italy
druidess6308: A thought occurred to me just a couple of minutes ago as I told a friend of mine that I love her...why is it okay for women to tell their female friends that we love each other, but men feel weird telling their male friends that they love them? They can say it to their female friends, but feel that they'll be perceived as "gay" if they say it to their male friends.

Is it only in the US, or is it a world-wide thing? I know European men kiss each other on the cheeks, just as they do the women...but do you tell your male friends that you love them?


I'm European, and never ever kiss men, I am very secure in my sexuality, but my "Britishness" precludes me from this demonstrative act, Dru you have raised a thought that I discussed the other day, in that, now I am living in Italy where men kiss each other and also walk arm in arm as a normal occurrence, I have notice that they are also very touchy feely with the opposite sex, not as a flirtatious action but because "They can". Because I struggle to understand the language I rely almost entirely on body language and find even that can be very misleading.
I think that because the culture is all about hand and body language, it differs greatly from the culture of Britain and therefore America, where there is a real lack of sexual confidence, which leads to the scared emotions about homosexuality.
druidess6308: Cool, Jash...and a cultural point, I think. Which is the other thing I'm curious about. This is, after all, an international forum, and I don't know if this is different in other parts of the world.


hi druidess ..... today love day grin grin ... for me usually if i like some one very much then i tell them i love your character and u ..... i dont care male or female ....
some people afraid to use the word LOVe bcoz they think its only for life partner thats the problem ...
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druidess6308 Reverse, Pennsylvania USA
rizlared: I'm European, and never ever kiss men, I am very secure in my sexuality, but my "Britishness" precludes me from this demonstrative act, Dru you have raised a thought that I discussed the other day, in that, now I am living in Italy where men kiss each other and also walk arm in arm as a normal occurrence, I have notice that they are also very touchy feely with the opposite sex, not as a flirtatious action but because "They can". Because I struggle to understand the language I rely almost entirely on body language and find even that can be very misleading.
I think that because the culture is all about hand and body language, it differs greatly from the culture of Britain and therefore America, where there is a real lack of sexual confidence, which leads to the scared emotions about homosexuality.


An interesting observation, Riz. I remember from a college course on body language that Brits have the largest area of personal space when they meet, even amongst close friends, and Arabs have the least, they are usually almost nose to nose with each other. Americans have a slightly smaller area of personal space than Brits, and areas like France and Italy just slightly more than Arabs. That's what led me to this question.

In America, close female friends hug each other, close friends of opposite genders hug each other, but close male friends do not. And I wanted to see how all of this related to the ability to say "I love you" amongst friends in other parts of the world.
druidess6308 Reverse, Pennsylvania USA
Snuggs09: Hi Dru. Just last night I watched a movie where two men were friends. One of the men was talking about a problem and his male friend said that he could talk to him about anything. The problemed guy didn't say anything. The guy who said he loved him said "I love you, don't you understand that". It was a true friendship....not a Brokeback Mountain love.

I personally am not fond of women saying they love me other than my daughter. If a man sent me an email and writes "luv" I take that with fondness. If he writes "love" it bothers me.

IMO the word "love" is over used.


That's rare, though, Snuggs...at least in this country. For the men, that is. Yes, there are some like you who aren't comfortable with it at all, and it's something I respect if I know that...though it does make me wonder why. But that's because I'm eternally curious about people and what makes everyone tick. grin

And I disagree...I think that the word love is underused. We don't say it often enough to our friends and family. But again, that's me.

I do think it's overused by some romantically, but that's not what this is about. I don't think it can be overused by friends. We all need to hear it and know that we're loved.

hug
druidess6308 Reverse, Pennsylvania USA
jashcd: hi druidess ..... today love day ... for me usually if i like some one very much then i tell them i love your character and u ..... i dont care male or female ....
some people afraid to use the word LOVe bcoz they think its only for life partner thats the problem ...


I agree, Jash. If you care deeply about someone in any way, you should be able to say that you love them, regardless of gender.
druidess6308 Reverse, Pennsylvania USA
BOBANBOBAN: its not really a problem to say it in a form of a joke...

but beeing serios.....Dru... common...Am still a cave man...
rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing Boban, I'll bet there's a softer side to you than you like to let on. wink

bouquet
druidess6308 Reverse, Pennsylvania USA
ali110: Dru ,Also men love each other as well as kiss each other
it depends upon the friends that
how they are close to each other
We all are same ,God made us same
same brain ,heart ,body,feelings,thinkings and sex
Just there is only diffrence of culture it makes it
a little bit diffrent.


Well put, Ali. And I'm seeing a cultural difference between you and Jash, from Arab/Middle Eastern nations where close contact is more common and there is less personal space, and those where there is more personal space. This is what I wondered.

And I'm not saying that any of it is right or wrong...this was purely to see how it is in different parts of the world.



nfowler nowhere, Washington USA
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druidess6308 Reverse, Pennsylvania USA
nfowler: I love you guys your the best
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And by the way, welcome back. bouquet




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