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Corey323 Kunkletown, Pennsylvania USA
Ok so I started dating again, I met someone from another website. She is pretty cool and a little attractive but she explained to me before we met that she currently had a boyfriend but i met her anyway. I had some interest in her especially after we had sex on the first date. But 2 days later I find out she is actually living with this guy. She fell in love with me right away and I said some things I didnt mean to say like we made promises. Anyway one night I came all the way up to her friends house. All a sudden she gets a phone call her friend needs help with his truck she leaves right away not taking anybody with to help including me. So she comes back an hour later sits down gives me a cheezy story why she has to go home. Is it just me or does that sound messed up? So on my hour drive home I decide to call this other girl Sam from the same website. To make things clear I had no intention of meeting Sam, I really liked Steph.
So me and Sam talked to hours after I been ditched and she made me feel so much better. So I met her a week later and fell in love with her. So the next day I told Steph im breaking up with her. She begged and pleaded for days to give her a second chance. She was so messed up I felt bad so I told her I would meet her as friends so we did. After I heard Stephs apology I gave in, I gave her another chance. Then I broke up with her again the next day, I felt like I murdered her.
So I expained to her that I want to date Sam and hang out with her at the same time, if she doesnt like it then walk away. So she is cool with it we hung out 3 times after that. We didnt do anything besides makeout but the last time we didnt even do that cause I care about Sam.
I know what im doing isnt right cause im lying to Sam cause I told Sam I didnt want nothing to do with Steph. If I tell Sam she wont talk to me anymore. If I dont I have to live with that lie if we go any further. Anybody got anything to say about this? cause my head is in a damn knot just thinking about it. I would most appreciate it.
tgwstw Cork, Cork Ireland
Corey323: Ok so I started dating again, I met someone from another website. She is pretty cool and a little attractive but she explained to me before we met that she currently had a boyfriend but i met her anyway. I had some interest in her especially after we had sex on the first date. But 2 days later I find out she is actually living with this guy. She fell in love with me right away and I said some things I didnt mean to say like we made promises. Anyway one night I came all the way up to her friends house. All a sudden she gets a phone call her friend needs help with his truck she leaves right away not taking anybody with to help including me. So she comes back an hour later sits down gives me a cheezy story why she has to go home. Is it just me or does that sound messed up? So on my hour drive home I decide to call this other girl Sam from the same website. To make things clear I had no intention of meeting Sam, I really liked Steph.
So me and Sam talked to hours after I been ditched and she made me feel so much better. So I met her a week later and fell in love with her. So the next day I told Steph im breaking up with her. She begged and pleaded for days to give her a second chance. She was so messed up I felt bad so I told her I would meet her as friends so we did. After I heard Stephs apology I gave in, I gave her another chance. Then I broke up with her again the next day, I felt like I murdered her.
So I expained to her that I want to date Sam and hang out with her at the same time, if she doesnt like it then walk away. So she is cool with it we hung out 3 times after that. We didnt do anything besides makeout but the last time we didnt even do that cause I care about Sam.
I know what im doing isnt right cause im lying to Sam cause I told Sam I didnt want nothing to do with Steph. If I tell Sam she wont talk to me anymore. If I dont I have to live with that lie if we go any further. Anybody got anything to say about this? cause my head is in a damn knot just thinking about it. I would most appreciate it.

Simple case of wanting your cake and eating it.
Which is the most void saying ever, as what's the point of having cake if ya ain't going to eat it.
Dump the girl who cheated on the guy, to bump pelvises with you.
Continue with the girl who seems sound enough, although to be honest she deserves A LOT more from you.
But judge not less ye be judged.
However, you're fucking around and from someone who knows ALL about making bad decisions, no good will come of it.
So you have three options, you can keep on being an indecisive ass and string both along, you can choose one, or you can ditch both.

My advice, choose one.
sxc666 Central Coast, New South Wales Australia
The game playing needs to stop.


Man up and decide who you want to be with.


It sounds like one big immature merry go round IMO.
TLC69 duncannon, Pennsylvania USA
tgwstw: Simple case of wanting your cake and eating it.
Which is the most void saying ever, as what's the point of having cake if ya ain't going to eat it.
Dump the girl who cheated on the guy, to bump pelvises with you.
Continue with the girl who seems sound enough, although to be honest she deserves A LOT more from you.
But judge not less ye be judged.
However, you're fucking around and from someone who knows ALL about making bad decisions, no good will come of it.
So you have three options, you can keep on being an indecisive ass and string both along, you can choose one, or you can ditch both.

My advice, choose one.


Spot on!
Corey323 Kunkletown, Pennsylvania USA
Yeah I know Sam is a really good person but I think she might be cheating on me as well
tgwstw Cork, Cork Ireland
Corey323: Yeah I know Sam is a really good person but I think she might be cheating on me as well

Well then cop on to yourself, you're young like I am.
If your gut tells you something trust it.
Don't stick around.
But the thing is, suspicion haunts the guilty.

Oh the psychology of it all!
bamma882 baltimore, Maryland USA
Playing with people's minds is wrong. Plus why stay with the girl that cheated on her boyfriend with you? She will do the same to you. Go with the girl that you said made you happy, stop being dumb and think man.



virgiomonkey Auckland, Auckland New Zealand
...........Hmmmmmmm......Just seems to me like a 'Big can of Worms' caused by immaturity.......by all parties concerned....There is a Dutch saying....'He who burns his Bum,as to sit on the Blisters'....Stop been a Wimp and front up,be a 'Man'....be honest....if there is fall out because of your actions....again be a 'Man'....take it and suck it up....and learn from your mistakes and move on.....

J.D cheers
seekndestroy Seattle, Washington USA
...or meet them both at the same time and see what happens....

at worse you get slapped by both....

and at best you'd have one hell of a follow-up post to put in here !!!!! and you BETTER post it !!!! rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing

just remember, if you follow my advice, you'll be perpetuating the "men are pigs" stereotype.....

so i guess the question you need to answer is: are you?

cool
seekndestroy Seattle, Washington USA
seekndestroy: ...or meet them both at the same time and see what happens....

at worse you get slapped by both....

and at best you'd have one hell of a follow-up post to put in here !!!!! and you BETTER post it !!!!

just remember, if you follow my advice, you'll be perpetuating the "men are pigs" stereotype.....

so i guess the question you need to answer is: are you?



...oh i forgot !!!


MCP !!!!

grin



virgiomonkey Auckland, Auckland New Zealand
seekndestroy: ...oh i forgot !!!MCP !!!!


...............rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing thumbs up ................

J.D....M.C.Pgrin devil
tgwstw Cork, Cork Ireland
bamma882: Playing with people's minds is wrong. Plus why stay with the girl that cheated on her boyfriend with you? She will do the same to you. Go with the girl that you said made you happy, stop being dumb and think man.

Yup.
Ya see, I'm no fecking angel but I never got how people like, have affairs for months and months, where both or one has a spouse.

Then they expect to someday ride off into the sunset and set up a brand new and shiny relationship when they are in the knowledge of one or possibly both of them cheating on their previous spouses?!

I mean what the hell.

Talk about from the fire pan into the fire.

I don't think any healthy relationship ever really comes out of cheating.

Now as I said, I'm no angel but I'm pretty sure I can't build a relationship built on trust when that person cheated to be with me.
Corey323 Kunkletown, Pennsylvania USA
I know I be the pig, one thing though is it cheating if you just hang out with no sex but yet sleeping in the same bed?
tgwstw Cork, Cork Ireland
Corey323: I know I be the pig, one thing though is it cheating if you just hang out with no sex but yet sleeping in the same bed?

If you have to ask that question then you know there is a possibility more will happen.
Doubt is your conscience telling you that you ought to tread carefully.



virgiomonkey Auckland, Auckland New Zealand
Corey323: I know I be the pig, one thing though is it cheating if you just hang out with no sex but yet sleeping in the same bed?


............What the..!!!!!...Reverse the situation ...How would you feel,if your so called Girlfriend sleeps with another Guy....and says we just hang out together sometimes,but we had no sex....'Hello'..Where is your 'Head Space'...Wouldn't you be slightly pissed off.????.Yes...????.....No.....?????.......doh doh doh

J.D...M.C.P grin devil
TLC69 duncannon, Pennsylvania USA
Corey323: I know I be the pig, one thing though is it cheating if you just hang out with no sex but yet sleeping in the same bed?

Infidelity can be an emotional or physical relationship, so if your not willing to devote yourself to one woman....your not ready to try.

Love yourself and the right girl will come when you are out being yourself.

Good luck
tgwstw Cork, Cork Ireland
virgiomonkey: ............What the..!!!!!...Reverse the situation ...How would you feel,if your so called Girlfriend sleeps with another Guy....and says we just hang out together sometimes,but we had no sex....'Hello'..Where is your 'Head Space'...Wouldn't you be slightly pissed off.????.Yes...????.....No.....?????.......

J.D...M.C.P


Exactly.
applause
Corey323 Kunkletown, Pennsylvania USA
I gotta see first if Sam is who she says she is or else I might make a mistake. I dont have proof anybody is cheating if yah only knew the situation that could take days. I go for girls that are less attractive to me but not ugly if you know what I mean. That way they are more attached to me and do anything I know it sounds fucked up but im really not that bad of a guy I swear.



FreshFilly Sydney, New South Wales Australia
Corey323: Ok so I started dating again, I met someone from another website. She is pretty cool and a little attractive but she explained to me before we met that she currently had a boyfriend but i met her anyway. I had some interest in her especially after we had sex on the first date. But 2 days later I find out she is actually living with this guy. She fell in love with me right away and I said some things I didnt mean to say like we made promises. Anyway one night I came all the way up to her friends house. All a sudden she gets a phone call her friend needs help with his truck she leaves right away not taking anybody with to help including me. So she comes back an hour later sits down gives me a cheezy story why she has to go home. Is it just me or does that sound messed up? So on my hour drive home I decide to call this other girl Sam from the same website. To make things clear I had no intention of meeting Sam, I really liked Steph.
So me and Sam talked to hours after I been ditched and she made me feel so much better. So I met her a week later and fell in love with her. So the next day I told Steph im breaking up with her. She begged and pleaded for days to give her a second chance. She was so messed up I felt bad so I told her I would meet her as friends so we did. After I heard Stephs apology I gave in, I gave her another chance. Then I broke up with her again the next day, I felt like I murdered her.
So I expained to her that I want to date Sam and hang out with her at the same time, if she doesnt like it then walk away. So she is cool with it we hung out 3 times after that. We didnt do anything besides makeout but the last time we didnt even do that cause I care about Sam.
I know what im doing isnt right cause im lying to Sam cause I told Sam I didnt want nothing to do with Steph. If I tell Sam she wont talk to me anymore. If I dont I have to live with that lie if we go any further. Anybody got anything to say about this? cause my head is in a damn knot just thinking about it. I would most appreciate it.

You are young and experiencing life. Sex is not love, it is sex which is ok between two consenting adults but when You are feeling these emotions of rejection from one it can exacerbate if You are not in control of Yourself and Your own emotions. You are not responsible for anothers feelings.
Best of luck
seekndestroy Seattle, Washington USA
Corey323: I know I be the pig, one thing though is it cheating if you just hang out with no sex but yet sleeping in the same bed?



i actually have a different word for that....


but its too early, just woke up and im not quite ready for the lynching yet !!!

cool




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