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Tricky question.

There is the situation of possibly parents wishing their children to pursue a certain occupation, and the child has different plans and wishes to be accepted for that.



There is the situation of someone wishing to change someone with no valid reason apart from just wanting a mini them.


There is the slob that wont get of their ass and its easier to sit around crying poor me and asking that people accept them.


Heaps of situations, it's hard to give a definite answer.

I accept most everyone, until one gives me a reason not to.

Same Here......

Asking anyone to accept you as you are, is like asking them to accept the past, and not be part of your present or future.

We change from second to second, hopefully move on and move forward, so even accepting yourself as you are, right in any given minute, is wrong.

I think it is an excuse for people to not bother changing, or to stay in some rut persona, or never accept growth again, or until they might be forced to, by life.

"As I am".........I mean if we really had to think about that truely, then what are we, in any given moment, except stagnant, until we move forward again, and in doing that accept change, whence we are no longer that person that we described a minute ago?

I was just wondering because I hear this from time to time and the first thing that pops into my head is-Yes, just as soon as they accept Jack the Ripper for who he was.

hmmmmmmmmm

How could people accept him, when they didn't know him as someone's friend, someone's son, his thought's aspirations, dreams, achievements etc, besides the obvious of course......

a lot of times I also use Ted Bundy but not many know who that is.

Wasnt he a serial killer....

Strange place your mind......

yes he was

Think fundamentally we need to be accepted for who we are, but that does not rule out change or compromise within a relationship

The thought though occurs to me that we might just be handing out a license to degrade....an example is the term Quality time not quantiy time. Sounded good when it was coined but now psychologists are saying that it became an okay for parents to neglect their families.

Is the phrase "Accept me for who I am" turning into another free card for people to become laxed in their responsibilities to society?

Well the fundamental importance of any human being is what they think of themselves.
I like me.
I don't want to change.

So ya, take me as I am as I'll never be what someone else wants me to be.

I change for my own reasons, no-one elses.

It's a case of being content in yourself.

love my imperfections because i have many..

I think this is one of the biggest problems in relationships... that people don´t accept a person as who they are but try to change them to conform to the idea of who they think they should be or how they should act.

I firmly believe in accepting a person exactly as is.... then I have the choice as to what position they hold in my life.... Aquaintance, friend or partner and how open I choose to be with them and to what degree I trust them and let them into my life.

it must be my lucky day

hi JB

Are we talking in relationships or an over all perspective on accepting someone for who they are.

Like you know someone murdered someone and they just want to be accepted because thats what they do?

but sxc its not what i do its who i ammmmm *whine*